where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 6)

[sincitylover]

thrilled to be kicking off part 6 on a sinful note lol

Blaming the vino for texting samename1 and asking him out - he text right back suggesting early this afternoon but don't think I can make it as am waiting for my brother who is coming down to help me swap washing machines and is always late bless him!

Then had a rather raunchy chat with young guy who have been in touch with for ages - trying to think of a nickname for him - very good looking - lives in your neck of the woods Lou. Think we might meet up soon.

At least resisted the urge to text exbf.

Ooh fish and chips, yum!

Sorry, pressed send too quick there.

What's SWK? And good to see you tortoise, welcome to the wonderful world of cyber men

It's a minefield out there but there really are some nice ones (men I mean).

Where are you based?

LOL @ rj. Well I never (but only cause I haven't had the opportunity he he).

Janos SWK is single with kids. Been meaning to join the thread for a while but was too scared lol!
I am in somerset.

Ah Somerset. Opposite end of the UK to me - I'm in bonny Scotland.

So, what are the pickings like down there ?

Haven't looked much so not sure! Have been looking on and off for over a year and got know where! probably not trying hard enough!!

Hi everyone and Welcome Tortoise
Asbm - thanks for sending all those frd men my way, I've had great fun perving trawling thru the profiles.
I winked 3 guys on frd and wondered why I'd had no men contacting me since I joined until asbm pointed out my profile was hidden! lol, anyway since unlocking it I've received a couple of winks but they were both munters! oh well the search continues.
Lou - Hope you feel better soon.

Oh and I've just managed to have an argument with exbf, even thought we aren't even back together.

I feel this does not bode well

Hi Ladies, can I ask, do you put that you have kids on your profile on dating sites? It's a follow on from a thread in chat where the opinion seems to be that it's safer not to mention your kids until you get to know someone better?

I'm very new and somewhat naive to internet dating and you all seem to know what you're doing!...

Advice appreciated.

You don't have to put that you have DC's if you feel uncomfortable with it. Think my profile says something like 'happy mum of one teen'. Never did it when she was younger but might have thought twice.

Not sure if the others with little ones mention it. I'm sure they will give you advice.

havent done internet dating but if i did i'd be putting it in my profile or somewhere obvious.

anyone might be a bit puzzled if only after getting to know them i came out with 'oh, by the way, i'm a singleparent with 3 kids, hope you dont mind'.

thanks

does anyone remember me blithering on about a friend of mine who is 16 yrs younger than me and who keeps saying he has feelings for me, then buggering off and not following through?

very late posting here from me as oft.seems the case
frd frigging playing up!
lou hope you're hanging on in there despite feeling rough much sympathy at my end being in similar shite boat
prawn you're on right thread here, perserve it will all make sense
will post in the morn when internet not playing me up
apologies all to being off msn tonite not me blame them
will hopefully catch up tomorrow

oh yes lou i do
and know its late now so i demandexpect that you'll spill later in the day

i feel its being dishonest if you say you dont have kids when you do.

who cares if you lie about favourite food and daft bits on profile. but when the section about kids needs filling in...put the truth.

after all if they dont like that you do then its not going to last is it.infact. that would be instant dumping in my book if something as big as that was lied about

janos - was the arguement a repreat of previous arguements when you split before, or something fresh?

lou - come on spill.we know you want to.

I agree with rj, if a man isn't interested in me because of DS then I'm not interested in them. We come as a package.

Also, if you give the impression of being childless (not sure how you would do that though) then they may feel you are dishonest.

rj, argument was I'm a afraid to say a bit of a re-hash that's why I thought 'not boding well'.

Anyway tonight is 'talk' night - he's coming over and there are a few things that need to be said so we'll see how that goes.

lou - spill the beans!

agree with all on here about the dcs, I would not be interested in meeting someone who did not know that I had dcs, they are very much a part of my life and we come as a package, a lovely ready made family package! That should scare of a few! he he

lou come on spill, you cant throw that in and then disappear off!

Hi all - hope everyone is well and enjoying love and life on the internet ....

Anyone care to tell me why a man you've been chatting to for a few weeks sends you a message to say he likes your new photo, makes a crack about your hair but ssys it hasn't put him off and then proceeds to ignore any further messages?

I think this is why I am so crap/cynical about internet dating ... I tend to find the only men I find interesting/attractive do the hot/cold thing - and the only ones who really seem interested make me want to run a mile ...

sh well, back to the drawing board - and just reading about other people's successes ...

Thanks for the responses and I totally agree. I've put on my profile that I've got kids and couldn't imagine not being truthful about such an important part of my life but had a wobble when I read the other thread. Still part of me that believes behind that profile they're really all axe wielding maniacs!

kdk how are you?
hmm if only i knew the answer to this
seems v.rude if anything and not the sort of fella i would want to meet
is this guy off frd?
are you still in touch with hook btw?

oh blimey i only went to bed cos i feel at deaths door!

well, this guy got in touch again last night, this is a few weeks after me saying his behaviour led me to believe he was actually no friend of mine and i was calling time on our relationship ( to recap i have known him sinc he was 21 and he is now 26 and there is a complicated history behind us, coupled with the fact he is 16 yrs younger than me)

anyway he sent me a text out of the blue last ngiht saying he was at a certain pub and if i went there we could catch up and he would pay the money he owed me, so i told him i was ssick and wasnt going anywhere but to feel free to post it through my letterbox (it's a huge part of why we fell out)

annyway this was the cue for text tennis, he ended up telling me he still felt the same plese go and see him, or let him come see me, he was offering himself to me and he didnt mean for a one night stand.

i repeated that i was really sick and not even able to stand up for long, plus i had an extra child for the night, so no way was i going to go spend hte night wiht him and leave dd1 to watch them all, and no he coldnt come stay with me either, regardless of hte fact i would get my money

at this point he got a bit of hte arse and told me he had tried and been refused and i always let him down and only wanted him when it suited me, though when challeneged on that he couldnt actually answer specifically

so it ended with me saying once again that i was sick and if he meant what he said then i thought he needed to say it when he hadnt been drinking, and if that meant i wouldnt get what he owed me then i would write it off

didnt hear back surprisingly

Hi ASBM

sadly tis Hook who is the man in question. Like I said, we've exchanged a few messages, he made comment re my new pic and hair, I replied - and da nada - he's read them, been online but appears to be blanking me.

all this just knocks my confidence which is low anyway - I start doubting my own attractiveness and think that maybe I am too much of a munter to attract a goodlooking intelligent-seeming bloke - but find most of the guys who approach me too bloody ugly/stupid to be bothered with ....

maybe it's my profile/pic - and am now regretting forking out for frd sub ...

ah well, off to comfort myself with tomato soup and couscous.

hope everyone else's love lives are going smoother than mine!

Hi Lou

Is it the one who recently came back from SA and then disappeared?

Hope you are feeling better btw. Didn't get on MSN as was looking after DS2s friends last night.

Tonight I have my 2nd date with samename2 and am still undecided as to whether to invite him back for a nitecap . I think I am having this dilemma because there is a chance of something developing (more than a FB) whatever it might be but on the other hand I have an empty house tonight and am feeling quite, well you know!!

Also I can't do all this kissing in the street thing either.

WWYD or what would Madonna do?? lol

i would decide at the last minute scl

and no it isnt the same guy, that one i have known for 2 yrs, this one for 5, befire i split with my h even, though he kept quiet about how he felt til 6m after we separated

i would really like an uncomplicated life right now

it isnt like i have even been anywhere to cause trouble!

also he who went to sa is only 13 yrs younger

i think men are just generally trouble arent they regardless of age?