where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 6)

[sincitylover]

thrilled to be kicking off part 6 on a sinful note lol

Blaming the vino for texting samename1 and asking him out - he text right back suggesting early this afternoon but don't think I can make it as am waiting for my brother who is coming down to help me swap washing machines and is always late bless him!

Then had a rather raunchy chat with young guy who have been in touch with for ages - trying to think of a nickname for him - very good looking - lives in your neck of the woods Lou. Think we might meet up soon.

At least resisted the urge to text exbf.

i dont think age has anything to do with it really tho, does it?

i think it's more about circumstances, childcare, personality, finding someone you have a glimmer of interest in

all those things are not age related

I just think as you get older its harder to find someone thats all.

When I first met my fella I thought he was caring and had a great sense of humour and personality but cos he was quite a bit older and I didnt instantly fancy him I just decided that I would like to still see him but only as a friend but after a few weeks it dawned on me that I was attracted to him cos the way he treated me was fantastic and his personality was great. As I got to know him more the attraction grew.

So if you meet a guy who is lovely but you are not instantly attracted to him, dont give up straight away.

feelingold won't bore you with my previous as the others on here will start yawning lol
but do spill always up for a good story
so far ninah flies the flag for an ongoing relationship on here
lou-you said exactly what i was thinking as always!
kdk-ugh you have reminded me of marc almond there cheers

I totally agree with what you've said about not writing people off too quickly ... but have to say it's more a case of not finding the guys who approach me even remotely attractive/interesting/similar in interests. the few I have liked have fizzled out before we've even met because of the lack of spontaneity issues you get when you're a single mother ....

re age - have to say my low cut off point is about 35/36 - my ex was 10 years younger so got a bit of a been there, done that attitude to toyboys! And unless someone was incredibly attractive (not necessarily looks-wise) don't think I could go for someone over 54 ...

adbm, be nice to animals has replied, apparently he likes Drew Barrymore, I replied that I am better looking than her! lol

ooh!inthemist is he on instant chat now?
and pah!drew barrymore?
no competition there!

feelingold, you make it sound like once past the age of 40 we should be grateful for any attention at all!

lol at Lou

maybe i read it wrong?

oh well, dating doesnt end at 40 either way

no it bloody doesn't!
am not there yet but life is very much there to be lived to the full regardless esp.after wasting most of my adult life on exh

i'm done for if it is the case lol

right am off to bed to rest my aching body

night

aw ladies i would hope your ability to attract an interesting anf fit fella doesn't draw to an end when you reach 40.

suppose truth of the matter is that wether or not you attract anyone half decent applies to your own outlook and personality as much as it does to the fella.

similarly... i notice we dont seem keen on messaging the cream of the crop in the looks department on these sites. a few have been skimmed over.and i feel the root to that is they seem to be judged as too good looking or as if they would be obnoxious or arrogant so they haven't even been given a chance.

this could be the case here too. some of you lovely ladies are perhaps too good looking that you scare men off..lol

i've also heard from fella's that it is very off putting on pof if a woman has loads of favourites. indicates she's been there a while without success or simply after a good time and casual dates. so if you find you have been added to lots of favourites...... delete them.

and as for being too busy for finding time to find a decent fella.

truth is you will have to go on dates and make time if you want one.

so...either start making the time.or just face the truth that you aren't that interested. and give up and be single. hopefully bump into a nice fella in RL when you are least expecting it.

Hi everyone
Sorry not been keeping up to date with the thread for the last couple of days but this is whats been happening.
the guy off pof that looks like Saddam's son, sent me a message saying that I keep running away from him!
Another guy has said he will email me a pic but so far received nothing, so had no further chats with him.
Another guy, Mr Loco (cos he's local), contacted me from pof, got off to a rocky start because he got quite sleazy but I put him in his place and he apologised but we were msning each other yesterday and seem to get on ok will see! Not in any particular rush tbh.
Still getting the odd message from Fittie asking me how I am and we have agreed to be friends and will stay in contact.
Whats going on with everyone else?

hi can i join in?

Im after some advice really....
ive been talking to this one guy from pof for just over 3 months. We send emails several times a day. We really seem to get on and he seems really nice. Not full of smarmy lines, not full of him self. No text speak! We have also chatted on msn several times and email too. Hes very sweet, i was offline for a few days last week as my internet went down... and when i logged back on i had a email from him asking if i was ok as i hadnt been online for a few days... and he hoped he hadnt offended me with a duff joke and that all was ok. I thought that was quite sweet. Anyway, i think we are going to meet up soon.... lots of hints throw about by both of us. I dont want to ask him.. i want him to ask me
So what if we dont get on when we meet face to face... will it be weird meeting someone who you have chatted to for so long. What if he thinks my pic is better than how i look in real life?

help!

morning all, welcome to the thread shoptillidrop

he sounds lovely, I must say I wouldn't be having the same problem as you, am far to inpatient for that!

I think you need to decide if he is worth it, that is making the first move, a lot of us on here are not backwards in coming forwards! Although I do understand, meeting up for the first time is nerve wracking, but that can be true for both of you.

as for the photo thing, if the photo was a recent shot of you, you should have no problems.

good luck

holly, I think you should have the crown for the time being!!

Shop - agree with inthemist plus he probably has the same concerns as you regarding himself so don't worry.

Inthemist, Yes I'll have the crown for now, but I'm sure if you won't be long before its handed back to one of you lucky ladies

hi shoptilidrop
have you only talked on msn and sent emails?
if you haven't already then you def.need to have a phone convo to see what he sounds like
you have probably by now developed such a rapport that i'm sure that you will hit it off in RL
i have only met one fella who was really good on msn but not for me in RL despite being good looking
personality and humour are very important in my eyes

thanks.

I wasnt actually looking to meet anyone at all really. I was just chatting for a bit of a moral boost really. I kicked my ex husband out just before christmas and was still living in the marital home until amonth ago. I didnt really feel it was right.. or i wasnt in the right place to meet someone really.....
Ive chatted to lots of blokes and had lots ask me out.. and ive declined them all... im just not interested. He is the only one ive chatted to for so long..... I would like to meet up with him.. if it goes well great, if it doesnt hopefully i will have got a friend... Im certainly not backwards in coming forwards either.... maybe ill just ask him.
Pic is recent.. but is a good pic of me....

morning inthemist!
an update please!

be nice to animals, wasn't my type, a bit to forward for my liking.

marathon man, is offline but probably cos hes sleeping, so far we have only been instant messaging on facebook and emails, but I have just sent him my mob no as we are both away for the weekend, I wonder if he will txt!

oh by the way wish me luck, its the 10km this Sunday, it should be fun, 2 of my friends are running it as well and between us all we have 9 kids to look after or rather one of the husbands has!!

Good luck!and hope the weather is kind to you
i bet he's suitably impressed
and from what you've said i imagine that you will get a text from him for sure
uggh shame that the other one was a bit of a sleaze
i usually get it right
but there has to be margin for error i guess

asbm, you are the best matchmaker, mind you, you are the only one I know! lol

Thanks
i try lol.