where have all the fit and interesting available men gone part 5!!

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

ok we're off!

Hi Lou
Did actually cross my mind at the time that this is what the fallout was about. How do you feel about this? clearly you will never see him as more then a friend? he may feel that by calling time on your friendship will corner you into dating him? If you are adamant that you do not see him as anything more then a good friend, then perhaps you should thank him for his honesty, but really you will never view him as more then a friend or even a brotherly type figure and that if he ever needs a chat then you'll always be willing to lend an ear....what do you think?

no holly it isnt the one i fell out with, this is someone i have known 5 yrs, he is 26 (other friend is 37 almost 38 and havent known him as long)

This friend is someone i have had this chat with before and given him a chance to see if it could work but he disappeared for ages (as he does) once again after seeing me

i last saw him 2 or 3 weeks ago, he stayed over because he turned up late saying he missed me and wanted to see me

he was kissing my hands and my arms saying how impportant i was to him and all that, but i didnt alllow anything to happen, though we have in the past (but not for ages)

seems that he runs off regardless of what happens between us, apparantly because he is scared and thinks he isnt good enough for me

that actually made me laugh, as aside from his dithering, i am not sure what i woldnt see in a hot 26 yr old kickboxer who runs his own successful business and is a good father to his own kids, and who adores mine

(actually one of his children isnt his but he has paretntal rights for him even tho him and his ex never married, he went to great lengths to ensure both children were secure and cared for by him)

kickboxer (thats what we'll call him to save confusion) does sounds rather nice! he may run off occasionally because he is still quite young and perhaps needs to develop emotionally but other then that sounds very thoughtful and caring. Hmm guess the balls in your court...(figuratively speaking!) what do you feel like doing about this?

i am doing nothing

he has to decide what he wants and stick to that, as i told him last night by text

we have had this conversation before and he really needs to shit or get off the pot, so to speak

will copy one of his texts to me from last night in a minute

ok one said " i have to sweet cos i have feelings for you and cant cope with tehm, i try but fail! am not strong enough to be just friends! x"

then he said " walking away works for a while but not forever then i miss you! Think you know me too well x"

then he said " frightened of just spending time with you cos worried about adding a let down! worried i wont be as good as youve had and im just shit in your eyes x"

i ended up telling him i couldnt stop him from doing anything but his fear would, and that i thought he loved me but he was scared of that fact

he didnt reply and i fell asleep as it was past midnight

knowing him i wont hear anything for ages again

why do men do this? yes I can see what you are not doing anything about it. Rather then entering into a text frenzy with him next time, perhaps cut to the chase and say texting is a waste of time and you prefer face to face (if thats what you want to happen?)

hah have done that and he runs off unless he had a few drinks in him!

its down to him now am not going to be chasing this

Morning All!
Holly we've already chatted so won't rpt it as you know what I think,and it's all good
Eve had a look at what you posted last nite lol you were well pished girl!
Hope you're feeling a bit better today and yes what I said in my email still stands,it will make you laugh
Lou how you doing,has thesp been back in touch today?
RJ lol

Morning all back at work today and my back is feeling a bit better. Hay fever still there can you believe it.

Samename2 txt me this morning on his way to work at 7.00am!! Usually I am still asleep at that time but this morning was awake. I text him back some bland stuff now phone is turned off as he is in work. Not sure what to think - insurance policy?

All quiet other than that apart from the general sucession of loons and weirdos on both sites.

Look forward to hearing about everyone during the day.

Morning SCL!
hmm him again lol
at least you have the measure of him

yeah I mean casual is fine by me but I need a bit more attention. It's weird because in person he's fine but just a bit reticent electronically. Whereas my texts and emails are like letters lol!

reticent=broken finger syndrome lol
has he mentioned a meet-up?
yes have been known to send a few long winded texts too
but usually keep it short for most men it addles their brains otherwise i think
If I want to make myself heard loud and clear I leave a voice mail,now that makes them sit up and take notice

Hi girls I do hope you don't mind me butting in here. I stumbled across this thread and I have to say am very happy I did. I'll give you some background and then you can all evaluate my miserable failure and we can then laugh together.....so here's the timeline:

(separated 18m now and thought I'd try catch me a nice man)

Stuck an ad on Gumtree (and got totally slaughtered for it on another post because apparently that's where all the weird and desparate go?) Had a few emails from one character-lets call him 'the mute one' will explain that one later texting/msn'ed for a few weeks and met up, ended up rolling around on the back seat of his car for a few hours because I thought it would be a good idea and he did have a lovely body. Have given him a miss though because he smells married or at the very least attached to me-only texting, calling at work blah blah.

Registered on pof and have so far spoken to a few men results as follows

Teletubby type: too impatient to wait for replies and got all arsey with me.

Prison officer: seemed really witty, happy type until we swapped numbers and he tried to invite himself over and making references to blow jobs and anal sex.

Software man: seemed nice enough, again swapped numbers. He called, we spoke but he made me feel like I was on some kind of quiz show. ie ok next question, so-is there anything you don't like to do in the bedroom?
wtf?

And finally this morning; some del-boy type with a bad taste in clothing, I also think he typed my message on a bus such were the spelling errors.

Don't misunderstand, I'm not overly critical, nor am I waiting for Brad Clooney, but is it too much to ask for a regular man with manners and something between the ears?

Hi dp
yes i remember your thread and posted on it
hmm.a fine selection of cybermen you got there
me thinks prison officer lol

God dp thats' quite bad luck - tell us more about the mute one? how did you end up in his car?

to ASBM - no he didn't suggest meeting. I will not be suggesting it first. It will prob take another six months to fix up

Hi DP, thats awful, I reckon only about 20% of men on these websites are pretty decent, so I'm not surprised you've met so many dodgy ones! Prison officer sounds
Just perhaps stick to messaging for a while before handing out your phone number? ask them questions like "what they are looking for in their next relationship?" and make it clear you don't tolerate any nonsense.

Hi asbm
I don't know why I was surprised at that one, when I took a closer look at his pic I noticed he had taken his photo in the bathroom and a bottle of toilet duck was in plain sight..Classy boy! Note to self: scrutinise pics from all angles before replying!

Sorry that wasn't in the least bit helpful was it?
there are some regular men out there for sure but i think we're all still looking for them
yes manners are hugely important for me as is intelligence and wit
i esp.dislike thickos who then have the nerve to describe themselves as intellectuals on their spelling mistake strewn profiles
I am on FRD btw.have just been on for a nose and wtf.have been viewed by probably the biggest munter ever
have been very naughty and sent him onto Holly,hope she doesn't open it at lunch time lol.
ewwwwww!

LOL DP you are so right, I think its POF they dont seem to be able to spell, write or do anything on there (no offense dad123)

i joined last night and i think im leaving soon!

i have had more luck with ok cupid.

my ldr guy texted me this morning saying he wishes I was there, urggh! he has this annoying man thing of never answering my questions. I only ask one, as i know men cant cope with multiple text questions, but he never answers it, it is so annoying!

ASBM - Yes I've looked and sent you an email. I hate spelling mistakes, and the guy has to be able to hold a decent convo! also half naked men is an instant turn off, and ones that send you messages based on a copy and paste from their profile. I pointed this out to one person recently on pof and he took great offence oh well I've blocked him now anyway.

oh jeeze DP
the mind boggles
toilet duck
i always scrutinise pics,i am put off by bad interior decor a la boozer
one of my cybermen(tho hopefully he's got the message now and will leave me alone)
has a villa in Spain on Costa del Chav
Now he is a seriously filthy sex texter even I was shocked by some of the stuff he's said
and equally pissed off with being called'bab'
but then I get alot of that as I'm living in the Midlands
SCL make him work for it

Holly, will be rationing my mobile digits with immediate effect!

SCL- the mute one lives an hour from me and as we were meeting on a school night we agreed we would meet in the middle of eachother's journey. So off we went for a drink, had a good old chat, laughed a lot and as the night draws in we go back to where we have parked our cars. One kiss leads to a very long one and we just carry on talking...then it just plainly and simply got out of hand and neither one of us did anything to stop it.

But as you know that wasn't my intention and I have put the whole episode down to experience. It has taught me a valuable lesson because as least I now know what I am not going to put up with.

SV lol
Holly do so hope I haven't put you off your lunch
omfg I was heaving when i saw him

asbm - I'm not surprised and he's only 37! boy he must have had a hard life!

lol that's exactly what I thought
MUNTER or what tho