Where have all the fit and interesting available men gone...Part 4!!!!

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

and so it goes on...

holly - glad things are looking positive with fittie. and it is lovely for someone to actually see you as you really are and allow you to get over all the mince twunty exh and his family have thrown your way.

hi RJ how are you?
am still smiling over Marvel man here!

seems like holly has found one (fit interesting available) glad it went well have good vibes about this
ALso looking forward to hearing more about diver and asbm's old flame ...
NM brought his dc over last night for meal and it went surprisingly well, everyone relaxed and happy even though his younger ds has been under a lot of stress about his parents' split, he seemed to come out of himself and we were all joking around, was nice, really good evening. And it's spring at last

yay!
thats good to hear ninah as i can imagine the dcs thing is a bit tricky
and yes glad its spring too
my garden is starting to look pretty again

i've only jut took on the rent in jan in this place. and the garden is lush already. loads of spring plants popping up everywhere. cant wait to see what i'm getting.

ninah - good with the dc. that must be really difficult getting the timing right for all the dc to meet.

diver.....hmmm.....texting took a naughty turn...and i've half agreed to return it...but cant decide. made him promise it wouldn't change his opinion of me if i did.said i would think about it and text back later once dc in bed...

so...off to the vote...shall i text back normal or return the naughties???been trying to keep things with just a slight innuendo....i dont mind raunchy text...can be fun...but i dont know if it will blow everything.

help ladies??

n1 your opinion needed here too(if your around at this hr?)

the whole idea came around in a nice way. and i did kinda push an innuendo too far, didn't expect him to take it further but he did. he says its just fun, and nothing obscene.

so.....is it really acceptable to send these type of message before you've actually had sex? and not affect their opinion of you??

bear in mind this is LDR and been communicating daily for 3-4 weeks?

hi RJ
email me!
am your girl here!

ps i can use my imagination its pretty vivid so you dont need to go into detail!

i am particularly good at naughty texting...i would be aiming for naughty yet not obscene. just enough detail to get him excited. yet not going to whole hog iykwim

i had an exbf that used to work shift. got plenty of practice

haha lol
er yes am pretty good myself as it happens tho mine is more subtle
i prefer innuendoe myself plus it shows a mans wit and intelligence too which all help if he's to get me into bed!
blackberry was just downright crude and clumsy
have kept some of my fav.ones on my phone(not his i hasten to add!)
personally dont do dirty til further into a relationship

so that 1 vote for not doing it.

hi all

I wouldnt get filthy but thats just me, i dont get anything out of the down right rude stuff, but like the innuendos/flirty texts.

depends if you want to let him know you fancy a seeing to from him or not

I think innuendos are fine and fun.

off course she wants a seeing too lou, but on her terms!

yes but i mean if she gets too graphic and veers from innuendo it will make him think he is gonna get it next time they meet

so it depends on if she wants to make him think that or not, iyswim

yep, there you go rj, its your call

(have you got past the 3rd date yet?)

I am replying off my phone for the next day or so. Texting a reply has limits. If you talk dirty, expect to act dirty. If you talk sex, expect to live up to your suggestions. Inuendo is fun and it opens you up to being misunderstood. After a misunderstanding, someone is left feeling like a fool. If the fool cant laugh, you might have lost a funny friendly friend.

RJ have probs with my email
i thought id sent you a reply but obv havent
will try again
aaaghh bloody hell
if i had your mobile would forward some of blackberrys for what not to text

Innuendo is never misunderstood
but lost on the wrong person

Depends if you want to have sex with him next time you see him. If so go with the obious flirty stuff not flithy, yet.

If you're not sure then still flirt but in a teasing way. If you don't want to at all then don't bother seeing him again but I know that you do (want to see him again)._

Do i think bad of the person if they send naughty texts... No, i enjoy it. Adding sex into the conversation helps break the ice and identifies boundries... If there are any. If you are unsure, rather hold back. Talking dirty adds exitment in the run up to a meeting. If the meet up fails, the cancelation feels that much more of a let down and you might have to make up for the let down.

hmm..wasn't going to go for anything particularly dirty. just expanding a little beyond innuendo and leave it half finished iykwim.no obscene words.

i'm aware of having to live up to expectation so wasn't going to being adventerous.

but...at these responses i think i shall not. stick to the odd innuendo.

lou - i was hoping i might end the drowt when we do meet in a few weeks. if he's a perfect gentleman again

oh... and we have very similar mind sets. so far textx have never been misunderstood. and no matter how slight the word play on anything(not just innuendo of a sexual nature), he always gets it and comments.

i'd stick with flirty and cheeky and a bit saucy but nothing obvious or graphic then

ok RJ email finally sent phew!