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Where have all the fit and interesting available men gone...Part 4!!!!

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/02/2009 23:21

and so it goes on...

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N1 · 05/03/2009 20:43

I am online tonight (for a bit) an off to Sheffield (I think) for Friday day. Back on Friday night. My phone should keep my Internet link open but limited to my phone. Laptop is not going to be used on Friday - sadly.

I am on POF, though havn't looked on there in ages. I am on OK cupid, though not looked there for ages as well. I think I am on another one or 2 sites but again, not been interested in keeping active on the dating front.
Inn the past, I used to meet the odd person when I had my son and they had their children. I found that easiest to manage. Easier to meet on a weekend during the day, children play and I can talk. More recently I see people want to meet without children....I think it's easier to wait for that trend to pass. I can let my son go to my sister for the day or weekend but that suggestion attracts a negative response (intended to be in a helpful way)

newlysinglemummy · 05/03/2009 20:44

oh gosh, i havn't got a web cam and think i will keep it that way...

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/03/2009 20:45

NSM don't let it put you off
i would happily web cam chat with friends and blokes i trust

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ridingjoker · 05/03/2009 20:48

right. night all. i'm shattered

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/03/2009 20:49

i bet you are
and will try again to email you
nite xx

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N1 · 05/03/2009 20:50

Gosh. My second reply was meant to be just after my last one....

I can't email the photo I want to send. Lets put it this way. I am in it but the photo is not mine to send on. I have 2 photo's (which I think are not good. I will send those on. I don't have many photo's of me. Honestly.

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By ridingjoker on Thu 05-Mar-09 20:32:27
we like gentleman behaviour on this thread grin

n1 - what would you call equivalent behaviour in a woman??
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I am not really into gentleman behavior and chivalry. I choose to be kind and helpful.

You say that you like gentleman behavior on the thread. Do you mean that any men posting should behave (and write) like gentlemen or something else?

ridingjoker · 05/03/2009 20:55

gentleman and chivalry = opening doors, communicating in a grown up fashion and not crude and childish. fighting over who buys the drinks/food,

there's more but too tired to think

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/03/2009 20:57

i think that the list can run and run..
email still playing up RJ but will hopefully get to you in the morning

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newlysinglemummy · 05/03/2009 21:02

oh god help, still texting that guy and he is asking if i have weekend plans, told him i'm not sure if I'm working or not (which is true) so no plans at the mo...

God what if he asks me out??

Still havn't told him about dd as only sent a few texts, if he asks me out I will say I will need to see if I can arrange a babysitter, so that I seem like its no big thing having a child...

I mean I really dont know hwy I am worrying about it I dont even know if I like the guy or not...

N1 · 05/03/2009 21:03

I open doors for me and let people pass out of kindness but not to be a gentleman. Each person sorts their own car door out.

I tend to over communicate and read into everything said. Potential problem already.

Arguing over who pays..... let me think. If someone wants to pay then someone might want to agree to compromise. They can pay but an agreement might need to be reached. I am not to bad at presenting arguments (if I have to). If an argument over who will pay is likely to cause a problem - they can pay. I am poor as it is.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/03/2009 21:09

NSM this is sounding very pos.
Do you want him to ask you out?
And the fact you have a child shouldn't matter
Relax,if you want to go then do so!!
We will talk you up on here no probs.
Oh N1!!

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N1 · 05/03/2009 21:09

newlysinglemummy if you are texting the bloke and he doesn't know you have a child, you might want to be more upfront. If the bloke plans on forgetting you because you have a child, get that issue solved. If you drag it out, you and he get closer and there are more hurt feelings.

You might want to opt for a longer text and say that your weekend has work commitments, you also have a child who is very young and you try to make the best plan for everyone. Rushed plans have opportunity to get broken or go wrong.

If the man can't see your logic and moves away, you are more likely to be better off without him.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/03/2009 21:11

i thought that overcommunication and reading into everything said was a women thing
are you trying to say that you're in touch with your feminine side then?

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newlysinglemummy · 05/03/2009 21:11

i dont think I would like a guy opening my car door, if he did that I would have to wait for a few mins once he stopped the car for him to get round to my side and open the door, then I would feel like I was expecting him to do it. So would feel like I'm not an independant woman.

But I dont mind men opening a normal door and letting me go first.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/03/2009 21:13

Thats common courtesy isnt it?

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N1 · 05/03/2009 21:16

By aseriouslyblondemoment on Thu 05-Mar-09 21:11:13
i thought that overcommunication and reading into everything said was a women thing
are you trying to say that you're in touch with your feminine side then?

Perhaps so, but I doubt it. I choose to think of myself as getting in touch with feminine people who are genetically suited to accepting the masculine touch of me. Genetically (or surgically) modified people are avoided.

newlysinglemummy · 05/03/2009 21:17

asbm - I'm not sure, I think so would make me feel like a person again even if it doesn't work out, and I feel I need the practise. Even tho guys have always been interested in me, I have never shown any interest in them, so I ddn't care if they liked me or not...

N1 - I met him in a bar only spoke briefly and have only sent him about 5 texts so I'm not trying to hide my dd, just trying to drop it into conversation.

N1 · 05/03/2009 21:20

newlysinglemummy. You might want to ask if he uses MSN. You can have a photo of you and your baby.....as a suggestion. Texting has drastic limits

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/03/2009 21:23

lol
and us women on here also like to get in touch with masculine people or should i say men who like to get feminine touches out of us

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/03/2009 21:25

drastic limits with texting?
only with the wrong person!
MSN is great tho i agree have had many a good chat on there

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N1 · 05/03/2009 21:29

I text 2 phone's battery's flat in a night, when texting an intresting person.... 400 texts in less than a week to one person is easy.

newlysinglemummy · 05/03/2009 21:30

oh god he didn't ask me to go out with him, but asked if i dont really get to make weekend plans because of work then I told him i had a dd so waiting to see what his reply is???

newlysinglemummy · 05/03/2009 21:32

i really love this thread, I think its the only threat on lone parents that gets many messages...

I feel better typing to let others know that I am texting someone, I fel like i'm not doing it alone....

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/03/2009 21:33

only 400 lol.

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newlysinglemummy · 05/03/2009 21:40

i used to get through way to many texts when I was first with my ex, but now I dont even use 300 a month, shows how little I chat to people...

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