where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

its just a thought which has been pondered upon by a few of us on here
as Lou 33 said if she knew the answer then she wouldn't be on MN

am not sure if thats good or bad but i will assume good!

they worked for me anyway

Think you should do us all a huge favour and start a separate thread about how to spot a nobber and what to do once spotted.

Lol, I look forward to using a few of Lou's put downs in the future, distant future I hope.

lou - he's not a knob. never been rude . far from it. just got a really hectic schedule which clashes with mine. coupled with the snow this week(and me faffing about and refusing to give time for first date) causing us to have had 3 failed attempts. i just feel it too much hassle for so early on in getting to know him.

elmo, my retorts were not aimed at you but for holly

ah. lol excuse me.

thanks asbm I have turned my phone on and off again but it appears that noone did text me at all yesterday. It's not a major deal but quite unusual nonetheless.

The tranny was trying to meet a woman. Not sure who he/she thinks he is going to attract by having the profile picture as a woman.

Stalker appears to have given up by sending an email saying 'you are not interested are you?'. Not replied to any of his emails and will block if he continues to email.

All current possibilities including exbf have gone silent.

Ah well it can all change on the turn of a coin as they say.

i've learned from this pof experiment i've been on past few weeks. . . . . that it's far too much work, effort and time required than i have avaialable.....

hopefully if i get this job offered again i will have even less time and my ou course. i wont be able to sustain any sort of relationship. i struggle to fit friends and family in just now. never mind adding a male you have to give sufficient attention to.

i'm only interested in someone where there free whenever i am
drop everything at an hrs notice to meet me
dont get upset when i go a whole day without contact
.......i'm sure i can add more to the list. but i have fried brain due to lack of sleep.

yes I agree elmo it can seem far too much effort to meet with someone who also works, could live a drive away and may also have DCs.

Natural selection will sort em all out!! LOL

It seems I spoke too soon about the potential stalker - just popped onto the dating site - he has sent another message asking me why I don't reply and do I hate him.

No love I don't even know you so how can I hate a one dimensional profile!! Same as when Mr Keen (who turned out to be very unkeen) kept saying he liked me - I said you don't even know me.

That sort of talk makes me feel very uncomfortable and I have now blocked him.

God forbid I should ever come across like that to anyone on a site.

Blocked the potential stalker that is. I also felt the fact he thought I looked like an actress who he was very keen on was worrying.

Even if I thought that someone looked like someone famous I would not tell them unless I got very comfortable with them. Just seems a bit crass.

it is a bit crass. but he was probably going for a compliment. i was once told i look like xena warrier princess. supposed to be a compliment. but i didn't see it that way

i know what you mean about keen. the banker does say the occasional thing where i'll have a retort that could be a bit sarky. i find it a litle overbearing when you haven't met. even if they are just trying to be nice.

Thanks Lou, The suggestions are good and I am sure I'll find use for them. I spoke to my friend and even she said he sounds like he's after a free prossie service as well! . TBH I'm in a situation where finding time for a relationship is difficult at the moment and this has put me off which is probably not a bad thing given I've got quite a lot on my plate at the moment.
SCL - potential stalker sounds like he should come with a health warning!

my mates love it when i feel the need to have words with men, last time i did it i could hear one of them say to another "oh this is going to be fun"

nearly put me off my stride

Holly that is truly shocking
thank goodness you didn't get involved there
but as always am loving Lou's comments
SCL there seem to be a fair old few stalkers on these sites
and yes know what you mean about things changing quickly
Elmo not heard from cheeky as yet
but he was also having a football/rugby day after our late night out!
we'll see, as i said would see him again but it's up to him to get in touch
if not will just view it as a nice time out
tho feedback is always useful lol!

that good thing. at least you got one fab date out of it whatever happened.

i'm off to try and read the papers. i'm actually hoping not to hear from banker tonight as he'll be sloshed. was having an all day rugby thing starting by meeting his friends in pub at 10am. if he gets in contact now he'll be pie eyed. still offline on my msn. might just leave it that way and hope he's too puddled to work his phone.

banker lol!
cheeky might well be in same predicament!
yes it was a good date tho went on for hours longer than expected as we just chatted
didnt get the impression that he wasn't interested
but felt that he is actually desperately shy underneath the banter
am not used to shy men lol!

just remembered another one i used

told him to save his breath for blowing up his next gf

LMAO

am glad i make you laugh!

ASBM - do you always wait for the guys to make the next move? Just thought I'd ask for future reference in case I ever decide to dip my toe into the dating pool again!

you always make me LMAO Lou!!
Holly yes really as despite everything im an old fashioned girl at heart
and i dont think women should chase too much especially too early on
if i was seeing a man for a while then id be more forward for want of a better word

glad you have a good date asbm here's hoping you have another, sounds promising!
another vote here for elmo meeting the diver
and sorry about that stinker you met holly, did you meet him through work or am I imagining that - at least you found out early on

evening Ninah
how are things going with you?
long time no hear!
lot to get thru on this singles thread eh?!
am also on msn catching up with niceguy2
giving me the much needed male POV!

ninah - he's going out to sea tonight. then it's another 5-10 days before their back. not expecting a call when out to see as it must be pretty hard to get some privacy on a boat full of men.

asbm - who's niceguy2 - more info pls?

as for contact. depends on the guy. but usually i'd wait for them to call too unless i was super hectic schedule wise for the next few days after and i'd pre-arranged i would call when i get the chance.