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where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/01/2009 20:02

its just a thought which has been pondered upon by a few of us on here
as Lou 33 said if she knew the answer then she wouldn't be on MN

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elmoandella · 05/02/2009 21:50

have fun

Original poster
aseriouslyblondemoment · 06/02/2009 10:02

morning!
dcs back at school thank goodness
meeting him tomorrow
am quite cool about it at the moment
friends still worried!!

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sincitylover · 06/02/2009 12:04

Hi all

am a bit out of the loop on this one. Need to get back up to speed.

Elmo sorry that your date with banker got cx. I have found this to be a common occurrence (sp)- one of the guys I met worked for BA and we had to reschedule many times all genuine I think but got faintly ridiculous.

I had to cx a drink yesterday (with someone in RL) because my son was ill.

ASBM - are you meeting cheeky chops? My friend (when I went out with mr Keen) made me give her his mobile and email!! Thought this was a slight overreaction but she was only worried about me, I suppose. We also provide a bit of theatre for any coupled up or very sensible friends!! LOL

As for me well exbf has been in touch regularly this week, since we met last sat, so I have been a bit distracted by him. Like a moth to flame.

Have a date to meet samename2, tho very soon (we have arranged and cx a few times).

Also have a potential stalker on dating site who I am going to block if I receive any more emails I think. He said I looked like an actress from CSI (flattered but not sure if I do) who was his idol. Alarm bells ringing.

samename1 gone quiet again.

sincitylover · 06/02/2009 13:24

where have all the fit and interesting mumsnetters gone??

lou33 · 06/02/2009 13:58

how did it go with the ex?

sincitylover · 06/02/2009 14:18

fine thx it's always fine when I see him no trouble there. I think I just have to decide whether I want to accept it as it is or butt out. And need to stop bleating on about it all.

At the moment he is being good with contact but I am sure that will change.

lou33 · 06/02/2009 14:22

i guess it depends of you are happy enough with the status quo or if it leaves you feeling something is lacking as it is

sincitylover · 06/02/2009 14:32

that's what I can't really decide because as we've discussed before I am not sure whether I could 'fit' another full on relationship in my life as it stands at the moment and nor am I sure whether I want a man living with us for all sorts of reasons (a combo of my personality and leftover from my miserable marriage).

That's what I think is telling btw that exH has moved on so quickly to another p (blind to him) whilst I have remained cautious. His live in partner before me, was apparently very scarred by the end of their relationship and had found it v difficult to move forward. That was from a mutual friend of mine and exH.

I've moved forward in that I know I can have strong feelings for someone else but have such a fear of it all going wrong.

For now I am not going to do anything about exbf as an attempts up to now have been feeble on my part.

I feel so affected by the weather to be honest that I would be happy to make no decisions/hide under a duvet until it is warmer.

The journey to work this morning was sooo cold.

lou33 · 06/02/2009 14:37

ikwym about the weather affecting moods, i get the same

i wonder if it is possible to have a string of lovely men , each of which is suitable for a certain purpose, instead of looking for one who can encompass it all?

sincitylover · 06/02/2009 14:46

Yes I wonder that too. Would they know about each other or not?

sincitylover · 06/02/2009 14:46

Yes I wonder that too. Would they know about each other or not?

elmoandella · 06/02/2009 15:40

i couldn't do the thing with several men fulfilling all needs. too emotional draining and demanding on my time.

lou33 · 06/02/2009 15:45

only one would be an emotional thing tho , the rest would be for practical purposes

elmoandella · 06/02/2009 16:19

no, i would get emotionally involved with them all even if i only had sex with one

lou33 · 06/02/2009 16:21

would you really?

elmoandella · 06/02/2009 16:31

yep. without a doubt. i'm no good at dating several men at once either. i end up feeling guilty about the other as if i have some sort of loyalty if i like them even a little

lou33 · 06/02/2009 16:37

you are too nice

elmoandella · 06/02/2009 16:48

asbm - so where's your meeting and when??

i've just got to keep fingers crossed i speak to MrBM before monday to tell him i've cleared my calendar to meet him.he's not going to be online today. and i wont be online tomorrow. then he wont be online on sunday. lol. so hoping he calls at somepoint over the wkd?

lou33 · 06/02/2009 18:04

fingers crossed for you

am off to see my friend for the evening, so need to dash because he is coming for me at 7.30 and have loads to do beforehand

elmoandella · 06/02/2009 18:46

"he" and just a friend?? or a bit more?

lou33 · 06/02/2009 18:50

yes he

we dated briefly but get on much much better as friends, in fact i would say he was my best friend (though we do sometimes blur the boundaries but usually not because he feels guilty , and thinks he is taking advantage of me )

he is an all round good egg, loaned me the money for my new sofa and put boys bunk beds up for me

we are like the 2 old boys from the muppets, who sit in the balcony and whinge , waldorf and stadtler

elmoandella · 06/02/2009 19:02

lol lou.

i have an ex like that. who wants to remain friends. he's now married with his own kids. but insists on keeping contact. but he also feels the need to confess undying love everytime he's trollied then blame wine next day

diverdude has sent me his mobile as he says his online time has run out with his broadband..... i have heard of such a thing but never met anyone before where it actually happens. lol he's also given me his boat number and told me to withold my number if he's being too forward

choices choices.might arrange a meeting with him to see what he looks like without a wetsuit.

poor chap is hopeless at spelling and apologised for it. but he can ctch massive ray fish bigger than my dc with his bare hands.could make for a hilarious meet up. or go horribly wrong as he's thick as plank of wood. will have to call instead of text i think to investigate how his conversational skills are.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 07/02/2009 00:48

blimey ladies
need to catch up quick!
SCL been wondering what you up to
Lou enjoy your new sofa!didn't look to see if you had sorted out the curtain problem
elmo keep me informed am nosey you know that now!
and cheeky? well watch this space!
sorry late post er otherwise engaged!

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N1 · 07/02/2009 02:30

The point about several men - each meeting one need. I don't think that could work to well. In a relationship one person's weaker points should be compensated by the partners strong points (ideally).

Some points are supportive, for example, if you want the emotional feelings, that point generally comes with being touched and hearing complements. Having sex can increase the feelings. Getting something from someone that you feel emotionally connected to makes the something feel extra special.

I can't see me in a relationship with several women. I can see me being friendly with several women but that's as far as it could go. Imagine liking more than one person to the point that you want to spend every waking moment with them. If there is more than one, you have to feel torn between people. That would be hard to adapt to.

elmoandella · 07/02/2009 08:50

asbm - got a date set up yet?

lou - pics of new sofa please. lol.

n1 - similar to how i feel on that subject.

as for me i seem to go up with one and down with other. haven't spoke to banker yesterday but i expected this. so still hoping he hasn't cancelled his day off on monday as i now have it free.

but spoke to diver on the phone for over an hour last night . chat was hilarious. but he's very much a "mans man" and things are right or wrong. and no shades of grey. which could cause arguements.discovered he's a bouncer when he's at home and off the boat. which i'm in 2 minds about. as i worked in that industry i know what 99% of bouncers are like. ... cheating wankers who treat their gf's like shit.

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