where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

its just a thought which has been pondered upon by a few of us on here
as Lou 33 said if she knew the answer then she wouldn't be on MN

oh shit
hes just signed in
what do i say when he says asbm have you seen my pic?

say "yeah , your a big fat ugly liar"

lol

no dont.

let him down gently.

lol.

shellfish diver has just emailed me.

...from his boat....

lol just the mental image of him sitting on a boat on his lonesome with a laptop in his diving suit makes me laugh

I don't slate over weight people. I personally can't see me having a relationship with someone who is overly big. I would gladly be friendly with them and visit them because friendships are invaluable to anyone.

but you wouldn't ride the waves??

no i wouldnt go
unless i had spoken on phone
i refused to meet my exbf til he had called me
then he texted me for a few hours before we actually met
not that he is the benchmark lol!

so do you think i should send an offline message with my number incase he actually has a life and is out

saying i'll not be meeting unless he sends a message to confirm??

oh elmo LMAO!!
so wish i could see this man in his wetsuit!
but help me here what do i say?
he's seen a pic of me i MMS it
a case of show me yours and i'll show you mine
i also dont like the fact that i'm obviously being judged on my appearance as opposed to who i am
think he's a bit of a trophy man
v.funny other bloke keeps on logging in and out so his window keeps popping up at bottom of my screen
oh you have to laugh!!

asbm - should i send him my number incase he does want to meet tomorrow?

elmo yes send a message with your text no on
but keep it light
pretend you had forgotten something he said
if he's out he will return to his pc
or ring the bank in the morning and mention your meeting!

so sorry that you are having to go thru this its truly hideous
keep busy stay on here or email diver1

i was going to send this

lol have you checked out divers pof as that his name!!

If the bloke gave you a time and it was already agreed, why the need to confirm? Unless you specifically asked for confirmation on the Sunday night.

I would have thought that you exchange numbers before you talk about meeting so that either of you are in a position to cancel if something comes up.

If I meet anyone, I ask them to email me their number and I save their number, so I know I can contact them.

Personally I would feel more comfortable after talking to someone the phone, but I have been emailing people for a while and been on chat with them for a while, I might waver the need to talk on the phone.

In the elmoandella case, she has seen the man before and knows where he works. I think she could get past the need to talk on the phone.

my only issue is when we agreed the place i gave the shortened version that myself and friends use. and when i asked if he knew where it was he said he'd figger it out. and we did agree to confirm tonight earlier in the evening.

ooooh bugger bugger bugger. i dont know what to do.

i messed up fridays meeting by being too uncommital about a time.he thought i was trying to be evasive and not meet.

if i dont turn up and he's genuinly away out then he'll not arrange to meet again if i stand him up.

aaaaaaaaahhh

no i havent but bet the other ladies on here will!
as i said keep it light
a message with your text no on
along the lines of let me know if you get delayed/have unexpected work matter
matey just popped up again in my bottom right
oh FFS!!

sent it. light and fun. along lines of see you tomorrow. any problems or delays here's my number .

at least i'll know for sure if he's not interesting then i'll get stood up .

yuk

who knows. maybe he's married. lol

night. off for my beauty sleep

Good night elmoandella

elmoandella - Don't forget to go to the date on Monday, even if it's to tell the man that you only have a short time and didn't want to stand him up. A quick cuppa and be off. Forget the texting to cancel, leave that for him.

Well I got pissed off with samename1 and texted him, then emailed him saying that he's hard to reach both literally and metaphorically!! (in a lighthearted way). I mean what's the point of starting a text convo if you then don't finish it!!

Samename2 txt me goodnight, when he was off to bed. Does shifts so going to bed early. Sweet.

And another guy on dating site compared me to actress on CSI - not sure if it's really true but flatters the shallow side of me anyway. I am def not as thin as her but then I am not a hollywood actress.

ASBM - are you on facebook?

banker called at 2am!!woke me from a deep sleep. i was lost for a few seconds till i realised who it was.

lol. kindly told him i was sleeping and to see him tomorrow.

took all my strength not to bark "bugger off i'm in my bed...so ....you have a social life"

lol, not really. i was still asleep. couldn't have mustered anger or any other emotion if i tried. i think i appeared as a zombie.

lol. but defo going today!!

sorry all my last post sounded rather self indulgent. Not the intention

At home today and kids are outside in the snow

had a truly hideous today so given up and come home with tail between legs.

first it's ankle deep snow when i woke and no gritters in sight. but i like snow so that was ok.

but then solicitors meeting was short and blunt. i'm fucked aparently. specially if exdp decides to just disappear to italy for a bit and leave the staff running his businesses there's nothing i can do.

i can go into a voluntary agreement with him. but he's made it quite clear if i want cash then i must giv him details of all things to be paid and he'l pay for it. and it'll all be in his name.and any thing i need cash for has to be listed and he'll stump up. one of the reasons i split was to be reasonsible for my own bills (as his gambling was causing him to fail when he was resposible for it all) and be independant as i was getting fed up of the mortgage company calling for missed mortgage payments.

that was one of many reasons. i would rather live on nothing and scrounge of benefits till kids are in pre-school than go back to that phsychological hell.at least then i know things are paid. and not sleepless with thought of bailiffs.

but i got to meet MrBM meeting place nice and early. i had a book with me so i wasn't looking like a loser while he came....then at 11am when we were supposed to meet he called to say he was sitting in the motorway at edinburgh. going no where. and he didn't have time to come to see me and get back to his "real" work appointments.

i tried not to sound disappointed. but i think i came accross as deflated.i just kind of shrugged it off and was very non commital when he asked about if i'd be available for msn or call tonight. and he kept pressing for another day we could meet. but i was only interested in getting off the phone tbh.

feel really shitty about everything today. dont even know if i will hang about to msn. thinking of just going to bed with kids tonight

oh and i got masses of bills in today.2 were credit cards with stuff solely bought for exdp on my cards as his were maxed out. equipment for his new shop and other things. but it'll be me who has to pay for them.

oh elmo
that sounds awful
can you get in touch with the CAB?
i know of a friend who was in a similar position a few years ago and they were brilliant.they first of all negotiated reduced affordable payments for her and eventually had them written off for her.
this was all her exp's financial mess but sadly had been put on her cards.
Banker still sounds a possibility
shame you couldn't meet today
i suppose that meeting during the working day means that inevitably things crop up
he still sounds interested tho
and he's got your mobile no now too
i think that he'll come back with another time
SCL lol!
he sounds a total self obsessed prat
and i imagine that your text was completely lost on him too!
i am not on FB why?
i have thought about it then decided not to as i would be frightened of who/what i might find.
that keen bloke kept on popping up on my MSN last night signing in/out
i think it was a dig hint
but not one i took!
he did message me but i was too tired to make conversation
he's ok just not my type really a bit fogeyish thou he's only a few years older than me.
he wants to take me out to dinner i haven't said yes
he's separated and has only just applied for his decree nisi so that will be used as my get out clause
other man well ive kept off FRD in case he's about i know what i need to tell him but feel awful about it
will probably send a quick message then run and hide!

asbm - lol at all your men.

been msn-ing banker for a bit. he says he got back to our area at 1pm. has arranged to meet on fri for lunch.says he's really sorry.(oh bless) and insists he wont stand me up again. as he's going to take the whole day off work on friday. well... we'll have to just watch this space. he's off to shovel his old lady neighbours drive at the moment!!(aw bless again)

cab have helped me get csa involved. but if he fucks off to italy there's nothing they can do. plus they can only claim from the first time they get him on the phone. and he has been avoiding all calls he doesn't know to avoid this.