The looking after Libb thread.

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Didn't know where to put this, put feel like we should do something to show Libb we care, and to make sure she gets a computer! Love to you libb, hoping you are ok still. xxx

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I need to get out of this house asap - the council are useless and private renting is not an option unless I go for this dosshole town . . .

I just don't know what to do, he is just told me to drop dead and for a moment I would've if I knew DS could be cared for - now I just so effing angry I could do something nasty.

am tempted to phone his precious mum (who I like a lot) and tell her some home truths. I know I won't though.

The shithead, my decency is my enemy sometimes . . .

Libb

What a twunt he is. Have you spoken to a solicitor yet? With the money you might be entitled to from him, you might be able to get private rental more easily? (she says, being hopeful).

Alternatively, if he wants you out, then maybe he needs to put some money where his mouth is and stump up some cash NOW.

Very on your behalf.

Libb, is your town really so bad? Don't you at least know people roundabout? At least moving out would allow you to... move out...

I don't know anyone that isn't a friend of his in this town.

I don't have a huge group of friends but those I do know are all in Cambridge - this includes my ex husband who is great but (understandbly) reluctant to hear a great deal about it all.

Talk about making your bed and lying in it . . .

I suppose that's inevitable, that friends are friends of both of you, but that doesn't mean he owns them. Some people are good at looking at these situations with a balanced eye.

I think if I was in your position I'd find it very hard, the business of staying in the same house as him. How are you managing?

hi libb, how are you? how has your week been? xx

Me again!! Just checking in to see if you're ok. Tomorrow is our last day of internet for a good week or so as moving and will have to reconnect at the other end (takes 10 days apparently!). So I hope you make some progress in that time Libb and have lots to tell me when I make it back online! Will still be thinking of you. Lots of love.xxxx

Bump - i saw you!!!!

Its been a while since posting here but not much has changed so I didn't want to bore anyone! I am still "living" alongside ex-dp and haven't been able to take time off work to really knuckle down to the nitty gritty thanks to the voluminous backlog we currently have. Luckily ex-dp and I are generally civil, with the odd yelling match thrown in.

However, please could someone explain to my mother that buying a house is NOT an option!! She is driving me barmy - I am on £14,000 a year approx and a basic two bed house round here would be £110,000 - is it me?

Oh Libb, I had no idea how things were. I've just been looking on the net and was about to switch off when noticed thread. I thought a few of your messages were a bit odd but didn't want to pry. You must be a damn sight stronger than I was as me and ex had similar split and we were ready to kill each other after a few weeks, (she went ballistic when I told her I'd cancelled my life insurance.)
My advice is pretty limited, as I don't know your area. I have rented in the past when contracting and there are still a lot of dodgy landlords about. I have a mate who is a landlord and I know he joined the local Residential Landlords Association. You'll have one in your area and they do have a wbsite with agents and properties. The landlords should be reputable but probably not the cheapest. You probably know by now about getting help with CT, rent and childcare when working, which maybe non at all.
The other thing I noticed was that you said about getting what you deserved for your sins. It may of been lighthearted but I can assure you it doesn't work like that. You see, I am a recently 'born again Christian' and certainly would not be here if it did. I spent my early years breaking the commandments and helping to bring a community into decline. Later as I mellowed as a pagan I became interested in prehistory and archaeology, which showed me that we are a product of our enviroment and experiences therein, kind of evolution within creation. This I am now hoping to use to help our very small church revive that same community.
Well, you said we should swap stories and this is the most stress free way of telling it, my theme tune was really How Soon Is Now (still have it on vinyl).
I must close by offering to pray for you to find what you're looking for, in all ways.
Please don't take offence by any of this, you are way stronger than I was.
Would you believe my vicar said I'm turning into a 'radical follower of Jesus'.
It took a long time to write this and I'll probably get some flack for it, take care.
Goodnight and God bless.xx

Northerndad, you stay up way too late! But thank you for your message - it means a great deal and it is much appreciated.

The letting agency phoned and told me the credit check was fine (despite me peeking through cupped hands in horror!) so Reuben and I will both move on the 31st, fingers crossed. Mum and Dad are brilliant and helping with deposits and essentials (washing machine, bed for me, fridge etc.) so I just need to juggle numbers and make sure it works.

I am intrigued why you would think my threads odd - I am only honest but could probably deal with my anger/resentment better, these last two years have been an amazing lesson and I always think all rubbish has a good end eventually. I have a dark edge but I think it can aid me sometimes . . . that sounds so daft doesn't it?

I have to admit that I am not certain of having an obvious faith but I am learning to have faith in myself so it is a good start. I hope I don't offend and that we still ramble to each other! it is rare to meet people who share my musical slant - although I imagine there are plenty of parents here who do!

You are a darling xx

There will be no flack on my threads I can assure you x

Hi Libb,
Good news about the move, trust you and Reuben will settle okay. Thanks for no flack, last few weeks have been trying, okay now.
Bye.

Notherndad, are you okay?

If you would rather CAT me then you can - I am intrigued by your thread earlier

was reading Nightowls update, all sounds familiar

whats a CAT

contact another talker - will check Nightowl - thanks

have you gone?

No, will be heading off soon though. Ex has just rolled in from his night with his new girlfriend. Who has been with me doesn't bother me, its the "I went to the pub and then watched Big Brother round a friend's" that annoys.

Who he has - even!

Is your new place nice?

very nice but my friends are in Cambridg so it is bitter sweet. They are all childless so there is this widening gap going on that worries me. Ex has no remorse about his actions at all and I hate meyself for feeling like he deserves his . . .

what a lot of typos - I am sorry, just tird because I have loads in my head. Was hoping to tell ex about the house but we just had a spat for a change . .

yeah I can imagine what. Take it you can keep working and still survive with child minder.