The looking after Libb thread.

[Flossam]

Didn't know where to put this, put feel like we should do something to show Libb we care, and to make sure she gets a computer! Love to you libb, hoping you are ok still. xxx

Hi Libb,

hope everything went ok with the council.

You wrote on my thread today (how to cope as a single mum)...don't want to be presumptious, but I think we used to work together in Cambridge, at the Magistrates? If I've got it wrong, don't worry, I'm not some weird stalker! But if we did, do you fancy meeting up?

xx

OOh libb! You might have found a friend. Still thinking of you. Still hoping you are ok, fingers crossed you're moving out into a designer brand new child friendly pad down central Cambridge .

How have things been this week Libb?

checking in too...

Hi Libb just saw you appearing on another thread and bumping this in case you see it on AC's... how goes?

Liiiiibb, are you ok?

Flossam, there was a message from the libbster on the may thread; her ds has been ill but she is still around...

Thanks spots! Glad to here she's ok. Hope DS is better, Libb. xx

You are all brilliant - thank you for thinking of me xxxx DS is still not quite right but he getting better slowly, we are not getting the temperature spikes but still the drowsiness. Most strange.

No joy with the council as yet so tomorrow will be my "kick butt" day - I am getting fed up of shouting at ex and I daresay he is too. Never mind. I gave him a rollocking about running away from his responsibilities, he hasn't even told his parents yet or opened any of the post concerning his debts - so I told him to start getting a grip because I have had enough of looking out for him, he isn't looking out for us afterall.

I have to admit that this tough cop business isn't me though.

Thanks for looking out me xxxxxx

Libb just seen this thread. Glad to hear you are standing tall, and making a better path for yourself than the one you had been on.... all the best to you. X

Oh dear Libb, exp does sound like a bit of a little boy... or teenager maybe...or 'gowk' is a good scottish word!

I think persistence is probably just as, if not more, important than butt kicking. As far as the council is concerned, anyway!

Kiss for DS.x. and one for you. x.

Gowk is an excellent word! my particular version has two t's and a w. Although I am far too polite to say it out loud - dizzy numpty that I am.

Thank you Papillon, can't say it is my path of choice but I just have to get on with it. Thank you for your support and kind words though, it is much appreciated.

I did actually phone about a flat today here in sunny Haverdosshole but she didn't want to take on "housing benefit" claims - so annoying as I work full time but could never afford the appropriate housing for DS and I on my own. She was very understanding though and told me some landlords do consider it.

So here are my options, a council place in Cambridge - could take a long while and I might've done some serious harm to ex before prison, on the other hand it just a train journey away from my parents and my friends are there. Haverdosshole is cheap and has ex there so handy for instant "get your bum over here" moments. I also get a lift into work from a nice lady at work - she is my second mummy. Other the other hand it is not a great place to live and there is nothing that soothes the soul (nice rivers, nice green parks and intelligent people for a start!) I think if I can get back to Cambridge then I will.

Sorry if anyone lives here too and I have managed to offend you. xxx

next time, don't mention HB - as long as you can cover the rent until it comes through they don't need to know (I think - that's how it was last time i claimed anyway).

And good luck with finding somewhere. Here's hoping for Cambridge.

Libb, I don't know what to say anymore . Wish everything could get better for you in super quick time. Thinking of you and DS still. xxx

Flossam, you don't need to say anything. You are being a star just by popping in to say hello, I feel terrible that I haven't mailed you recently. Work and DS just seem to take so much away from me but I swear I will knuckle down and e-mail you privately. I promise.

You are a darling xxxx

I'm more than happy to hear from you every so often on here libb, please don't worry. I'd love to chat with you if are about, I added your hotmail thing to our MSN, but I don't really get how it works! You have enough to think of without having to mail me. I'll just keep on popping up here to check up on you though! Look after yourself. xxxx

Libb I think you're fabulous

I think you have to log in somehow - I must admit that I don't get it myself because I sometimes get messages from ex's mum in New Zealand long after I've gone to bed - she seems to think I am online . . . our (sorry! his) internet is on-line all the time because it is broadband but I am not sure about the MSN.

Quite daft really. xxx hope you are taking care too honey xxx

You always say the right thing Twiglett! Why can't I say something as simple and spot on as that?!

thank you lesser spotted Twiglett, you are a sweetie and I hope DS is a happier bunny soon (so long as she takes me with her xxx)

I manage to talk to DP's parents or his brother, but only normally when they 'speak' first! Oh well. It would be lovely to hear from you, maybe one day we'll turn on our computers and we'll both be there!!

I did just check your doodah thingy but it said you were offline . . .

Is it your hotmail address? Cause ours is different.

yes, mine is [email protected]

I've got the right one. Mine is kurt-sam at kurt-sam dot wanadoo dot co dot uk Try that and maybe we can chat!! (hopeful emoticon!) x