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How would you feel if your 16 (nearly 17) year old ds had a threesome??

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Ms1970 · 07/01/2009 17:57

Basically what would you think if a 16 year old and his friend (same age) ended up in a very drunken threesome with a friend of a friend of a friend who is in her mid to late 30s?

They're all single, used protection I believe, and no ill effects except from some very sore heads in the morning.

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Original poster
Ms1970 · 07/01/2009 23:23

I was the friend of a friend of a friend.
I thank you for your honest and frank and very varied opinions.
I am still feeling a bit and a bit and a bit about it all - that's why I wanted to talk to my virtual friends - I can't discuss it with anyone in RL.
I'm definately not a troll - I'm a pretty regular mnetter - just an understandable namechanger for this.
I am a lone parent, however my dc is nowhere near this age yet.

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snoopyatemyblanky · 08/01/2009 04:15

tiny hoofs, ugly face

again

must be one person posting all these ghost threads about NOTW crap

hullygully · 08/01/2009 10:30

ms 1970

If you should see this just wanted to say that had a quick poll of my (40 plus) friends last night and to a woman we all cheered and said "you go, girl." So maybe it is an age thing, but not in the way most people see it...

If it wasn't true, it raised some jolly interesting views anyway..

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Ms1970 · 08/01/2009 10:43

Thank you hullygully for your previous message and this one.

Although half of my conscience (and most of the posters here) tells me I should be thoroughly ashamed of myself not happy we really did have a damn good time and a real laugh. The lads in question were in some ways rather advanced for their age compared to some 16 year olds (drinking, clubs, recreational drugs etc). I in turn would consider myself a young mid to late 30 year old (but don't we all)

I think from the mixed reactions I have received confirm what I already felt - yes fine - nothing to fret and worry myself away about - it was fun at the time but a definate one off not to be repeated - a little memory to make me smile when I'm really old and grey.

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Mspontipine · 10/01/2009 02:47

'Stifler's Mom'!

nooka · 10/01/2009 03:00

I would consider it borderline abusive to be quite honest. The older woman should NOT have done this with two drunken lads. If it had been a guy with two 16 year old girls I think the comments would be very different. If as a parent of one of the sons I had found about about this, I would be upset and furious with the woman.

juneybean · 10/01/2009 03:09

It's not illegal?

sandcastles · 10/01/2009 06:29

Was it you?

I judge you for sleeping with 2 17 yr olds! Yuk!

hullygully · 10/01/2009 11:09

What age is all right then?

18? 19? Or A 7 year gap? A 10 year gap? Or only someone that shares your birthday?

Mamazon · 10/01/2009 11:13

I would be very judgy of the woman who felt it perfectly ok to sleep with two teenagers.

I would think that he is a boy and i know of no other single male that would have passed up the same oppertunity.

I would feel sorry for myself as my teenage sno has a better sex life than me!

Mamazon · 10/01/2009 11:14

omg your the woman in question?

i don;t think i'd be going abourt bragging about it.

A 3some is fine witho consenting adults. they may have been legal but they weren't adults.

hullygully · 10/01/2009 11:17

When are they adults? Do you mean 18? So they magically change overnight on their birthday in some way...?? So they can drive but not shag at 17..? What if they had shagged other 17 year olds? Anyway 16 is the age of consent.

SpandexIsMyEnemy · 10/01/2009 14:32

that's irrelevant hully here - she as the adult shouldn't have taken advantage of 2 young boys - irrespective of the fact they were over 16, she should have kept her wits & not done anything.

I am slightly bias having personal experience of 2 ladies aged 35+ and my brother when he was younger, I don't care a man has to be in a 'certain state of arouse' the fact of the matter is they are sill under 18 which technically means they are still children even if the age of consent is 16.

DorisIsAPinkDragon · 10/01/2009 14:50

Trip trap the name change is just tooooooo similar to be coincidence....

Still it makes it easier!!!

hullygully · 10/01/2009 15:27

She didn't "take advantage." They all wanted to do it and enjoyed it. Don't you think 17 year old boys have sex? WHY is her age relevant?

Coldtits · 10/01/2009 15:31

Folie a deux

stitch · 10/01/2009 15:32

i would think, ewwwwwww..... there aresome things a mother does not need to know about her ds.

misspudding · 10/01/2009 17:20

The OP wrote:
The lads in question were in some ways rather advanced for their age compared to some 16 year olds (drinking, clubs, recreational drugs etc).
What does the op mean by 'rather advanced for their age'? Please, enlight me. If Mrs1970 is for real, then have you no shame of going on about it ?
I still think this is a lot of crap. Trip trap.

nooka · 10/01/2009 17:21

Hully, seriously if they had been drunk girls, and she was an older man would you still feel that was just fine? I don't think there are magical changes that happen from 15 to 16 either. Young people are vulnerable, and I don't think taking advantage of them is commendable. In any case I wonder how the OP knew they were 16?

hullygully · 10/01/2009 18:40

Nooka - she has already said it was her hence knew their ages. Yes, I would still think it fine if the girls WANTED to do it and enjoyed themselves. Not to think so would be irredeemably sexist. Lots of 16 year olds, male and female, enjoy themselves in all sorts of ways, under all sorts of influences, always have and always will. Just so long as they wear a condom.

stitch · 10/01/2009 18:42

assuning the op is not a troll
i used to know fifteen year old girls who were perfectly well capable of taking advantage of thrity year old men. even forty year olds. and it would be the older person i would feel sorry for. not the so called children.
obviously such children are exceptions rather than thte rule, but there are enougho them about to mamke it not very rare.

hullygully · 10/01/2009 18:44

In a large part of the world they are married with kids at that age. I'd far rather they were tormenting 30 year old men..

nooka · 10/01/2009 19:17

I know that the OP is the perp (or pretending to be so, who knows). What I said was how did she know how old the boys were. As she has already said that they were drinking and using drugs, neither of which are legal for 16 year olds, I wondered what evidence she had that they were actually 16 - if it's just that they said so, they might well have been older or younger. Given that most teenagers lie about their ages, that is. Under 16 is after all statutory rape.

Stich that argument about young girls leading on older men is routinely used by peodophiles, I am afraid. I don't buy it at all. I too know some sexualised teenagers. They are very troubled, and very vulnerable, and the adults in their lives should be supporting them to grow up safely and healthily (and I don't mean just avoiding STDs) not jumping in bed with them, whether that's what the young person wants or not.

Sex between two young people is totally different to sex between an adult and what is essentially a child, however grown up they appear.

Lotster · 10/01/2009 19:41

good post Nooka

lou33 · 10/01/2009 20:01

i think its best to ensure any sexual partner is out of their teens, as a mature woman

much as i love my younger men, i dont want to be getting it on with anyone who could be dating my daughter