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omg son has brought a one night stand home and i am sitting downstairs

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 00:33

It is 12.30 at night and i am sitting in the lounge. son of 23 who has no respect for this house whatsoever has now brought some girl back and i am fumming but cannot say anything

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 03:03

he wont come back tonight and morro he will turn it around to my fault that i over-reacted but i know i have not. tried to phone a mate but she is asleep lol

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 03:05

doors are locked no worries about that i am making him out to be some sort of animal but he is not. just have no relationship with him anymore and will not have him bully me or my daughter he needs to grow up and i need to do some tough love

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Tortington · 20/12/2008 03:14

tough love indeed - don't you dare let him back in - he is 23 for gods sake. he wont be on the streets.

MadamDeathstarOverBethlehem · 20/12/2008 03:50

He will have gone home with his friend.

xlr8 · 20/12/2008 04:04

Set some ground rules. Don't embaress him when he is with a girl. It will not help. After setting -srtict- rules, tell him what you are doing and if they are not followed after two weeks, change the locks.. simple!!

Lemontart · 20/12/2008 04:15

wow, you handled that remarkably well getting her a cab and giving good advice to her. Hope you get a good night?s sleep now and able to sort him out tomorrow x

smartiejakeonachristmascake · 20/12/2008 08:06

I would quite seriously consider getting a locksmith in and change the locks. Pack up some stuff for him and leave it on the doorstep. If he turns up and won't go away- call the police.

thexmasstockingmonsterofdoom · 20/12/2008 08:15

Just read this, well done for standing up to him, dont you dare let him in this morning.

Tortington · 20/12/2008 10:15

dont you dare let him back today!

sallyhollyberry · 20/12/2008 11:33

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SparklyGothKat · 20/12/2008 11:44

DO NOT GIVE IN!!!!!!!!! he is in the wrong!!

AnAngelWithin · 20/12/2008 11:53

don't met him back in. son or not, he has overstepped the mark and not for the first time. if you let him back in he will have won. again. he will continue to disrespect you while you let him walk over you. well done for standing up to him but you need to stand your ground.

AnAngelWithin · 20/12/2008 11:53

dont let him back in i meant!

KerryMum · 20/12/2008 18:42

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LiffeySaysNollaigShona · 20/12/2008 18:53

He sounds like he's got no respect for you. No harm in MAKING him respect you even if it makes things a lot worse between you before they get better.

reindeercantdancethetango · 20/12/2008 22:00

how was today?

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maidenvoyage · 21/12/2008 01:03

hi guys, thank you so much for your messages they are really appreciated and it just goes to show that mumsnet really works. He left here last night after I threw him out and then came back this afternoon. I was very calm and said that the time has come that he has to leave. He has no respect for myself or the house and as much as I love him ( and I do) I made the mistake of spoiling him trying to make up for a missing dad. For the first time in two years he was very quiet and left. Do not know where he is at the moment and it sounds awful but i have a sense of peace and am very calm. Just concentrating on katie, did not tell her she is at the age that she does not need to know what went on last night. Thank god she was staying at a friends. So at the moment all is calm. Under no false illusions it will change again. The support i have had from here has been fantastic and will keep you all updated. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Tortington · 21/12/2008 02:27

wow, i am so sorry it has taken me so long to come back to this thread - bloody well fucking done you !

it hurts like shit - i know been there recently myself - you will worry - where is he, what is he doing, is he taking drugs, having a shower,shave, going to work omg endless worry - and no matter what shits they are he is yours and you love him - me too.

there has to be a line drawn becuase if you don't have respect for yourself no - one else can have respect for you.

i am very proud that you stayed strong - well done xxx

ps i am a girl and you can kiss me if you want - i am quite liberal !

LiffeySaysNollaigShona · 21/12/2008 10:35

Glad you're OK. Take care of yourself and your daughter and enjoy the time together just the two of you.

Tortington · 21/12/2008 13:39

how are thing today?

pagwatch · 21/12/2008 14:12

yes how are you Maiden?
You did so well yesterday. Is it still calm?

( and are you still reeling from the prospect of a snog with Custy )

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maidenvoyage · 21/12/2008 22:07

Hi everyone (just for you custy mwah lol), things are very calm in our house today. Just me and Katie. He has not been back yet and knowing my son he knows that he is in the wrong completely now because otherwise he would of been back shouting and swearing. I think he is going to be back at some stage tonight because he needs work clothes etc. I have calmed down had long chats with my sister and you guys and have come to the conculsion that he has no respect for this house and myself and katie. I was talking to her today (not about what happened) just about life in general in the house and she said exactly the same as me that as much as she loves him life is so much nicer without him living here. So my New Years resolution is: Katie can have friends around as much as she likes. (he makes them feel awkward so they dont like coming in and as for me, got made redundant this month from MFI am getting a new job and start going out again. Katie thinks im a hermit lol .

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dsrplus8 · 21/12/2008 22:31

hi maiden , hope you and katie have a lovely xmas ,good luck with the job hunting !

skrimbo · 21/12/2008 22:49

Loving the positive vibes

UniversallyChallenged · 21/12/2008 22:55

Really hope things work out for you and Katie MV, your self-esteem must be rising by the hour you have done such a tough but needed thing.

Can you pack his stuff for him so that he spends as little time as possible in your house? I would just worry that as soon as he steps in the house that could be it - he wont leave. If it's packed up and waiting by the front door in cases you can give them to him and he doesnt need to come in if you dont want him to