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omg son has brought a one night stand home and i am sitting downstairs

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 00:33

It is 12.30 at night and i am sitting in the lounge. son of 23 who has no respect for this house whatsoever has now brought some girl back and i am fumming but cannot say anything

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sallyhollyberry · 20/12/2008 00:34

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mazzystartled · 20/12/2008 00:35

turn your music/the telly up REALLY loud
stomp about upstairs loudly
make her breakfast in the morning and insist they both eat it at the table with you

expatinscotland · 20/12/2008 00:35

why not?

i mean, if it matters to you?

it's your house, after all.

expatinscotland · 20/12/2008 00:35

why not?

i mean, if it matters to you?

it's your house, after all.

sallyhollyberry · 20/12/2008 00:35

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 00:36

He so controls this house dont know what to do. ok tv going up and up lol

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mazzystartled · 20/12/2008 00:39

why do you let him control the house?
does he pay the bills?

NappiesGaloriaInExcelsis · 20/12/2008 00:39

dont be passive aggressive
it is your house.
he is welcome to behave however he likes, undeer his own roof.
under yours, its your rules and respect ta v much.
having said that, if its his home too, why isnt he allowed to treeat it as such? and have one night stands if he wishes.?
but if you are really seething, and he is really routinely ignoring your wishes, well woman, its time you got a bit sterner about enforcing your rules.

themoon66 · 20/12/2008 00:40

Go bang on his door and ask if he has any mucky washing needs doing.

Joolyjoolyjoo · 20/12/2008 00:40

Quick- get downsatirs in a see-through nightie with 7 albums of his baby photos- he'll NEVER bring a girl home again!

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thatsnotmymonster · 20/12/2008 00:41

Just tell him he can't do that and if he doesn't like it he can get his own place and do what he wants there.

Do you charge him rent etc. If you don't maybe you should? And lay out some ground rules as regards helping out with chores etc.

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 00:42

hey i am laughing but its not funny, no I pay the bills, i buy the food. myself and my daughter walk egg shells around him, he is a spoilt brat and to be honest as much as i love him i dont like the person that i made him to be. there you go i have said it

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 00:44

god i am such a fxxxxxg wimp lol

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SparklyGothKat · 20/12/2008 00:45

is this you too?? if it is, you need to take control of him ASAP!!!!!

NappiesGaloriaInExcelsis · 20/12/2008 00:45

for a start, ditch the guilt.
if theres one thing parenthood has taught me its that nature is as much of a player as nurture.
if you and dd are on eggshells around him, thats not right. you NEED to fix this. he'll probably even be grateful. eventually.

Joolyjoolyjoo · 20/12/2008 00:48

WEll, you could give him the old "treat this house as a hotel yada yada", but let me tell you about my gran.

My aunt came home with a new beau- they were kissing in the close. My gran went out to remonstrate with them and he said "Ho missus- you've had your fun! It's our turn now" My gran calmly went back indoors, got an ice cold bucket of water and drenched the pair of them! You could try that...

But I still think an attempt at "friendliness" would be enough to put the girl off for life, and, as a plus, maybe even make him think about moving out!

SparklyGothKat · 20/12/2008 00:56

on your other thread you have just admitted you are scared of him. You shouldn't be scared of your own son, if you are, then you need to sort this out. If it was a partner doing this, what would you do? Accept it? I doubt it.

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 01:03

SparklGothKat... yes its me. I know i have to accept he is a total tosser and i dont like him. I know i have to make a move and get him out of here but im scared and that is not because i am scared of upsetting him believe me i am not i am scared of what he will do. in fact i hate to say i hate what he is putting me and katie through and i begrudge every moment he is in this house and that makes me a bad mum. But i have spoilt him to extremes trying to make up for everything i am sitting here listening to him having sex upstairs with some girl ......... no control and i cant get it back omg

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Tortington · 20/12/2008 01:05

you were given advice ont he other thread - was any of it useful? are you going to put any of it into practice.

chuck him out and call the police.

call your brothers

SparklyGothKat · 20/12/2008 01:06

you have 2 brothers yes? Get them round and tell him that he has to move out, you can't live like this,

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