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omg son has brought a one night stand home and i am sitting downstairs

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 00:33

It is 12.30 at night and i am sitting in the lounge. son of 23 who has no respect for this house whatsoever has now brought some girl back and i am fumming but cannot say anything

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sallyhollyberry · 20/12/2008 01:07

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SparklyGothKat · 20/12/2008 01:09

call woman's aid even if its just to get some advice. I am sure they will help you

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 01:11

ok i know i have to do this, and he will hate me for it, but then he talks to me like dirt anyway. I must admit i dont know how i would of got through the last couple of days without you guys and i really appreciate it i promise you. So now I am going upstairs and getting the one night stand out of MY HOUSE. cos if i were to do that he would go mad omg i am the parent here xxxx

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ScummyMummy · 20/12/2008 01:12

Is your house not very soundproof or something? Why do you not like him having sex in your house?

Joolyjoolyjoo · 20/12/2008 01:14

Agree- you CAN'T live like this. Have you tried reverse psychology? Tell him you're so glad he is here, because your dd will probably move out as soon as she can (and she will, given the current situation) so at least HE will be there to attend to you in your old age and incontinence...

ScummyMummy · 20/12/2008 01:14

Oh sorry- sounds like there are loads of other issues. Ignore my irrelevant questions.

ScummyMummy · 20/12/2008 01:15

custy, babe, please could you email me your address again? Somehow lost it...

sallyhollyberry · 20/12/2008 01:16

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SparklyGothKat · 20/12/2008 01:18

Maiden, am going to bed now, I hope you are ok.

ScummyMummy · 20/12/2008 01:19

Yes! It got as far as being packed and taken to the post office yesterday but I then realised I hadn't written the address on it. And I now can't find the address. doh.

ScummyMummy · 20/12/2008 01:20
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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 01:20

update: god i am so xxxxxxxx mad. There is a naked girl laying in his bed and HE HAS GONE OUT ,,,,,,,,, if i were to do that ( not with a girl lol) he would be screaming my mum must be turning in her grave

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Tortington · 20/12/2008 01:21

righto scumster - done.

Tortington · 20/12/2008 01:23

gave me a lovely excuse to buy some scrummy boots oooh i left my shoe in london ...i must buy me some boots he hee hee

HolyGuacamole · 20/12/2008 01:24

Feel so bad for you. Especially after reading your posts from a few days ago

You don't deserve to be treated like this and it is not your fault. He is an adult, he chooses to be angry/difficult, no one forces that on him.

I hope that you get the girl out of your house without incident. That is so disrespectful bringing someone back to your house like that. My fingers are crossed for you, good luck.

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 20/12/2008 01:24

I hope you asked the girl to leave? Dump his things on the front step lock the door and leave your key in the lock so he cannot get back in. Get your brothers around in the morning to change the locks for you.

Your house your rules. He doesn't like that he is old enough to find his own way in life.

HolyGuacamole · 20/12/2008 01:26

Where has he gone? Why has he left this strange girl on your house? Did you ask her to leave?

Joolyjoolyjoo · 20/12/2008 01:27

Bring the girl a nice cup of tea and chat to her- she will soon leave, carrying tales of how your ds is a saddo who still lives with his mad mother. Put a face pack on first so you scrae the bejaysus out of her when you walk in the room.

expatinscotland · 20/12/2008 01:27

how weirdy!

goodasgoldfrankincenceandmyrhh · 20/12/2008 01:28

Use your anger, tell him how you feel.

expatinscotland · 20/12/2008 01:28

i'd give her tea, too, to suss her out.

bizarro and, as a veteran of MANY one-night stands, i was always in the mood to chat afters.

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 01:31

i have just woken her up and asked her to leave she is so embarassed and he is such a xxxxxxx have text him but not answering heart goes out to her even though she is a stupid girl am so angry you would not believe it. but so glad you guys are here. please stay a while so i can sort this poor girl out xxxxxxxxx

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BlackEyedDogstar · 20/12/2008 01:31

this sounds dreadful, where has he gone? What Seashells said.

thatsnotmymonster · 20/12/2008 01:31

He may hate you know if you chuck him out but he'll probably get over it and it will be better for him in the long run AND YOU KNOW IT. Loads of boys are really, really immature at 23 and will happily rely on their mum's love/guilt whatever to live a life of riley. I reckon a lot of men are closer to 30 before they are as mature as most girls at 23.

In my mind you have 3 choices

1- stay as you are (which doesn't really seem like a viable option)
2- set down realy firm rules and make him do equal share of chores and pay his way (basically so that he hates it and decides to move out anyway)
3- say his behaviour is unacceptable and you are giving him 4 weeks to move out and if there is any trouble you will call the police.

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 01:34

bear with me please for ten mins going back upstairs

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