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omg son has brought a one night stand home and i am sitting downstairs

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 00:33

It is 12.30 at night and i am sitting in the lounge. son of 23 who has no respect for this house whatsoever has now brought some girl back and i am fumming but cannot say anything

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Tortington · 20/12/2008 01:42

well done you!

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 01:45

update: woke the girl up, she got dressed came downstairs. she was so nice and i know that sound niave but got her a cab back home. She has got home safe and is now in bed god i am so going to kill him in the morning. I know this sounds bad but have told her to stay away from him

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SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 20/12/2008 01:47

So where is he? Did the girl know?

Tortington · 20/12/2008 01:47

i think i have missed a step - where is he?

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 01:48

omg i cant believe this... they did what they had to do, he then said to her am going down a friends house do you want to come, she said no, to drunk and tired and he said ok see you later

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expatinscotland · 20/12/2008 01:49

oh, my one night stands.

god, how many?

none that lived with their parents, tho.

um, NOOOOOOO.

expatinscotland · 20/12/2008 01:49

oh, my one night stands.

god, how many?

none that lived with their parents, tho.

um, NOOOOOOO.

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 01:53

i have just sent him a text telling him that this is not the way i have brought him up and that he is fxxxxxg disgusting but obviously not replying to me, i am all cried out. sorted the girl out and she is safe but there will be madness morro so glad katie is not at home to see all this. She is such a different personality from him totally different thank you for staying up (if you did lol) so stressed lol

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Tortington · 20/12/2008 01:54

change locks.

well don e you

Joolyjoolyjoo · 20/12/2008 01:58

I think you need to get tough with him. Don't get ranty and emotional, just tell him that "This will NOT be happening again" end of. If he scares or threatens you, call the police, both for your protection and to show him you mean business. He seems to have a total lack of respect for women in general. Using your brothers to sort him out wil just reinforce that you (and all women) are too weak.

My mum was 5'4 and disabled. She taught 17 yo boys, and they were all terrified very respectful of her. It's not about physical size, it's to do with attitude.

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 02:03

i am not exposing my daughter to this, he has now overstepped the line he is so out of here xmas or not i dont care anymore. She is a decent human being, kind and loving. She has been saying for months that she loves him but does not like him and i am the same. tonight was the last straw. to leave a young girl who did not know me, lets face it i could of been a nutter (assure you i am not lol) and killed her in his bed. I can only think if katie got herself in that situation that someone would get her a cab home, offer her a cup of tea etc... god im so angry HE IS SO OUT OF HERE MORRO GRRRR

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expatinscotland · 20/12/2008 02:04

custy, you'd change locks?

fuck, you've got balls.

i gotta get pissed with you.

i'm a soft touch.

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 02:06

change locks!! will break door down... getting pissed is so the answer expatinscotland sorry how i feel at the moment all a big laugh obviously

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SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 20/12/2008 02:12

He will NOT break the door down because you will call the police before he gets home and advise them that you are locking out your son because you no longer feel safe in your own home because of hsi actions.

You will advise them that you are expecting trouble when he gets home and then when he gets home call them back and they will come around and take him away from your property.

And what should be worrying you is that the girl could have been a nutter not you! and he left her there with you. She could have been carrying a weapon. Probably not but she could have been. I doubt v much that he searched her bag? Or more likely she could have been a theif and he left her alone in YOUR house.

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 02:13

custy thank u so much for being there tonight, wether a male or female i could kiss you lol. x x x x

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 02:16

omg i am so wacked out by this i cannot believe that i am finally in a situation that he has done this to me. Luckily for me she was just a drunk silly girl who had no sense and so sorry for the situation she found herself in. AS FOR HIM I have no respect now and know i am going to go for him morro and like i said sod xmas i want him out does that sound harsh

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SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 20/12/2008 02:17

No that doesnt sound harsh!

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 02:19

he has just walked in thinks it funny have just called him a cuxx omg i am so angry

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KerryMum · 20/12/2008 02:37

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 02:49

OMG i have just thrown him out, he came back with a mate and had the nerve to start cooking pizza, when i said how would you feel if that was katie that it had happened to that some fella had took her home had sex with her and then gone out and left her in a strange house his response was " i would not care" dont care that he was drunk i was so angry and now my heart is beating ten to the dozen cant let anger go and show him i am weak

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Tortington · 20/12/2008 02:51

how did you throw him out?

good for you btw

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 02:55

I dont know he knew i ws angry was shaking just told him i was disgusted with him and could not look at him. That he had done a lot of things in his time but this was the last straw. He was drunk and mellow and had a mate with him so they just walked but said he would be back in the morning, which i know he will be. I have never been so angry in all my life and totally disgusted with someone. i need to wind down and get some sleep but keep going over it in my head. how would i feel if that was katie! i am ashamed to call him my son. just poured myself a drink and think getting drunk is the answer lol

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Tortington · 20/12/2008 03:02

you won't let him back will you?

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maidenvoyage · 20/12/2008 03:02

omg now i am feeling bad, now that i have calmed down it is 3 in the morning he has nowhere to go oh sugar lol

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Tortington · 20/12/2008 03:02

i would have his stuff in bags on the door step and the latch on.

any trouble in the am and call the police.