The Lone Parent Christmas Support Thread, if you are lonely come and join us, if you are not... come and help :-)

[MeMySonAndI]

We are in the countdown to Christmas and I wonder how many of us will be on our own for the whole/part of the Christmas period.

Obviously, being away of the people we love in Christmas is enough to get down even the bravest of us, so, if you are starting to feel the Christmas blues, please come and join us, so we can go through this together. If you have gone trough this already and are in company this year, come and join us anyway. The idea is to try to go through this together.

Lets help each other not to feel alone this Christmas

Hello

Haven't read whole thread but am joining you. DS spending xmas eve night with his Dad and I have no family here and my friends are away. So, I'll be twiddling my thumbs all by myself tomorrow night.

Tomorrow and the day after , I will be focusing on the good things I have. Two wonderful kids, a small amount of family and a handful of truly good friends who love me for who I am. It was not that way a few years ago...so im happy with it!

shybaby

Have caught up on thread now. Hope everyone has an ok day tomorrow. I have decided to make the most of not having DS on xmas day morning and will have a lie in and a nice bath [weak smile]

Im off to bed now, should have been much earlier.

Have a good tomorrow all

Morning ladies

Is everyone ready then ??

I still have the odd thing to do but otherwise I am pretty sorted (realises I probably just jinxed myself).

Am trying very hard to make myself feel all cheery and happy for the kids sakes, although if I am honest I am feeling very sad that this is my 3rd xmas as a single person.

joining this thread late...

feeling a bit glum as ex baby due any day now..

but hi all...

The bits i dont like are christmas morning getting up alone with the kids, the day is ok but then i hate the evening sitting here alone when the kids are in bed...

TBH i will be glad when it is 2009 because i am really hoping it will be a better year for me...

oh csl didn't realise you were pregnant, congratulations! my dd was an Xmas baby was still with ex when I had her although unbeknowst to me he was 'visiting' the barmaid in his local, so I didn't see a lot of him. Have to say Xmas on my own is preferable to that!

whoops sorry i mean my ex's new baby is due (his baby with new wife)

when is dd birthday?

oh right, sorry! you must be feeling grim. dd was born on 28th tho due on 25th. Was the worst Xmas ever. It is hard going these days sometimes but never ever that bad!
Any news from your text man?
You know, I think you're right roll on 2009!

I hope that 2009 is better for all of us

My children are being nightmares this morning. The Santa bribe isn't working at all!

My children are still in bed asleep!!!

My dd (2 TODAY) has left with my ex. He told me last night that he is not actually taking her to his parents as arranged but to his girlfriends (they have known each other less than 3 months). I am working 13 hours shifts Friday/ Saturday/ Sunday. I am distraught. Not only am I away from my baby but someone else gets to play happy families with her.

Time for a change of career I think. This is NOT happening again. I am a mess today - my colleagues have been great, I just want my girl. He was really rubbing in about how "they" have got her all this stuff, and how they don't want her to have my presents because she won't understand that they are from me, and that it's my fault because I am working. I couldn't swap this weekend. Am just so very very sad. Sorry to go on.

I'm sorry you are feeling like that.

I know that is difficult but lets just try to go through it little by little, when is she back? I'm afraid I'm not going to be around tonight but I'm sending you all the support vibes that I can. Many of us are in the same boat, which is no consolation, but between all of us we can survive this time

A big christmas hug just to let you know that although without our families, we are not alone.

Thank you.

She is back Monday - I know it could be worse. Give me some time to really cry it out and I will be back to my positive self.

I just... never imagined this. I just want my baby. I know many others feel the same. I wish you, too, could have that wish.

Hi everyone and Happy Christmas!

I am feeling very festive and happy tonight and glad to be on my own with my darlings.

I am so sorry if you are not with the kids it must be absolutely awful.

Anyway still a few hours to go and am off to do even more cooking!

ninah- we spent a really lovely evening together last sat- he really spoilt me..the time just went to quickly we were talking and talking, next thing i knew it was 4am so i had to leave... but it was so nice and we plan to do it again..

nothing has happened between us and i think if it does then it will be a slow burn thing iyswim? rather than an instant rip clothes off thing

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
Hope everyone manages to have a lovely time... Off to be Santa now.....

Merry Christmas everyone.
I just have to wait for Santa then i can collapse into bed! Absolutly shattered. Really hard work getting presents out the loft and downstairs on my own. Took me so many trips my legs ache.

Hope everyone has a good day tomorrow.

notevenamousie - , how awful for you. I would not be happy about that at all. My ex-H has my two girls until Monday too and he has taken them to his family in Wales. I miss them but I am happy to know that they will be having a good time there. And I guess I'm lucky because my husband does not do cruel things like refuse to give them my presents

notevenamousie - my heart goes out to you, I'm so sorry.
You will make sure that every year going forward will be different and you WILL have some amazing times with your little girl.

My dd, 2 next month, is going to her dads familys at 1.30. I know she'll have a great time but I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself, I have to say. I have made arrangements to visit my new man later on in the day but don't have any christmas dinner planned. I've been trying to ignore that fact and so haven't bothered to get any nice goodies in but now I wish I had!
Oh well, FC has been now and I've just hung her stocking. I know I'll enjoy the morning and more to the point, so will dd

notevenamousie - can you arrange a special day when the two of you can cosy up and open pressie's when she gets back?
I sort of did that with my dd today. We didnt do presents but had a nice dinner and watched The Snowman, had a few treats etc. It made me feel better and of course she had a nice cuddly time.

Evening, ladies

notevenamousie, I'm sorry you are feeling so sad. My DS is with his Dad tonight so I'm a little glum. I will see him tomorrow though so it's not terrible. It's just wierd sitting here by myself.

Anyway, wishing you all a good day tomorrow.

Just popping in to wish everyone a Merry Christmas, I know it's not easy when you are on your own. I get through it by telling myself it's just one day. I'm working night's, so will be sleeping during the day. My dc are at their dad's, they're coming home tomorrow afternoon, then i can relax and enjoy our Christmas.

Thank you to everyone for the support.
It's just a day (but those of you with your little ones, I do hope it is really great).
I had too much to drink yesterday afternoon/ evening (which I don't usually do at all, just wanted oblivion from all this feeling) and this morning realise I seem to have answered my phone from work. I vaguely remember not being able to speak but what did they want and what did I say? I am hugely anxious about it - how could I be so stupid???