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<whispers> I potentially have a date tonight with a very nice looking (iirc) young man

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MascaraOHara · 27/11/2008 10:26

I'm trying not to get carried away as it might yet fall through (would't surprise me)

But eek.. I have a date! with a nice looking 28yo.. that I actually met in a bar a couple of weeks ago.

I've been playing it uber cool as I actually wasn't that fussed about meeting up with him, I think that might be what has kept him interested.. but now today is here, I'm feeling a little excited!

First proper date in some time and I'm a little hopeful as I haven't been 'looking' lately

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MascaraOHara · 11/12/2008 14:36

Tell me about your ninah? how long have you been seeing him etc

last night was nice, had to boot him out about 12:30 though as was knackered.. I'm not sure he's the one for me but I have to get over the fact that whenever someone is interested I go cold on them and whenever they aren't I turn into a pyscho lol

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cheekysealion · 11/12/2008 18:59

MOH - I am exactly the same as you... I prob wouldnt be intrested in him if he showed any flicker of and interest in me!!! ha ha
it is beacuse he said that to me i think right but i want you

anyway i will be chatting to him tonight, i have a feeling he will mention sunday but i dont want to talk about it apart from to tell him he was a heartless git..

Most people i have spoke to think he is bitter about what happened between us all those years ago.. and it did come across before all of this saga that he seemed to blame me for all his relationship failures.. like if we had stayed as one he wouldnt have gone through all of the other heartaches...
And this is kind of his revenge

I think we need to build some trust between us so he knows that we will not lose our friendship again

even though i hate what he did on sunday and wont ever forget it.. i do want to stay in touch with him..

What is wired is he is so down on himself... he puts himself down. and even after he told me he didnt fancy me he said why do you want more from me i am ..... and ..... etc really putting himself down...

I think he is insecure around me for some reason...

wintercitylover · 11/12/2008 22:29

tee hee MOH that's the story of my life ie interested in me - I go cold when they go cold I turn into pyscho in fact have just sent two needy txts to exbf

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MascaraOHara · 12/12/2008 09:28

WCL I will give you a friendly for texting exbf.. but I've done it before (too many times lol), especially with exbf who gave me no answers as to what happened/was going on

CSL, how did last night go?

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wintercitylover · 12/12/2008 11:05

yes my second one was along the lines of I need u to know whether or not to stop contacting you!!

I also tried ringing (dutch courage due to large amounts of wine consumed at our work Xmas lunch) but no answer - however he was prob driving so couldn't.

It suits him to keep me dangling I am sure.

I really need to delete his no again - last time I did that he txt me the next day saying how much I meant to him [hmmm]

wintercitylover · 12/12/2008 11:05

rather, ' I need to know from u whether or not to stop contacting you'

ninah · 12/12/2008 17:41

Met him online back in July and in rl in October. Seemed nice to talk to, bit dull, very plain. Quite liked him but not sure I could fancy him and he's now becoming rather intense eg using the L word which is freaking me out; the more he texts the more it irritates me. Suspect it may be my prob too, like you say, no one who likes me that much could be that worth liking conundrum. I know I need to tell him

cheekysealion · 12/12/2008 22:09

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MascaraOHara · 15/12/2008 10:18

WCL - did he reply?
Ninah - any update?

Just logged on after a break this weekend and I'm now dying to know what you wrote CSL I am far too nosy.

So I have an update... Saw my NB last night for a DVD he's so lovely and makes me laugh so much/go all girly.. I still have my doubts but I think it's more about what other people will think, which sounds really shallow. I'm telling myself it doesn't matter as what matters is how we get on as a couple.. which is great, seem to really bounce off each other.

Everything's moving really slowly but it's really good (atm)

Seem to swing from feeling like he's not right for me to feeling like it could really go somewhere

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wintercitylover · 15/12/2008 11:17

Hi MOH - he didn't but tbh I don't expect him to at the moment. However I don't think that's the last I have heard from him.

I am upset generally about the situation with him but it's been going on for so long now it's almost become the norm I'm afraid. Last Nov I was sent away with work for four days and clearly remember feeling upset then.

The difference now is that I am exploring other options whereas then I wasn't so slow progress.

What is it about NB that you have doubts about? ie what do you think other people will think?

christmaseve · 15/12/2008 12:31

Been following this thread. I'm sat waiting for my new man to arrive. We had a week together, he's been gone 5 weeks and is on his way with no immediate plans to leave!!! We've got a lot of getting to know each other to go through.. Wish me luck.

wintercitylover · 15/12/2008 13:43

Good luck Eve - I hope he has arrived now and you are having a lovely time.

It would be so nice to hear a real success story.

ninah · 15/12/2008 16:58

makes you laugh MOH, got to be a big plus. What do you think everyone will think? I mean he's a 'very nice looking young man' no?! I think they will be
Only update here is I am avoiding the phone, what a wuss.
Know what you mean about feeling sure one min, doubtful the next. But you seem to be happy, so stick with it!

cheekysealion · 15/12/2008 17:53

hi all.....

well not a lot to report.. spoke on thursaday night... he asked me over for a coffee on friday... so i went but could only stay an hour....

then he phoned me friday night at 11pm to say lovely to see you thanks for poppping in today.. we spoke for an hour...and he asked me to go over sat - i said i wasnt sure but said i would let him know...

Sat- i texted him to say i couldnt go (i didnt want to see him to much TBH)

He left a message on my answerphone at 6ish...asking me to ring him back, i didnt and he rang again at 7pm... I spoke to him and it was all very nice...

Sunday he rings me again, i was on phone about 15 mins then said to him i needed to go. and when i say this he always says oh you not going yet are you??

TBH i dont know what is going on, he did tell me the first night that he never thought he would ever go out with anyone that has children, (but then who plans to do that???) although he went on to say a had told him he would settle with someone that has 2 children, and he always asks me about my 2 whenever we talk..

I dont know what he is thinking to be honest i really dont, all i know is that if anything is going to happen then he must know he has to be the one to make the move after what he said to me..

And i now realise that i was silly to think we would meet up and start up straight away from where we left off.. think it may be more of a slow burn

What do you all think?

and we are meant to be going out on sat...

cheekysealion · 15/12/2008 17:55

and i am trying to leave it a bit up to him now without being stand offish ... as i def dont want to be the one to pester him IYSWIM
i just drop him the odd text every now and then

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