<whispers> I potentially have a date tonight with a very nice looking (iirc) young man

[MascaraOHara]

I'm trying not to get carried away as it might yet fall through (would't surprise me)

But eek.. I have a date! with a nice looking 28yo.. that I actually met in a bar a couple of weeks ago.

I've been playing it uber cool as I actually wasn't that fussed about meeting up with him, I think that might be what has kept him interested.. but now today is here, I'm feeling a little excited!

First proper date in some time and I'm a little hopeful as I haven't been 'looking' lately

hello MOH - your dating life sounds a bit like mine LOL (have posted on other thread)

I seem to veer from having lots of attention to nothing. What really pisses me off is that the control seems to be in their hands (people will tell you otherwise but they seem to call the shots initially anyway_.

Good luck with the new guy. Have you heard any more from cx date guy?

As I have just posted on other thread - got chatting to a really nice enthusiastic guy who was also quite measured.
We have made a day to meet but no firm arrangements. Said he would call yesterday but hasn't so am just debating whether to text him.

he hasn't been online so suggests he is otherwise engaged could be anything possibly another date possibly just seeing friends.

He seemed so keen can't believe that much would have changed since early hours of sat when we were last in touch.

he is the first one to really turn my head - have more or less given up on the on/off exbf who I was seeing since mid 07.

ExH still gives me grief it would be so nice to have some uncomplicated fun (ie a nice date) and see where it goes.

good luck keep us posted

i found myself a nice one finally

I've asked you for more details on the other thread lol

oh i just replied

LINK TO OTHER THREAD PLEASE!!!!

Yes I am shouting. I NEED to catch up on the news from both of you :D

Lou, not spoke to you for a few weeks, tell all. Will probably be on msn later!

CL, will post on your other thread when I find it. Sounds good

I'm a bit giddy and hyper today, I still have a supid permanent grin, trying to conceal at work so the guys don't cotton on only had a little kiss, imagine what I'm going to be like if I get more - actually hope it's not a terrible let down

he's so lovely and a toy boy. can't wait to get my hands on him but we have a small hurdle to overcome first, he's a good friend of an ex of mine (from 11 yrs ago) but it was the ex's party that we met at and ex still holds a torch.. was gushing to both of us about how glad he was the other one had come... we both felt a bit icky about it.. but it was 11yrs ago.

So please, link to other thread and I can catch on your news.

oh stop me gushing! it's cos not prepared to tell anybody in RL yet lol

it's here moh

i should be about tonight, tho not sure for how long, i seem to have a chest infection starting

mine is a toy boy too 12 and a bit yrs younger

yes the one I was talking to last week a toy boy. Really a bit below my psychological cut off point. But I could be persuaded.

ExH was 11 years older and there is a 19 year difference between him and his new P (he is older).

But I am def up for toyboy - exbf was 6 years younger.

i do have a cut off point as well, but it isnt 29 luckily

ah you guys, he's only 3 years younger than me.. I don't have a patch on you lot

he is talking to the mutual friend tonight, gonna make sure everything is cool before we actually go out

i cant see why they would mind after 11 years, i mean it isnt like it was only a few months ago

lol, no he will be fine but he will (internally ) be gutted.

he hasn't moved on, that's the problem.. never met anybody else

he will be fine but one of us needs to tell him before he hears from someone else. they are good friends. I don't care, the friend is a chore for me so I told new bloke to paint me as the bad guy if need be

not moved on after 11 years

what did you do to him?!!!

ought to say he'd suggested to new bloke that he might try getting back together with me. told new blooke out right there wasn't a chance of that happening

Am being premature callin ghim new bloke really but hey!

I know Lou, it's frightening. slightly worried he might do something stupid.. he was always very 'needy'

at what point was your ex going to give you a say in this reunion?

do something stupid in what way?

oh just I dunno. I'm 95% certain he'll be absolutely fine about it.

spoke to new bloke, we are going out later in the week. but he's not see the guy who's party it was until tomorrow now to tell him. Have decided not to reply to the guy who I originally started this thread about but we'll see lol

my msn is playing up tonight. can't login

will catch up soon

ah yeh my new man said his msn was playing up earlier too, he got on eventually tho

Jeez need some advice - sorry to hijack,

Hardly slept last night - one of those whirling mind nights.

Feel like shit this morning. Anyway advice - toyboy despite sounding soo promising and genuine last week - said amongst other things couldn't wait to meet, get to know me, wanted to take things slow blah blah blah lis blanking me - I stupidly logged onto website in early hours and there he was. Logged off again pronto.

I am not sure who is the bigger idiot - me for semi falling for such bullcrap or him for spouting it.

Anyway shall send him mail pointing out his bad manners or leave it. Off to work soon will log on again when I get there.

hiya, just happened to log in. I would leave it if I were you.. chalk it up to bad experience, some of the blokes off internet sites are idiots.

I'm still registered on MSF but have had hardly no luck with that one. I sort of gave up actively looking a while ago then met the guy who I started this thread about whilst out with a girlfriend snd then saw R at a mutual friend party 2 weeks later.

I would not reply to that guy and carry on messaging others, I had lots who sounded really up for it and then just went cold.. I think most people are talking to more than one person at a time then they prioritise.. I can't complain too much as I would do the same thing.

Sorry you are feeling shite though think you have to try and let a lot of it wash over you when online dating

moh is right, leave it, he isnt really worth the effort

loads of blokes say that, but are usually saying it to loads of others at the same time, to see who they can haul in

sending him a piece of your mind would elevate him to the status where he would believe you actually gave a shit, and most likely achieve bugger all

if he gets in touch again just say, sorry do i know you?

Yeah you're right of course thx - I talk to more than one of course but don't feed them lots of bullshit.

Listen to the lyrics of If I Were A Boy by Beyonce for further clarification (if it were really needed).

Hopefully get an early night tonight. All the things were going round in my head plus DCs have been monsters over the last couple of days, am getting hassle at work and and old work colleague has just passed away after a long illness.

I am actually wondering whether to delete my profile for a while - maybe till after Xmas.

uk.youtube.com/watch?v=BVTyLqkez6A

i think the thing is to take it all with a generous pinch of salt until they prove they are worth trusting

yeah, I agree with Lou.

but also and perhaps more importantly... It should be fun!!!

If you are feeling like it's not fun anymore then hide your profile for a few weeks or just don't log in for a few days.. I used to get to points where it stopped being fun but would give myself a break then start up again when I was bored/feeling liek a bit of a laugh/ego boast again