Anyone doing or done the internet dating thing?

[MrsSnape]

Getting sick of spending all my time alone. I never go out anywhere to meet anyone though so at the moment it seems this is the only way to go.

Have tried it a few times before but never had much luck, I've never put much effort in though and have always done half arsed profiles and usually no pic

it might be he has been online as he had a message saying he had mail, but isnt actually looking iyswim? i do that, so it looks like i may have been on but i was only reading messages and probably not replying lol

i dont see the harm in you seeing him once more to see how you feel though.

as for me, we have both said we would like to see each other again, but he is due to go away for 2 weeks on army exercises (he is a para), so it might not be til the beginning of november

he is a 40 min drive from me as well, so not just round the corner, but if we can, we will try and meet up one evening before he goes for a drink, but with all my sick kids it may not be possible

he earned bonus points from me tho by telling me i looked beautiful when he saw me (plus he bought some milk on the way because i had run out)

ooh lou that sounds good! what sort of age is he?
my blokey is 40min drive away too.

He has texted me lots today, plus rung me twice ! yay! although i think he was ringing to see if i was ok seeing as my car broke down at the side of the dual carriageway!!

He has a crappy motorbike at the mo, he says he is selling it to get a car so he can come to see me more easily! bless, deffo in my good books today now.

you're probably right. Anyway he's not coming up in searches now . I just realised I DO quite like him!
Your para sound lovely, if he makes a good impression in Tescos, and with sick children - what's not to like?
As for the 40 mins, going away etc - I think it's good in a way, it forces you to go slowly. Sometimes I think I wish it was easier to arrnage dates, instead of around children, but all the hassle really makes you develop a friendship first and weeds out the horny dullards lol. He says you're beautiful too! tho from when I was on here before 3ish years ago I think I saw your profile, in hat? and yes he is right.
He sounds really nice lou.
And good news from agbu.

oh thats good news agbu

oh ninah i like the fact he isnt too close, it means i get my own space as well

as for him being nice and doing/saying the right things, well they all do at the start dont they ? I wont take anything too seriously,my track record with long term romance isnt exactly great lol

i will just enjoy it for what it is atm and see what happens, he is only 8m out of a 12 yr relationship/marriage, and i am the first woman he has seen since then

agbu he is 32, and i will be 42 in january

I dunno what they do this was my first date for 7 years!
8 months sounds soonish, but it's different for everyone and that's for him to figure out. As you say, enjoy! I'd like to be comfortable with someone but on the other hand the concept of long-term and settling down eludes me. When I go to social stuff (v traditional family life round here) I am so relieved not to be married!
I am 42 next year, too.

i ended up having a serious relationship 9m after splitting with my h, though i hadnt planned to

i can understand completely why he would be wary, so was i (tho actually it was very good for me)

wow first date in 7 years?!! that must have been quite nervewracking for you, well done, i hope it turns out as you would like

thanks, will let you know how the next one goes, no doubt!
I think things were going wrong with your h around the same time as ex and I. Was offline for ages after. Hope you are happy now, if anyone had told me I'd be so much happier overall as a lone p I'd never have believed them, but it's true. Relocated, made friends, even a job on the horizon; take or leave the man situation it's an all round winner.
Good luck with your para. I imagine him storming up to the school gates, wiping up sick and handing you a box of chocs like a modern take on the old Milk Tray ads

haha ninah!

hardly, tho he did get out of the car to unlock the school gates so i could get in to get ds2 (building work means they are keeping them shut during the day), and lock htem again behind me!

3 yrs i have been split with exh , in a few weeks time, and you are right, i am 100% happier without him

i think it got to the stage where i thought anything had to be better than the way i was living, and i was right

i've had lots of dates, one serious relationship and a few brief ones, so i am not reading anything into it aside from just enjoying it for now

but i will enjoy it

good for you.
I wonder what happened to op? Mrs Snape, where are you, have you been scared off, or are you being so enviably successful with dates you are off mn?!

she is probably wading through thousands of emails from potential new men

dating update

the younger guy who went awol last week has come back with a major apology so we might meet up yet.
He has asked to anyway. He knew I was pissed off with him. He will only get one more chance.

Meeting another (rather gorgeous) one this wed so fingers crossed.

Must stop comparing them all to exbf though!!

OMG you are all so lucky!

Met a lovely bloke through FRD in 2004, we stayed together for 5 months. He had major issues with his ex wife. His DS liked me though. Was my last date until 2008.
Went with POF and met 3 blokes. They were all just players and didn't give a shit. Where did I go wrong?
1st one was interested but not that interested.
2nd one had the kids dropped on him mid date. He doesn't even msn now.
And the 3rd? He was so self centred, his head was stuck up his arse.

It's nice reading the sucess stories here though. It gives me hope somewhat, that all the nice men aren't married off or gay.....

Keep going Purpleone!

i must have chatted to over 200 men on these sites before i found anyone half decent!

Like you, i had 3 pretty rubbish dates before i met the one i am seeing now;

date no 1:
had the shits and bought me £1 pizza for our meal, also brought his mum along!

Date no 2:
just wanted to shag me and nothing else, though he was lush.

Date no 3:
didnt really fancy each other and he suddenly left half way through date!!

I think you just have to think of it as a bit of fun. i have only been seeing my boy (Will Young look-a-likey) for a couple of weeks, and it probably wont go that far, but god its fun!!

agree with allg purple.

I've talked to tonnes online, treat most as a laugh for the night - tbh they're lucky if I talk to them a second night - 3 and it's something serious! lol.

I've met thou

1. hmm, he was amazing, but well didn't stop around long (sailor) in hindsight wasn't good as he was the first one after XH in 8 years.
2. only after sex - still talk sporadically. didn't fancy him thou.
3. is my new man best friend! have just set him up with a lovely lady as well so he's off having loads of fun. (fab bloke another time n place maybe etc but well, ho hum!)
4. bellend. (no more need be said - was 39 going on 69! and is actually friends with DP's uncle - lets not hope we all meet up at some point!)
5. XP, who well, lets just say this ISSSSHHOOOOOOOS!!! not good at all, deffo not good. was trying to lead me down a path I didn't want to go and got pissed off when he realised I wouldn't be controlled & manipulated by him so he was out the door!
6. DP - is lovely (right now anyhow! lol) he's v in touch with his emotions (bit too much at times) has met DS once in a playing ball for a couple of hours type thing (was quite important to me to do that, they got on fab so they'll not meet for ages again - after xmas I should think)

as they say gotta kiss a load of toads to get a prince, I have! (well ok 6!)

over all thou chat on line for a while (DP was 2 months before he really started pushing for a date,) and tbh we emailed back n forth for a while, then I stop emailing and see if they're interested really - don't always have another one back but well DP was persistent and sent another after about 10 days. anyhow first date if you ask me should be a quick coffee in town or such likes to sus if you get on in RL, then you can have a second date after that. With DP he sneaked in a kiss outside (after waiting an hour for me in the train station) and i thought WOW I have this man! ) a few months down the line and it's the same.

WOW I have to have* this man!

yes i think the key is to just have fun and dont read anything too serious into them, just have a good time and see what happens

Yup!Did the internet dating thing,had one disastrous date,but decided to give internet dating another go,met a wonderful guy,and we're still together 8 months on!
Think it's a great way to get to know someone BEFORE you meet them.How many times in the past haven't one met a guy out in a club for eg,found him very attractive just to discover he'd zero personality!lol
I'm not saying that internet dating works for everyone,but for me it def did:-)t

hi tetti

lou, when are you seeing your supermarket man again?

i saw him yesterday

OK todays has not happened due to six of one and half a dozen of the other.

Have been talking to this one for ages since July. Lots of sexy banter (orginally said I would not do that with someone online but there you are am very selective LOL)

He has an enhanced crb check type job and I have confirmation he works there.

We were going to meet in my area (he lives about 40 miles away) but then he said he had to take his son unexpectedly somewhere mid afternoon so asked me to come to him. Said he would pick me from station.

I didn't feel entirely comfortable with it though I am sure he is OK. But maybe I am just getting too insular. Some of my relatives live in his area so it is not entirely unfamiliar to me.

Then DS2 woke up this morning and said he wasn't feeling well - I sent him to school but they do tend to ring for anything and didn't want to be so far away in case they did.

So I cx but then date said he wasn't feeling brill either.

(recalls time when exbf came round not feeling well but still wanting to see me and was really ill on way home (lived some distance away) and had major food poisoning which knocked him out for a week)

I really do want to meet him as he is lush but it's going to be quite difficult. I think I have run out of annual leave and he has a second job.

But I suppose if we want to badly enough then it will happen.

I suppose what I am trying to say is that you could meet someone once or twice in a public place and then maybe somewhere quieter LOL but you can never know 100% if they are dodgy. The fact you have met in a public place twice for example will not necessarily mean you are safe if you then decide to take things further.

There was another thread about this where they were saying everyone is a stranger when you meet them.

My instinct about this guy is that he is OK. and I think I have developed a good radar for this type of thing over the years. And on odd occasions met guys in bars who could have been axe murderers.

(this is my mother's neuroses and paranoia coming out in me btw - she is scared of getting in a licensed cab for god's sake)

citylover, i am going to have this problem with the paratrooper, if we keep seeing each other

he got told yesterday he is going to afghan for 6m in april not next october as he though, and from now til then he has almost back to back exercises, which will mean 2 weeks away and a few days back

he goes away on saturday for the first one, id on duty tonight, has some army dinner thing on friday, and thurs might not be good for both of us

and the thing is, lou, in a fit of pique last week (when toyboy guy didn't make last Sat - tho he has now come good with a legitimate reason) I made arrangements to see girlfriends on my next two free Saturdays, which are every other week.

So looks like any dates I make cannot now be until end November. How hard can it be????

yes same as me and this soldier, i wont see him til november if we can fit it in then tbh

shame cos the last time i felt the same kind of spark was with my ex bf who emigrated