Anyone doing or done the internet dating thing?

[MrsSnape]

Getting sick of spending all my time alone. I never go out anywhere to meet anyone though so at the moment it seems this is the only way to go.

Have tried it a few times before but never had much luck, I've never put much effort in though and have always done half arsed profiles and usually no pic

I understand what you are all saying about having to contact alot of men before finding one you'd actually like to meet up with. but I just think that meeting someone via the internet isn't going to be for me. It reminds me too much of the way I met xp and makes me feel too vunerable and to easy to be lied to.

I think i will stick to the old old fashioned way of meeting someone, although I realise that in my case that does mean that it is unlikely to ever happen.

No it does not mean that.

I met my exH when I had finished with an exbf and had decided to lay off men for a while.

Another old cliche but you literally do not know what it just around the corner.

Sorry if I sound harsh. But negative self talk can become a self fulfilling prophecy (sp!!).

well i know wouldnt meet anyone the old fashioned way because i dont go out anywhere and i dont have a woirk place ort young children that i take to school or any other kind of contacts where i meet people

and i agree that youve got to stop thinking of finding "the one" and perhaps focus your energies on having fun with these blokes.

Dating should be fun, and you should pick and chose who you want without being too picky!

Yes the bloke i am dating is sweet, and we have done the deed and now can chat on the phone for hours in the middle of the night (!) but:
a)i will not let him meet my kids!
b) i will not talk/let him talk about having kids together!
c) i will not meet his friends/family for a loooooooooooooong time!

He keeps mentioning that i am keeping him at arm's length, and the truth is - yes i am!

i can understand being afraid of getting hurt

but i think that is part of life

i will get hurt in the end but i will have had lots of fun and happiness in between

yes I have just taken a knock back from someone who has been pursuing me since about July on one website - I finally succumbed to his advances (he was alot younger hence my hesitancy). So I let him in (virtually speaking) he couldn't stop texting, emailing, when could he meet me so I agreed to meet him tomorrow then after last weekend he went a bit quiet. So I texted him and he said he was still on but I had a bad feeling.

Perhaps he got a better offer but he just has to say I'm a big girl and can handle it!

Then he is ignoring me have absolutely no idea why at all. have just txted him to say his manners are appalling and have deleted his contact details.

That has hurt my pride rather but I will just have to get on with it.

Good job I was also in touch with someone else. Now if he bottles out I will be pissed off!!

I can't do casual relationships, i get hurt too easily.

I am not saying that I am only going to look for the one, but I am also not going to go for someone with whom I wouldn't even consider having a long term relationship. I just think it is odd.

Th reason that I said i'll be waiting a long time if i go the old fashioned route, wasn't to be negative, it is just true. I don't go out so I won't meet anyone that way.

I know that my main problem is lack of self confidence and self esteem but if anything this is getting worse not better and I seem to have recently locked myself in self destruct mode wrt my health and my weight thinking along the lines of, well what is the point cos there is noone to care anyway and am eating to the point where I am making myself feel ill.

Same with clothes, hair, make-up etc, why bother.

I know i am doing it but can't seem to stop.

Hey, it will all get better, it will.

How will you know if someone will be a long-term thing or a fling if you dont give them a chance?
You will never know what it will or wont turn out to be?

Yes you do stand the chance of getting hurt if you do really like them and it turns out they arent so keen. But nothing ventured, nothing gained, its the same for everyone, including me.

You dont meet someone one day and ask them "oh, will you be with me for the rest of my life?"
You have to take it day by day and see if anything develops!

sorry about the date city lover

i got irritated with the only other guy i actually met off the internet who seemed keen but also seemed to think he was doing me a favour

i was quite pleased to be able to tell him he was an arrogant twat and turn the tables as in fact i was seeing someone else (much nicer)

i think the job will be really good nutty

it will give you some structure and motivation and interest outside the children and the house

ive done things to meet people in rl, which is great but after the course/holiday/event is over it is back to square one

im not sure id find it as easy to make the effort to do this online dating thing again..i think i was just determined and hyper when i did...i was really scared of never meeting anyone man or woman again

I think you must first feel strong in yourself and then go with the flow!

Do you feel valid within your own family unit?
ie I sometimes feel like a little tiny family unit but then again I feel we are still strong and valid.

I am not usually one to give advice but you can't see what I see.

You are a woman in the prime of your life who is successfully running a home, bringing up a family. You have so much to be proud of.

God knows the country relies on this silent army of people doing what you and I do.

I don't know you but I have seen your posts since you were nuttty. And I feel an empathy with you.

i had a last minute date this afternoon, in tesco of all places

he asked to meet me , i said i was going shopping so he met me there lol

How did it go Lou???

i went out with a russian millionaire! it was like a james bond film!

it was different !

it was ok actually, he traipsed about with me whilst i bought food and a few xmas/birthday bits, then we went for a coffee somewhere else, and i came home

he is a paratrooper, fitness instructor, was v nice and didnt act like a nob

Did you fancy him lou??

he was quite appealing yes

ooh, do tell!!

6ft, shaved head, light brown eyes, muscular, but not overly so, made me laugh, didnt try and cop a feel (a good thing), and 32 (a very good thing )

he coaches boxing judo, kickboxing and teaches self defence, and does the fitness classes for his regiment

oooh, i think you should bone him!! (sorry, that is my word of the day)

i have been boning all afternoon...[smug face]

DO IT DO IT!!!!

hahaha do you think?

he has to convince me he is worth the honour first

wait , do you mean you have been using the word bone all afternoon or actually doing it?!!!

actually doing it Lou, of course.

I can barely walk....aahhh its been a looooooooooooooooong time...

oh my word

well done you

it's not been that long for me, so i am in no rush, my hormones are under control atm and i am not rubbing up against trees in desperation

see i got sick of abusing all the trees

thought it best i abuse Will Young's penis instead.

does he sing at the same time?