Anyone doing or done the internet dating thing?

[MrsSnape]

Getting sick of spending all my time alone. I never go out anywhere to meet anyone though so at the moment it seems this is the only way to go.

Have tried it a few times before but never had much luck, I've never put much effort in though and have always done half arsed profiles and usually no pic

i wasnt saying women couldnt be, but i date men so clearly thats for you to have more knowledge on

i make no secret of hte fact i have kids though, i wouldnt meet a guy in the first place if he had issues in that respect

it's not like i want a new dad for them or am turning up in a wedding dress on the first date, so there should be no problems

I met Dh 6 years ago on an internet dating site, here we are 6 years and 3 children later, he still doesn't know what hit him

Personally, I'd have no objection to dating a woman with a child/children - but I'd like to think I would have another one myself and actually be allowed to watch them grow up (as opposed to my son who is only permitted to spend time with me once a fortnight).

you sound like you are very much looking for a serious relationship lostdad

i think that is quite hard to find online from the start..i would feel it was a bit pressurizing

do you tell people that is what you are looking for

My Dp always says...'you don't get the cow without the calf'. Very true and should be acceptable to turn that around from cow to bull.

AGBU, I am shallow too when it comes to height. I made a list of un/acceptables, one of which was minimum height of 6 feet(iirc). Dp turns out to be 6'3", that means I can go out in heels and still look up at him...Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!

mostly they are a bunch of horny dullards tho, you do have to dig about to find anyone halfway decent, but they do exist

just having a vision of the bargain bin men near the door

True Lou I generally don't believe a word anyone says anymore tbh! Xcept for close friends of course.

Lost dad, hope I am not speaking out of turn here - I find it hard to believe that most women would really expect you to exclude your son. In fact that would actually endear me to a man if he was very keen to maintain contact.

You are clearly in a difficult and unfair situation but do you think that they may find your feelings/bitterness about sitation hard to handle rather than the situation itself ie if they are very intense and always close to the surface ie pervading everything

I am purely speculating of course and tell me to bog off if I am completely wrong. Just trying to understand why a woman might be put off.

I do know that when a couple of really traumatic things happened to me some time ago I really wore them on my sleeve and would tell anyone and everyone about them. When I look back I can see that they were becoming bigger than me and my life itself. Ultimately I developed a sense of who and when to tell and how soon I should tell in detail. Hope that makes sense!!

Blimey lostdad I don't think I'd be keen on any man who was prepared to abandon his DC. In fact I'd steer well clear! Who on earth are these women?

MrsSnape I met a very nice man on POF and we have been together for 8 months and counting.

lou33 is right there are a lot of 'horny dullards' but decent blokes too so if you are feeling 'up for it' then why not try.

erm, what's pof????????

plentyoffish.com

free dating site

very popular

ah thank you

have just registered on parents already and another one - does that make me sound desperate or just casting my net a lot wider this time to catch better fish lol

nothing wrong in casting your net wider, don't put all your eggs in one basket with pof, happy fishing

thanks

pmsl at horny dullards!

Has anyone else come across the rank hypocrisy of some of the guys on internet dating sites tho? I started 'chatting' with one man and it all seemed to be going really well - lots in common - until he asked me if my son lived with me all the time. I answered honestly (fool), yes, but he stays over at his dad's occasionally and my parents are nearby and always up for babysitting. Never heard another word, even tho he had kids too. He wasn't the only one - seems to me that for a lot of men it's ok for them to have kids but not the women they want to meet.

I hate all sweeping generalisations, scorpio24.

Women are just as bad you know...

I have found that women without kids often don't want men with kids and vice versa.
whether you are serious or not about the other person, often the perceived intention of being on dating sites is to find someone to be with. if you have no kids of your own, ''taking on'' someone elses kids can seem very daunting. I had a g/f around the time of my first ''final hearing'' a few years ago. she was younger than I was and had no kids of her own but she adored my son and he loved her, but when it looked as if I were going to get main residence, she cooled down a lot and eventually disappeared, the idea of being with my son at the weekends was ok but probably too much for her a majority of time.(she had been talking about starting our own family so was not averse to the idea of kids).
another example is one of my mates from uni. He had no children of his own but met a woman with 3 kids. all was great until he moved in with her several months later and then thats when problems started to arise. the kids father was ''upset'' that his kids had a new bloke in their lives and started to cause problems and the kids became very upset and confused. he was a brilliant step living with partner parent figure and as he had seen what had happened with me and my son, he was sympathetic to and aware of the kids dad. he ended the relationship some time later as he couldn't carry on and the kids were going through hell, he has since vowed never to date a mother again!!
some people don't realise what they are missing when they don't want to or rule out completely, the idea of dating a lone/single parent but others will have their own reasons for not doing so that is not one of ignorance or stupidity that seems reasonable and right to them, personally I like the idea of mothers as you can get to know them far more and on a deeper level as you get to see a side of their character you don't usually see before you have settled down and got your own kids and that works equally the other way round too, a woman can get to see the other side of a bloke that she wouldn't see until after she had given birth!!

Met my Will Young look-a-likey again for our 2nd date today at lunch! Yay!
He was very sweet, holding my hand as we walked along, trying to kiss me a lot!
He is coming over this week to my town to see me..

Found him on POF on Friday just gone!

Also, he seems really interested that i have kids, he says he wants to meet them asap but seeing as i have only known him 4 days i dont think so!!!!!!!

My ex was great with my daughter too, took her on as his own, dont think it ever ocurred to him to be worried that i had a child.

glad it went well again, but i agree he doesnt need to meet them yet, if you have someone to look after them when you meet up

eek, last min date with a guy i saw last week, got hardly any time to get ready!

ive never had a relationship with a man who has children i really dont know how i would find that

i suspect i wouldnt like it

have a nice time lou

am dithering about if its worth it now, lol, am meant to be seeing him tomorrow anyway