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Well, now it appears my parents & my ex husband are taking boys away next weekend!

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Pinkchampagne · 20/08/2008 22:13

Haven't heard from my parents yet, but ex H told me tonight, that they are talking of going to London for the weekend because they think it will be nice for the boys, which it will...but I wasn't asked, just my ex! He has apparently booked next weekend off work in preperation. It is just slightly odd this whole set up, isn't it?!

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Denny185 · 20/08/2008 22:15

R they doing it to give you a well earned rest?

AbbeyA · 20/08/2008 22:20

Do they get on really well with your ex H?

Pinkchampagne · 20/08/2008 22:20

No, they are like a little family unit. My ex sees more of my family than I do!
I don't really mind - I do appreciate a rest, but seems slightly odd that they are all going off together!

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ChasingSquirrels · 20/08/2008 22:21

yes it is - but you already know that - and that you can't seem to do anything.
they have behaved bizarly thoughout.
how are u?

Pinkchampagne · 20/08/2008 22:22

I think they prefer him to me, AA!

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CarGirl · 20/08/2008 22:25

I think I would tackle their bizarre behaviour with a "how wonderful, new man and I can have the weekend to ourselves - it's so great that you're supportive of my new relationship" all gushy etc.

I guess just accept the reality and try and move on. My friends are my family tbh I've distanced myself from the parents and am a much happier person because of it.

BreeVanderCampLGJ · 20/08/2008 22:25

Is it his weekend to have the boys ??

If so, as long as he does not take them to Soho, and does not endanger them etc., etc., then I should think you can not do a blessed thing....

Pinkchampagne · 20/08/2008 22:25

I'm not too bad thanks, CS. I am no longer overly shocked about anything, it is almost laughable because it is so bizarre!
He was round there most of last weekend when he looked after boys. He was cooked for & I think he stayed overnight because he was drinking with my dad until late. Think all this was planned then, but my parents haven't spoen to me about it yet.

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BreeVanderCampLGJ · 20/08/2008 22:26

A fiver says... this is connected to the solicitors letters, he has received of late.

Call me cynical............

ChasingSquirrels · 20/08/2008 22:29

agree with cargirl - have some fun with new man

Pinkchampagne · 20/08/2008 22:29

Oh I am thinking along those lines, CG! It doesn't make me angry - doesn't really shock me, but is just a tad odd!

Bree - he doesn't have set times where he sees boys as he works shifts, so he has themwhen he can. I am not worried & won't say anything to make a fuss etc. Just thought I would share the latest! I don't think I would fancy a weekend away with my parents anyway!!

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CarGirl · 20/08/2008 22:32

Bree yes of course exactly.

I wonder how your ex will cope when your parents are elderly and need his help etc then. I wonder if your ex is actually capable of looking after the boys on his own properly tbh. Or does he just need the constant approval of your parents.........

he's very wierd, you are so will rid!

AbbeyA · 20/08/2008 22:36

It does seem odd but then I have obviously missed previous postings. I suppose that you will know that 3 people are looking after DSs.

Pinkchampagne · 20/08/2008 22:39

I wonder about that too, CG. I know I am lucky in that he has them frequently, but when he has them for a weekend, he goes from his friend's house (where he gets drunk & lets them run wild) to my parents. When I have them, I have them alone!

Not sure about the connection to the divorce, but you could have a point. He was desperate for my parents not to be told about that...too late!!

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Pinkchampagne · 20/08/2008 22:44

My boyfriend chuckled when he heard they were all off for a weekend away!
Let them all do what they like hey?!

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citronella · 22/08/2008 10:11

Hi Pinkchampagne,
I knew this would be you when I saw the title!
It is a tad bizarre but I could see myself doing the same with my ex's parents. I am really glad though that are taking a pretty sanguine attitude to it all 'cos there's not much you can do is there?
I hope you are well though?

Pinkchampagne · 22/08/2008 12:21

It's not so much that they are going away together, but that my parents would arrange it with ex H, but wouldn't think to ask me fist.I don't really care tbh, and not sure I would even want to go away with them, but it just sums up their relationship with ex H!

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Pinkchampagne · 22/08/2008 12:22

that should be "first!"

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Pinkchampagne · 22/08/2008 12:26

How are things with you, citronella?

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Dropdeadfred · 22/08/2008 12:32

PC did your ex apologise for his behaviour to your DS? about the wallet?

Tinkerbel6 · 22/08/2008 12:35

PC it seems like your ex can't be on his own and is seeking a family life, it might all change when he gets a new partner and won't be so much in your parents pocket, maybe you can suggest a family weekend away at some point with your new man, how are your parents around him ?

Pinkchampagne · 22/08/2008 13:33

He didn't apologise as such, but came round that evening on his way to work, to drop round the two games he said he was returning to the shop. He has been fine with boys since thankfully.

Tinkerbel - my dad hasn't even met my new man yet, and doesn't want to even talk of his existence! We have been together a year now, but he won't budge. He says his loyalty is with ex H, and it would be the final nail in the coffin for him if he was to accept another man I was with!

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Pinkchampagne · 22/08/2008 13:34

Ex H has also assured DS1 that he won't be getting a girlfriend!!

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lou33 · 22/08/2008 13:37

i would give him a hammer then pc, your father is something else!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 22/08/2008 13:37

Is he having an affair with one of your parents PC?

It just seems most bizarre.

Glad you arent fretting about the bizarreness though.

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