How much support do you get from your child's father?

[MummyJules]

Just wondered how much support, if any you get from your childs father? I've been split up from my ex for over 2 1/2 years and have one daughter with him who is 5. I struggle continuously with the lack of financial and general support from him and just would be interested to find out what the norm is....

Like many of you I get no support at all - and as my dcs' ex has now been deported I am unlikely to ever get any.

Even when he was here I got no financial support despite informing the CSA of his whereabouts and employment circumstances and him being ordered to pay £x per week - can't remember how much and never got it anyway!

He phones once in a while usually to have a go at me and spend about two minutes talking to the kids - usually asking if they love him and miss him!

Not what I would have chosen for my family's life but hey ho, that's the way it is and the kids luckily seem to accept it without getting too upset.

I suppose one day I will have to take them to see him and meet his side of the family but will have to cross that bridge when I come to it.

I'm so sorry so many of you have such shit XPs. I wonder if they realise what they are missing out on?

Makes me feel very lucky that my X and I live together and when we didn't he came over 3 times a week and he gives me more money than he should. Must remember not to be so ungrateful!

My ex sees daughter once a month for a weekend,more during summer holidays and any other time should he want her. These are all his terms. He pays regular maintance also.

This hasn't always been the case, through the years its been no contact at one point lasting over a year (again his terms).

He will never be the perfect parent (reason why he my ex) but then neither am I. Sometimes he does things to piss me and daughter off other times he do something for daughter totally out the blue.

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