The comments on here are disgusting! 🤢
What the hell have I just read from other women on here? This poor lady was asking for help, she is not claiming UC and hasn’t done and yet you’re tarnishing her with the same brush! We don’t have children to expect to be left to do it all, we don’t think when we are little girls ‘ when I grow up I want to be a single parent and struggle’ life doesn’t always go the way we would like!
To literally have a go at someone for having another child, who is autistic, going to be homeless, has been left to it by their children’s father and is also pregnant is absolutely disgusting, so what OP needs to rely on benefits for a little while so she can get herself and her kids settled? That is what it is there for!!! She has said multiple times she has tried to find a job, start her own businesses and even gone back to college and done courses and you are STILL hammering at her!! Give her a fucking break!! 🤦🏼♀️
Not everyone has a happily ever after you know. It’s more common these days than it was back in my grand parents days, I don’t see you all making shitty comments about the sperm donor whose just up and left this poor woman too it while pregnant?
To say she should have thought about getting pregnant before hand is just unbelievable, hindsight’s a wonderful fucking thing isn’t it? I think a lot of us wish we had some sort of insight before we’ve made decisions in our lives but we learn from it. Why knock a woman down when she’s already feeling the stress and low about her situation as it is!
OP you can go online on the gov site and see what you might be entitled too, I would also get on the council housing list too, you may end up in a bit of a shit hole for a while but it’s a roof over yours and your child’s head, it’s a starting point and sometimes we have to start off low and build up, definitely get CMS involved whether he’s a tax dodger or a money fiddler they will find out trust me, they will eventually do a private investigation and catch him in the act they did with my ex husband. I would also report him to HMRC too. As for UC put a claim ASAP as you will need to start getting money and know what you can get so you can budget if that makes sense? You will get help towards rent too again you will have to ask UC because it’s different for all areas. Also get in touch with your local council as sometimes they can help with first months rent and deposit if they cannot house you.
Maybe you could start a business for the elderly? Where you are a companion? You go there do a little dusting, hoovering, empty bins and mop, and make a cup of tea/coffee and have a natter? If you love animals maybe start a pet sitting business where you advertise looking after people’s pets when they go away, so go in their home feed their cats for them, change litter trays etc you would be a lot cheaper than a cattery plus it’s doing something with animals.
As for your pets unfortunately you will have to rehome them I’m afraid, I know it sucks because I know pets become your family but for now your child and you are priority and there are plenty of people who would give them loving homes.
I hope you get yourself settled and sorted, it’s an awful situation for you to be in and I really feel for you. 🩷 but there is help out there just got to find it.