My X who has systematically been violent towards me and my kids; who watched as we faced being thrown out of our house because he refused to help with any money; who broke in and dragged us all through two years of court nightmare has now decided we should be friends.
I am quite capable of standing up to him these days but his constant new cry is that a) I should do it for my kids (who I have managed to provide for with nothing much from him and look after despite his violence) and b) I am better than being so unforgiving.
It is starting to get to me now as I do believe that my youngest would prefer us to talk. We currently communicate by email only because as soon as he can phone he does it every day. This was what the judge said was ok as well.
My two eldest dont see him. He assaulted my eldest daughter and she wants nothing more to do with him. My son had an awful time at Christmas and has refused to see x for 6 months. He is now in counseling and has agreed to phone contact at the moment but X is pestering us both for more.
Ds has been ill the last three weeks and so I have had to speak to X more often.
Am I right to stand firm?