So you talk to your child's dad

[purpleme12]

My child's dad won't talk to me
I really struggle with it.
We used to talk sometimes. Til he decided not to.
He ignores my texts.
Even when I've tried to talk about our child, he hasn't responded or it's been very obvious he won't get into anything.
Now it's gone to nothing.
Yes I struggle with it. I thought that we would at least communicate, even if nothing else.
I have found it really hard to have no one to talk to about our child at times.
I have found it really hard to be completely ignored.
I didn't think it would be like this

It's hard if you are feeling completely ignored but he clearly doesn't want to talk. How long have you been separated for?

It is the opposite way round with me and my ex, he wants to talk, come round all the time, be updated on ever tiny aspect of the kids lives but I want to move on with my life and not have to chat to him (unless about important things for the kids) or see him.

As hard as it is, I would try to avoid texting etc unless about something very important or to arrange contact.

What kind of problems are you trying/wanting to tell him though? (I don't mean this rude)

'X is finding her homework hard this week' is a bit different to 'X is getting bullied and we need to support her' as it could change how she is when he has her etc. Both could technically count as a problem.

I know it can be hard but if I messaged my ex every time one of the kids fell over or whatever he'd probably tell me to stop and start ignoring me because he doesn't need to know some things.

No it really isn't things like homework and falling over.
It's ok i get it. It does make me sad but I get that in in the minority.
And no I don't text anymore.

I still talk to my ex about our child. I think we both appreciate having someone to chat to who cares about him as much as we do, and that knows him so well. I can totally understand why you'd want to do that. As much as friends/ other relatives might be interested, there's usually no one else quite as invested as the child's parents. Quite surprised other people don't seem to get that? Totally understand if the ex is a total twat or abusive though... But I think in general it does benefit the child is you have open communication about not just the big things but also little things here and there that you've both noticed.

Thank you. I'm really happy you're able to do that for your child.

I get you OP! I hate my EXH and am glad for my own sanity I don’t speak to him at all, he was/is an abusive bastard. On the other hand, though, it is really quite sad to not be sunshiney coparents, who can chat about the kids and their struggles or achievements, while watching their sports games or whatever.

Nobody else is as invested as I am in my kids, even my very lovely friends. That’s normal and to be expected, but yes it is a bit depressing sometimes. I understand why people start threads on here about how proud they are because sometimes you just want to say you’re proud, think they’re amazing, deeply worried, anything inbetween, without sounding like a dickhead.