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Father requesting for birth certificate

31 replies

Flowerpot28 · 07/06/2022 18:43

I'm having some difficulty with my childs father and he's now randomly asked for childs birth certificate which he is on. Why would he want this ? I asked he didn't tell me

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CharlotteSt · 07/06/2022 18:44

Does he want to apply for a passport?

Steelesauce · 07/06/2022 18:45

Just say no. If he really wants one he can apply and buy his own for a few quid.

bellac11 · 07/06/2022 18:46

He can just apply for one, he should have his own copy if he has PR

BiscoffSundae · 07/06/2022 18:46

Anyone can get a copy of a bc 🤷‍♀️

Oizys · 07/06/2022 18:46

Lots of resins I’m sure. I would think passport application is the most likely but can you ask? He can obtain a copy without you anyway so even if you refuse he’ll still be able to get one so best to know what and why he wants it.

Doyoumind · 07/06/2022 18:47

As PP said, it could be for a passport. Do you have a court order?

MintJulia · 07/06/2022 18:57

He could apply for a passport.

Is he a flight risk? Does he have links to another country? You might want to get a court order preventing him from taking your child out of the country without your permission.

BiscoffSundae · 07/06/2022 19:03

Parents already need permission to take a child out of the country if both have PR. Best to just apply for the passport first.

PeekAtYou · 07/06/2022 19:07

He can order his own copy. If he's difficult, it might be hard to get it back from him.

I think he's opening a bank account or ordering a passport

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Flowerpot28 · 07/06/2022 19:35

I've already given him the birth certificate copy years ago I'm assuming he lost it. Our child has a passport so it couldn't be that :/

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dementedpixie · 07/06/2022 19:40

Tell him to order his own copy then

bellac11 · 07/06/2022 19:49

Not sure what the mystery is in any case, he doesnt need a 'reason' for wanting a copy and he can order one himself. You should always have a few copies of your birth cert floating around in case you lose them.

oznia · 07/06/2022 20:22

Absolutely no reason for you to facilitate this request. He's an adult and can sort out getting his own copy if he wants one.

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Flowerpot28 · 07/06/2022 20:49

He's up to something that's why I wanted to know. But yes I won't give him another one he can order it online

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MissMaple82 · 07/06/2022 20:51

Bank account?

BiscoffSundae · 07/06/2022 20:55

If you already have the passport then he can’t be up to much, he’s the father why is it a problem if he has one?

Lizzieismagic · 07/06/2022 20:58

Could he be trying to claim benefits? And saying dc lives with him

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Ohsugarhoneyicetea · 07/06/2022 20:59

Claim child benefit?

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Flowerpot28 · 07/06/2022 21:34

@Lizzieismagic I think you're right that's exactly what he's trying to do. I think he's trying to get housing and then claim benefits

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Flowerpot28 · 07/06/2022 21:36

@BiscoffSundae I'm not stopping him from having one as I said previously I've given him an extra before. I'm curious as to why randomly he's interested all of a sudden to have a birth certificate and giving me grief every time he picks up/drops our child home.

He seems to be building up some kind of case

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Lizzieismagic · 08/06/2022 13:36

Op start keeping receipts.. Of everything you spend on dc. Log any appointments you take them to also. Dr /dentist /barbers /receipts for after school clubs /hobbies they attend. You may need to show you are financially the main carer...
Or ring CB and say you have reason to believe he will make a counter claim. They are really good - when ds moved to me ft and ex was still claiming they stepped in when he tried to make a counter claim.. After they stopped his claim! Stupid twat!!

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Flowerpot28 · 09/06/2022 11:22

@Lizzieismagic thank you so much for the heads up. I've contacted child benefit who said if he does make a claim they will suspend my payments until the investigation is done. I have proof of DC living with me and I purchase everything myself so the investigation wouldn't last very long.

Thank you

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clpsmum · 11/06/2022 08:01

Steelesauce · 07/06/2022 18:45

Just say no. If he really wants one he can apply and buy his own for a few quid.

This

clpsmum · 11/06/2022 08:02

He would need birth certificates to raise court action is that a possibility?

RoseAndRose · 11/06/2022 08:04

As he had one and lost it, I think it's up to him to replace it.

You wouldn't expect him to replace one of your documents that you lost, would you?