He says I’m ruining his life and I need to abort the baby

[TheNightWeMet]

I’ve posted earlier on this board so sorry for posting again on a different topic to do with the father of my unborn child.

He has been texting me all night saying to think of him, I’m ruining his life, and I need to get rid of the baby. He has said some really upsetting things. The one thing I feel I can’t do is get rid of the baby. I don’t know how to respond to the things he is saying. I’ve told him I don’t want a penny from him and he can get on with his life if he doesn’t want to be in the baby’s which he doesn’t. I’m so distressed and no matter what I say to him he just tells me to get rid of it. Has anyone else been in this position? I’m so upset.

He’s not going to be in yours or the baby’s life
He’s not going to financially contribute
And now he’s trying to force you into something you don’t want?

Block him?
Then when the baby is born ask for child support

I’m not clear how a baby that you both made but only you are willing to take responsibility for is you ruining his life

@CheekyHobson

The only thing you need to abort is your relationship with this controlling, selfish and irresponsible asshole.

Yep.

Hi everyone l, thanks for all your responses, apologies I haven’t replied as it’s been a really stressful week for me. He seemed to have a change of heart a couple days after saying those things to me, he seen me again and apologised, and said if I want to go ahead with it then he will support me. I told him he didn’t have to but appreciated it. However now he’s back to freaking out about everything (which I really understand as it’s been a huge shock for both of us) and he’s trying to convince me to not go ahead with it. I honestly in my heart could not terminate despite knowing that it me the only thing that would make him happy, my heart and instincts would not let me. I really care about him and love him but I can’t do that for him. Some of the things he’s saying is really getting me down and I can’t deal with it now.

You need to take some time off of him at least. He's messing with your head and it isn't fair. Do you have friends or family you can stay with for at least two weeks and be completely non contact. You can tell him you are taking time to think it through. You might find you don't miss him.

Can you block him for a bit?

I think you need to take some distance to be able to take the right decision for yourself rather than one taken under pressure.

Did you get the chance to get some legal advice too?

Time to block him and move ahead with your own life.

Block him permanently. He has shown his true colours - his colours are 'immature twat'.

Don't tell him you are thinking things through. You know your mind. You know he isn't on board. Even worse, he thinks his constantly changing whims are something you need to pay attention to.

The loss is his.

BLOCK HIM

Stop all contact, he will simply bully and emotionally blackmail you

He doesn’t care about you, that’s been proved time and again, it’s all about him

Don’t contact him, don’t have anything to do with him

Block him for at least a week or so and give yourself time to think.. I’d block him for good though!!

If you can't do it (abort) you can't do it. End of. You know you can't, you've said so very clearly on here.

You 'ruining his life' is just bollocks. Don't pretend to think things over, your mind is made up.

So sorry💐
Try to go to sleep as others have said.
Tomorrow and in the days to follow,
work out what you want to do alone, being realistic. Do you have family who could help? Do you live near them?

It seems you must forget this man.

If you have the baby, DO NOT put his name on the birth certificate in case he comes to claim it and cause trouble later.