Challengerice, I don’t have a problem with married mothers just would be nice if they reached out as I did to them. I don’t judge someone married, single or dating. I think you know that but I guess you too need to vent something out of your system. I can imagine you are a bit of a gossip and probably like picking on which ever mothers you feel like and polluting other mothers around you. I do hope I am wrong.
I’m happy doing the small talk at school and don’t divulge too much about a long ago divorce and understand to keep conversations about school.
Hopping green, I think best you keep both your chips on your shoulder and a few on your head by the sounds of your message. You a single mother you know and because she has no issues she is ok. I see you don’t want to hear anything but nice things so if anyone does voice an upset it means one thing that he/she has a chip on their shoulder. You are a wise woman of the world indeed! Thanks for showing yourself and thanks to demonstrate your perspective as it helped me see the mindset of women that are blunt and cold to other women they can’t be bothered to understand. What a lovely essence you have and I’m really pleased you openly show your lack of understanding clearly on this thread. Super, well done you. It not an issue with this school. I put the thread out there because after a few years the situation is the same and I know it happens in all schools and it’s been nice to connect with other who understand.
Of course I am not the only the single mother but I take it you understand people have different experiences in life as general?
Recently a mother who left the school a year ago said that the majority of mothers in my year are clinging on in unhappy marriages and see you as a threat. I felt really sad hearing this. It made me feel being in the crossfire for other people’s situations that have zero to do with me. The more this thread grows the more I realise that there are never going to be any decent mums in my school so for now best to focus on my child, business growth and enjoy holidays and experiences that have nothing to do with these people and why would I want these judgmental freaks in my life or my son’s and I certainly don’t want their sloppy seconds/husbands. Yuk! Sorry that I can’t change my face, body or clothes and suddenly grab any guy because it will make look I fit in. Sorry too to those people of me and my son offend you just for being us. Sorry that right now I don’t want to date or have a partner because I want to put my son first. If you are holding on tight to your husbands then they probably have already done something and that’s what making you insecure. More power to you.
I sent my son to a private school because the classroom sizes are smaller a children get a bit more support in the classroom. I used to teach many years ago. It was not for social status. There are many people born with the silver spoon in their mouths and they behave like criminals. Look at some of today’s politicians.
Thanks to all the positive constructive feedback and if anyone mean mums from my school recognise yourselves I’ve already been told by past mothers in your class year that most of you talk about each other and hated me from the start because I did not fit into your idea of a washed out single mother on benefits and I 100% respect those mothers too. Yes, that is what I was told by mothers who know my year group very well and even then I was happy to put that to one side and move forward.
I also understand fully that some parents can have learning difficulties which can also come through into social skills but do the whole year group parents have learning difficulties? I’ve always been better one to one but I do make the effort when I have too. Just odd after three years having nothing back after reaching out. I understand one of those years has been the Covid outbreak setback.