Support for essbee 3

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Here it is...new and improved just like you essbee!

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They can only listen if you speak to them...

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You are not pathetic essbee.Your doctor is out of order for making you feel that way.She is paid to support you not leaving you feel worse than you did when you went there.Can you arrange to see another doctor??Maybe when you cut down on the extra calories you are getting from the alcohol you will find the extra weight drops off anyway.Not much consolation when this stupid woman has left you feeling so bad but try and stay strong and we are all here for you

Hi Essbee.

sorry your visit to the docs wasn't constructive.
is there anyone else at the practice you could see? have you had your thyroid level checked recently in case weight gain could be due to that?

could you face up to doing a food diary before you go to the docs next?

did you doc discuss changing your medication at all?

PS you are soooo not pathetic.

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you're not a mess.

what is going on is probably

1)you are not eating enough

or very possibly

2)that the side effects of the Cipralex are getting worse

i suspect that 1 is more likely. In any case I think you would benefit from seeing another more sympathetic GP, and looking at a possible change of medication and counselling

or of course 3) that it is some other unrelated physical cause, like a virus or something

either way, think next step is a decent GP

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Stress daarling--after that appointment, who wouldn't be! You are NOT pathetic!!!! Please try to be good to yourself and get some sleep tonight. Hugs to you...

but whether or not you lose weight, you have to eat enough to keep body and soul together

after all you don't diet by fasting/eating 200 calories a day

if you eat very little and are still putting on weight, then something is askew physically - but that doesn't mean you starve yourself further. to be able to think properly, you have to eat sensibly. the less you eat, the less well you can react calmly and proportionately.

Re:ADs. look back at your first thread on depression, and the oh dear thread - ADs have helped you - though not as much as could be desired tho- if you are feeling like this, then you may well not be on quite the right one for you.

you were feeling positive at the weekend - but weighing yourself has made you feel despairing. which I think shows that you are still rather depressed.

Bump! hope ds's appointment goes okay today.
[wishing you lots of good vibes]

essbee, can you seek a second opinion, go to your health visitor or even change gps?

This is no good, you are not getting anywhere but you clearly need a different treatment.

Good luck today , wishing it to be not to painful for either of you.

2nd anorak , deffo shoud see gp , may be need to change ads.

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would be surprised if you got a rash after several months on something - would have thought that if you had an allergy would have happened straight away. but if you do get an allergic rash, it is likely to be chest/arm area. have you taken any new meds/used any new products on that area?

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Hey essbee - how are you? Haven't seen you posting for a few days.

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i think you ex and your parents are in the wrong over this one, and that i am shocked that your parents are so supportive of your ex. i know how difficult it must be when the people who are so crucial in shaping who you are give you such unsupportive messages - and how difficult it is to disbelieve them. just because your parents agree with your ex doesn't mean that your ex is right or that they are right. yes your ex may need support - but given how badly he has treated you and the children - physically, emotionally and financially, i don't think that you are the appropriate person to give it, as it is so unfair on you. i just don't think that should become involved in taking on your ex's burdens, and am concerned that this is just another way of him manipulating you, whether it is a conscious or subconscious tactic.

essbee, just because your parents are happy to snuggle up to AH doesn't mean you have to. They are far more supportive of him than they are of you - so let them do more to help him as they think he needs it - you have more than enough on your own plate, thanks (even though they don't seem to think so) so concentrate on yourself and the kids.

Essbee, I'm so sorry circumstances seem to be conspiring against you yet again.

Am I correct in thinking that your parents still don't know the full story although I think you have said before that they think the world of AH anyway. He has probably found a sympathetic ear and will undoubtedly use it to his advantage if he hasn't already done so.

Agree with MtS it isn't your role to support him or his family through this. Let your parents do their own thing and obviously you need to put your kids ahead of them all. They are also going to need some support to cope with their grandmother's illness and will need you above all. Please take care of yourself and if you can't face the school run, can you ask another parent to help you out.

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