Support for essbee 3

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Here it is...new and improved just like you essbee!

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i think there have been previous threads on this (typical cop out).

i imagine partly it would depend on if your kids are religious/believe in god.

one thing that somebody said a few years ago, after my gran died, was that in their life on earth people have been lent to us by god - would that make any sense

how close were your kids to their grandmother?

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One of these might help, essbee. There have been threads about this before, will see if I can find one for you.

here and here - also cancerbacup do a leaflet called What do I tell the children?

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Wish I could offer some advice, but can just send good thoughts your way. xx

Me too xxx

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Should doesn't come into it. We all do our best and that's all we can do.

{{{HUGS}}} im so sorry you are going through this hun.....you take care of yourself....you know where I am if you need me....ANYTIME!!!

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Oh dear, essbee, sorry to hear that - listen, if you want to help him then do, of course, regardless of what's gone before it would be hard not to, and helping someone else will probably make you feel better too. You have a tough few weeks ahead so look after yourself. You know where I am too. XXX

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hi essbee, sorry things aren't going so well and hope you all managed to get some sleep last night. I think it's lovely of you to want to offer support to your dh. Are you clear in your mind exactly how far you will go with this? I think it would help if you are before you see your dh, as by the sound of it, things could get very emotional.

Do you think the illness of your dh's mum is making him feel much more alone in life? If so, I wonder some time soon (perhaps not right now as he is clearly upset) if there is any way you could really get it across to him how unsupported you have been, from him and your family, emotionally and practically. Then tell him exactly how he can help to rectify that. Now he is suffering too, would he be more receptive?

Hi essbee - really sorry to hear this latest news.

I think you need to be careful about what support you give to your ex and be clear in your own mind about how far you are prepared to go iyswim. He is manipulative and will play on your kind nature. It may sound a horrible thing to say but he's played with your mind so much and this could be just the route in he's looking for. That sounds callous but I've been through a similar experience with an ex who used my kind side (I did used to have one ) to try and wheedle his way back into my life.

On the other hand, my ex FIL was diagnosed with terminal Leukaemia just after ex dh and I split and because we had split on good terms, I felt able to offer support to him and visit his father in the hospital with him and eventually attend the funeral.

Do give him some support if you feel you need to but remember that he's given you nothing over the past year except heartache.

essbee - how are you? What happened when you met up with him?

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essbee, that is so scary, how lucky that someone was with you. Perhaps a reaction to stress, blood sugar fluctuations or a side effect of the AD's but whatever you really do this taken seriously and investigated. Hope you get a quick appointment tomorrow. Take care.

hi essbee. defo agree to go to GPs. could you see a different one to the one you saw last time that didn't take you seriously about the weight gain issues. had you had anything to eat prior to fainting?