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I hate men. sorry.

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MascaraOHara · 27/09/2007 21:50

but there's nobody here to talk to and I just had to get that off my chest.

And I hate myself for being so hopeful when I meet someone I think I could really like.

It's just wanky.

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Turquoise · 06/11/2007 17:32

I agree with the others - you shouldn't be taking responsibility for his bad behaviour. I wouldn't say anything to him right now, it would just sound needy.

Visualise yourself in a few weeks glam, gorgeous and confident, with him saying something along the lines of how fabulous you are and how he wishes he hadn't let you go, and maybe THEN you can drop something like "Oh yes, the ADs were making me a bit emotional and it was harder than it should have been for me to deal with you being such a selfish twat and dicking me around." If you still want to let him know - but by then you'll be so over him you won't give a damn whether he knows or not. And he'll want you back - because he sounds like the type - and you can tell him to Fark Orf.

lou33 · 06/11/2007 20:15

i agree, telling him that it might be the ad's makes it all your responsibility and lets him off the hook for his dickish behaviour

say nothing, he acted like a nob

Baffy · 07/11/2007 09:13

I agree too. Excellent post turquoise

MascaraOHara · 07/11/2007 09:20

Hi guys, i had to speak to him at about 5 last night.. I said I wanted to clear the air and I was feeling much better.. he said I seemed very chipper, I said I felt good. He commented again on the scratch on my chest (3rd time he's mentioned it in two days).

I can't remember how it came about but I said something about him not being interested in me and that was fine and he then threw a spanner in the works by saying "I never said I wasn't interested" he then started to say something else but I stopped him and said I'm not getting into this discussion here (office).

I told him that the medication I was on was increasing my feelings and that's why I was blowing this out of all proprtion to it's actual significane on my life. He asked what meds I was on and I said it was none of his business. He said he thought my behaviour was normal under the circumstances I told him it wasn't normal for me and I was happy to find out from my GP that these are side effects and should be starting to wear off anytime now. I told him that I might still think about him when I wake up at night but that that will pass in a couple of days or weeks.

He implied that he was still trying to get his head sorted and that he had been planning to text me that night, I told him that he shouldn't say things like that because it wasn't fair. Needless to say it got my hopes up and needless to say, he didn't text.

I was really feeling better yesterday. todya I feel quite cross that he still seems to be giving mixed messages. I sent him a very measured but rather long text this morning. I recapped some of the things he said to me to persuade me to go out with him that 'he was a better bet'(than my ex), that 'I needed someone to look after me', 'that me and deserved better'. I told him I felt he had screwed up my life and left me to pick up the pieces (after all he impacts not only my personal but my work life as well). I said I felt like I deserved an explanation or at least a straight answer. Told him that to a lesser degree I still felt hurt and angry about the way he had treated me especially after what he had said yesterday.

I feel OK today, not as great as yesterday but alright.

I keep reminding myself that whenever I feel hurt or angry in life it's got something to do with a man.. I just don't need that hassle at the end of the day.

It is so his loss.

Thanks again for all the support you are giving me here

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Dior · 07/11/2007 12:10

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MascaraOHara · 07/11/2007 13:09

Yeah, I know. I kind of feel like I'm done now. fingers crossed.

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MascaraOHara · 07/11/2007 15:02

I am now feeling quite shite again. I was starting to feel OK until he made that comment yesterday about never saying he wasn't interested and stuff.

He's just playing me. it's his birthday this weekend, I really wanted to make it special for him.

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citylover · 07/11/2007 15:58

Dear MOH

Whether or not you are in agreement with this sort of thing there is some quite sound general advice from this guy about contacting ex's etc.

Take from it what you will!!

www.psychicreadings.org.uk/relationship.htm

It it's any consolation mine is still incommunicado - I think i know why he isn't contacting me at the moment but it doesn't make it any easier to deal with!!

MascaraOHara · 07/11/2007 16:04

If only I'd read that last week.. I've already broken every rule - pretty much! bollocks @ self.

Thank you for that CityLover. Why do you think your ex is not contacting you?

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citylover · 07/11/2007 16:10

Didn't mean to make you feel worse sorry if I did!! Should add that I don't have any connection to that website just came across it in my desperation!!

But for me a bit of a revelation that you should sit back and not do anything. i think I always think that I need to be doing something esp where men/rships are concerned (only if I like them of course!!)

He has got major issues that he needs to sort out on his own!! Haven't read Mars and Venus but has he retreated into his cave!! LOL

Feeling slightly brighter about things today.
Hope it lasts

MascaraOHara · 07/11/2007 16:19

I'm glad you are starting to feel better. someone else mentioned the retreating to cave thing to me.

You didn't make me feel bad don't worry.

I thought the story about the butterfly at the bottom was lovely. I've copied and pasted it into a notebook.

I'm finding it very hard not to text him today.

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Turquoise · 07/11/2007 17:24

He's predictable if nothing else!

You're feeling better, looking chipper so he immediately says something to bust that up. As soon as he's got you needy and insecure again he drops you/fails to text or whatever he's promised. He's an ARSE!

That link of citylover's is great - bet your life that if you follow it to the letter he'll be on the doorstep begging in a week or so, but I really, really hope you don't let him in.

Baffy · 08/11/2007 08:36

Totally agree with turquoise

MoH how are you doing today?

zippitippitoes · 08/11/2007 08:47

moh he sounds crap

it reminds a bit of dps I love you but i need to move on stuff..just designed to make him feel better

MascaraOHara · 08/11/2007 09:35

Hi guys, I'm feeling top of the world today. CityLovers link is good.. I wish I had read it a couple of weeks ago.

My dd is at my parents all weekend as I had cleared it for his birthday. I'm going out with a girlfriend on Friday night and then Saturday night me and my little group of best friends are getting together for wine and pizza.

It's time to dust myself off and move on.

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Tinkerbel5 · 08/11/2007 09:39

thats great MOH, try not to drunk text though, delete your number off your phone if you have too, and do NOT acknowledge his birthday, he is a playa and cant be rewarded for not knowing what he wants, next time he wiggles his little bait at you say no thanks got bigger fish to fry

MascaraOHara · 08/11/2007 09:57

I cleared all my texts boxes on my phone this morning and plan to delete his number over then put it back in again Monday for work.

He know's he had an amazing present from me, I'm not going to text him on his birthday.. it will really hit home to him then that he's missed the boat. He's had so much opportunity to turn this around.

He's so last season!

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MascaraOHara · 08/11/2007 12:22

So one bloke at work (who rarely works in this office) told me I looked stunning today unfortunately I don't think the bloke heard. Fingers crossed he did though.

And another guy (also not based here but up for a meeting) leant over and told me how good I looked, unfortunately he whispered it so no chance of anybody else hearing.. still it was a massive ego boost though. bollocks to the man. eh!

Although second bloke did ask if I had actually eaten anything since he was last here or if I was just living on cups of tea as I'd lost so much weight (I haven't lost any though).

Feeling top of the world.

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lou33 · 08/11/2007 14:59

how fabulous

post a pic of us so we can tell you too!

MascaraOHara · 08/11/2007 15:05

I can't don't have a digital camera at work lol! I don't look any different from normal I don't think.. I'm wearing slightly more eye make up than usual and a short dress though just to rub his big ugly nose in it!

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MascaraOHara · 08/11/2007 15:09

Oh and I've deleted his number from my phone. sod work. If I really desperately need it I'll log on to get it for a few weeks.

He has made me realise the sort of person I want though and not what I've been settling for which has been a real eye opener.

I tend to go out with ladish bloke, one of the boys types.. but that's why I've never been happy - I'm not that sort of person myself (not anymore).

I'm going to give myself a few months and then start the hunt for a nice looking thirty/forty something man with a good job and who likes doing the things I like to do. It's like I suddenly know what I want when before I never really knew what was lacking.

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lou33 · 08/11/2007 15:48

moh thats the kind of bloke i go for too lol

i'm glad you are feeling stronger, dont let the bastards grind you down

Baffy · 08/11/2007 15:51

Glad you're sounding so much more positive MoH

Keep up the good work!

MascaraOHara · 08/11/2007 16:03

It probably won't last lol but it was a real boost with what the guys said this moring.. they're both always nice to me (independently, they're not a double act or anything) but it was what I needed I think.

I am feeling OK today.. must make an over-the-top effort more often.. it makes you feel good in itself.

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lou33 · 08/11/2007 16:48

yes it really does