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I am scared shitless

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Forestfly · 01/10/2004 21:23

Don't even know why im posting this, can't talk about it, but for anyone that knows whats going on wish me luck. It is starting to really make me worry and putting me in a bit of a mood. I would really like my fear to go. Sorry. Pointless thread. Isn't mn weird, i thought i was leaving heavy emotional posts

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spacemonkey · 12/10/2004 11:15

bloody useless, I'm so sorry you're not getting the support you should have, it must be awful

agy · 12/10/2004 11:17

Do feel for you Forestfly. Remember, the closer it gets the sooner it will all be over and you can put it behind you. Try to just hide away with your littleuns until you have to go. Head under the duvet approach.

fairyfly · 12/10/2004 11:22

well i am in vest and shorts and we all have duvets

agy · 12/10/2004 11:24

You'll be ok. It'll all be ok. You'll see.

Papillon · 12/10/2004 11:30

i recommend Yurt carpets myself. Glitter is rolling in one atm eating black forest cake! heaven in a Yurt

fairyfly · 12/10/2004 11:30

thanks agy, that just what i needed to hear

snmum · 12/10/2004 11:34

It is nearly over now FF. just another week and you will feel releif. most probably will feel very emotional for a time after. but remember why you are doing this. You are very brave and i am very proud of you. xxxx xxxxxxxxxxx

leglebegle · 12/10/2004 12:59

you sound really confused about the procedure. maybe i can help? the video link which they have told you about means you are not at the court as you know, this is totally normal in cases of this sort. you can also give evidence by way of a screen. this means you are present but hidden behind a screen. i have been told by someone who does trials and specialises in this sort of thing that it is more effective to the jury to hear the person in the same room, and its all a bit detached by video link. its only advice and obviously you should do what you feel most comfortable with. i am not sure how you would go about cancelling it, but i guess getting in touch with cps asap and telling them you want to go to court would be a start via the police liaison officer. but i totally understand if you don't want to go to court, i'm not sure i would myself. i just thought i should pass on the tip x

essbee · 14/10/2004 00:50

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marthamoo · 14/10/2004 07:07

FF, how are you doing?

fairyfly · 14/10/2004 10:41

After much deliberating i am sticking to the tv screen. I don't care really about effecting the jury they can think what they want. I would like to get it all over with in the simplest manner as i feel sick with it all. Even if he gets off and i am not believed i think i have done what i wanted and that is stop him doing it again. I think this will have scared him, well i pray it has.
( i do care what the jury think obviously, but you know what i mean)
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snmum · 14/10/2004 10:55

FF, i think at the end of the day you have to do what is right for you and cope in a way that is right for you too. i think you are being very brave, you must feel sick to the stomach - I know that. but you are doing this for the right reasons. What he did is very wrong and he did this to you. That makes me feel so sick and sad after all you have been through. You are a wonderful person and i hope monday goes well and he does get sentanced. he is an arsehole.

fairyfly · 14/10/2004 11:03

Thanks Angel x

anorak · 14/10/2004 11:16

fairyfly the video facility wouldn't be there for you to use if some people didn't find it necessary. I wouldn't waste another second worrying about whether to use it or not. If it makes you feel better you use it and that's that.

lots of love xxx

marthamoo · 14/10/2004 11:26

FF, you do whatever makes it easier for you - you've suffered enough over this. I will be thinking of you on Monday and hoping it is over as soon as possible. You are being so brave - I am in awe.

moo xxx

fairyfly · 14/10/2004 11:36

Thanks Anorak and marthamoo
I hate the title of this thread, wish i hadn't swore on it

marthamoo · 14/10/2004 11:40

I think you're entitled to swear!

JanH · 14/10/2004 12:43

Have you any idea what time you might be having to speak on Monday? So we can do a collective mumsnet positive brainwave thingy at you?

Still keeping everything crossed that he bottles it though!

Bunglie · 14/10/2004 12:48

I don't know what to 'say' except I will be sending you all my 'positive vibes' and you have my love and support. I think you are very brave, I admire your courage and you should take some strength from the fact that so many of us here love and respect you and what you are doing.

(For someone who didnot know what to say I said a lot!)

I also agree with Janh...I think that would be a great idea, but everything is crossed for you now.

codswallop · 14/10/2004 12:48

aha ff I have been thinkin g about you!

fairyfly · 14/10/2004 13:19

Thankyou so much!!!!! I have an awful feeling that if i start to witter, i will mention i have support off virtual mothers and be locked up. Especially if i use any of your names. I have no idea when i will be speaking and i probably am not allowed to text. Is that right justice of the peace?

codswallop · 14/10/2004 13:20

yep phones off
ff you will be fine.

motherinferior · 14/10/2004 13:29

FF, you are a star
Oh yes you are oh yes you are
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

fairyfly · 14/10/2004 13:33

I have a nun backing me, what else can one possibly need

Beetroot · 14/10/2004 13:42

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