I have agreed to a second date on Sunday, but.....

[Pinkchampagne]

he wants to take me to see a spy thriller!!!
I can barely contain my excitement!

[Blu]

It sounds really unpleasant, PC.
Does anyone you know know him?

[Blu]

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[Blu]

oh shit, that's all you need. 'more than that'? YTou're going to have to be very blunt, i think.

I was once hounded by someone from next door who was a bit delusional - and eventually her social worker said I should be very direct and stick absolutely to the truth.

[Pinkchampagne]

I don't think anyone I know knows him very well.
He is always in town & he always catches me. He was there the other day while I was walking into town with both boys & he asked where I was going. I gave him a short answer, then he shouted out "Nice bum" as I walked away.
DS1 was saying "Who is that?"
I don't like it.

[Pinkchampagne]

I've tried the nice approach, but he isn't giving in, so I think I am going to have to get pretty blunt with him.

[Blu]

Don't quite know what I'd do about all that, tbh. But not surprised you are creeped out.

[Blu]

Yes, think you are going to have to tell him that you are not interested and that you do not appreciate him folowing you or making comments.

Good grief.

Oooh, the bitter, bitter irony. The one time you would like to set exH on him and see him off. But can't.

[Pinkchampagne]

Absolutely, Blu!

He is a strange one alright, and I'm just grateful he doesn't know where I live.

When I was younger, I had a man follow me home from a nightclub in his car, and turn up outside my house at 8.30am the following morning! That was creepy!
I don't need another strange stalker type now, so I am going to have to be very to the point with him if he carries on.

[Blu]

eeeurgh.

I once had a man knock on my door at about 8.30 am and ask if i wanted to be a model. i told him to get off my doorstep - and then my neighbours (very 'bouncer-type' tough gay men) came round and told me he had been outside for ages , parked opposite and looking up into my wondows. they chased his car down the road! But nothing more came of it. I think most women have horrible experiences like that at some time...and luckily most of it comes to nothing more harmful.

And as you say he doesn't know where you live. if he follows you hme, divert and call the police on your mobile!

Lead him to your mums, he can stalk her!!

[lou33]

i think i'd just tell him to fuck off really

esp after saying that in front of your daughter, i'd be livid (and have been in similar circs)

[Pinkchampagne]

that's awful, Blu! There are some weird people around aren't there??

I told the strange stalker from my past, that I was involved with a body builder, and he didn't bother me again. Maybe I need to take a similar approach with this odd bod.

[Blu]

Yes, i was thinking about that guy who propositioned you in front of your dd lou.

Wahat on earth gets into their minds?

As I commented to Lou then, PC, men do view single women as library boks on the shelf and available to be grabbed by anyone who chooses to 'borrow' them. Bloody insulting.

[Pinkchampagne]

Lol at leading him to my mum's! Now there's an idea!!

[ScummyMummy]

Oooo! A date, eh? Sounds exciting.

Stalker sounds less so. ~Grr to him. Setting your mum on him sounds like a good plan!

[lifebeginstoday]

PC, I have a stalker tye at the moment. He ves in th same village and I aways fanied him from afar. Anyway, he found out H had left and turned up late at night knocking on the window. I opened the door and he produced a condom with a flourish and said something about making hay while the sun shines!!! (He is a farmer). I've told him no way, as he's married with 2 kids and since then he turns up every few days, the latest being last night under the pretence of being neighbourly...ut out of sight of the DC makes a telephone gesture and mimes 'call me'! Very creepy!

[lifebeginstoday]

Bloody hell...what is wrong with my keyboard???

[lou33]

they sure do blu, sometimes you have to be rude to get your point across, and make sure they know they have crossed a line

[tribpot]

PC - the Bourne film won't give you nightmares. The first two were good (first one more so than the second). Make sure you loudly announce "next time we're seeing a chick flick" as you leave, though

Stalker sounds a bit worrying.

[lou33]

i really want to see the new bourne film, i enjoyed the first 2

[Pinkchampagne]

Blimey, LBT, that sounds really horrible & creepy! The condom thing would have freaked me out!
Is he still pestering you?

Lou - I think you're right in that getting quite rude is sometimes the only answer.
I have told him I want him to stop hassling me, especially when I'm with my children. I even told him that ex H is still a bit funny about other men approaching me, and he said "Ok, but it would have been good to get to know you better"
I thought I had cracked it, but then around 5 days later I bumped into him, and he was pestering me again.

Not sure about the excitement bit with this film, Scummy!! Still think it sounds like a blokey type of film, but I could be wrong & it might be very good!

[Pinkchampagne]

Okay, you're starting to convince me!!

[lou33]

just tell him you are not interested in him in any capacity and to leave you alone pronto

say it clearly and unapologetically and look him in the eyes when you say it so there is no doubt you mean it

scary i know but it needs to be tried

[Pinkchampagne]

I think I'm going to have to do that, lou, because nothing else is working.
It was after I last told him (nicely) to back off, that he came out with the "intrigued by you" comment, so I need to very to the point.

[lifebeginstoday]

PC, yes still pestering. Turns up at the house every couple of days. I was invited to a summer ball last weekend and didn't go. he came here the next day and said .missed you at the ball. It would have been nice to have seen you in a ball gown cos then there would have been only one suit I hadn't seen you in'!!!!! . This man is married, with 2 little girls.

[lou33]

tell his wife