Who are the single parents here?

[tammybear]

Was just wondering how many single parents there are on here, apologises for being nosey xx

Count me in on this thread!!
I told my ex-dp to go home to his mum when she was dying with breast cancer to be with her in her last days and one day he decided to dump my ds at my parents after he had looked after him so I could go out.
3 weeks before his 1st birthday and never came back!!!
I still get no contact or child support or anything.

Count me in too please, one dd 8, me plucking up courage to start divorce proceedings. Anyone else on this thread who's a bit older? All you twentysomethings make me feel like ancient!

I am teddi7. I'm on my own with dd 4 months and 39. Does that make you feel better?

Thanx delgirl - yes it does

Hi all, I'm a single too, I have two ds, 3yr old and 18 months, split from ex when 4 weeks pregnant with youngest, have no contact, his choice and no financial support, also his choice
I have to admit that even though it is hard and financially desperate, i very quickly realised that life was simpler, happier and much less stressful without him.
We live in West London, Greenford and my biggest problem at the moment is that I don't know any other single parents locally and have absolutely no social life, so anyone out there local enough to get together please cat me.

Hello!! what a great thread!
not sure if i am a single mum... dp is in sydney... i am in docklands, london.
would like to say to all the other single-mums that are awaiting their lumps arrival... have a great time and never forget that you CAN do it and enjoy your little ones!!!
hmm, single daddy's too... always great to hear... my god, i thought single mothers raised eyebrows... you guys must get some strange reactions! i think its lovely btw

Hi, I'm a single mum now - going through divorce. Two beautiful dd's 3 and 1.

Hate every minute of this - I was dumped so it hurts like hell, wish I'd have done the dumping to stop some of the pain, but never would now the dd's are in the world.

Can't believe they just don't want to try and work at things for the sake of the children - I would give anything to get my marriage back on track for my dd's. I come from a broken home myself and it has probably made me the way I am today and I hate it! Really hoped for better things for my dd's, but that's not to be and now I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders worrying about everything and how I can give my dd's the things I never had?

Do you ever get off this huge emotional rollercoaster? I love him, I hate him, I love him, I hate him - He just hates me! I really can't take much more pain.

single mum here, in hertfordshire...19yrs old...ds is 17months....and one on way but very early days yet...

Hi notsosure, sorry I missed your last post.
To answer your questions, we've never actually split up to the children. I mean, they know we're divorced but they haven't had to face up to us having separate homes (we have had a variety of temporary arrangements such as me contracting abroad). We are hoping to settle near each other. Not sure how this will work. I have the feeling that dh might "forget" that we're divorced when he wants a loan or help with paperwork. but I am prepared to give it a go because of the childrnen. We are going to do shared childcare, but again, I am not sure how it will work out. I fear that it may turn into dx having the children whenever he feels like it, without any warning, refusing to have them at any other time, and expecting me to provide a total backup service.
I keep repeating to myself that when they are grown up, they will be able to see which parent was behaving in a spoilt, immature, selfish way.
dx is a bit of a wanderer, so this is a way to ensure some input from him into the children's lives.

My children are nearly 2 - 8.

My mil is absolutely gorgeous, but she lives in another country unfortunately.

loulounz - I remember being at that stage. Omigod, Ive failed because we're divorced etc etc. Now, Im glad we divorced, I wouldn't have him back (but see issues below) and hopefully I will get married again, and give the children an example of how a nice, considerate man behaves. Bastards strictly out this time round.

I'm one too ... although we have fulltime help from my mum when she's not working!!

Me too, thank god! Just wish I was widow too

Hi All
Guess you'd call me single-mum too... DP lives and works in london and only sees me and my DD (13yrs) because of tummytiger who's overdue by 6 days now!!!
We're about 100miles north in Warwickshire but we're doing just fine all the same
Cabe

glad to see this thread is still alive over a year on from when i first made it

Just joined this superhero club recently...any single mums in perth scotland want to meet up ?

Im a single parent with 1 ds. Been single since before i even found out I was preggy. He didnt want to know because I wouldn't go back to him, has never even seen ds.

I should have added that I love ds to bits and am very happy 'molly coddlying' him. Couldnt be arsed with some guy hanging around as well ha ha!

yeap another one here too.
im a single mum,will have been for a year on the 10th!!!!

i have two lo's DS is 5 dd 13 months. and we live in Surrey

hi Im Becka got a dd aged 13 months, on and off with her dad for ages, but made the break emotionally now so well and truly single!

And LOVING it!