Who are the single parents here?

[tammybear]

Was just wondering how many single parents there are on here, apologises for being nosey xx

I can't understand why anyone wouldn't want to see their own child/grandchild, etc... it is so sad!

At least I know although it can be hard work it is worth every minute and they (those who show no interest but should! ) are all just missing out! My family loves dd (of course!)and see her as a great addition to the family, surely that is the best way to look at it?!

Know what you all mean about adult contact. In the past I've gone for days over various holiday periods without speaking to an adult (unless I was paying for something in a shop). Its partly my own fault for not organising stuff xx weeks in advance but also at certain times: Christmas, Easter, bank holidays etc you feel that other mummy friends want to be with their dh/dps. I also feel that if I asked, people would be seeing me 'cos they felt sorry for me & not 'cos they really wanted to - otherwise they would have asked. Those are the worst times for me.
But, heyho, would still rather be on my own than with ex-H!!

Indeed Bugsy2, I totally agree. Try to get out and about and meet people for lunch and the like but sometimes just can't be bothered and end up sitting in house all day with dd...

Sometimes I wonder when some of my friends will have kids and probably won't be for at least 5 years!

I'll probably have another before any of them get round to it!

I am also in the Single parents club - after 18 months and still struggling with the fact. Never in your plans to be come a statistic of this club is it?!

Hi all!

I'm single mum in London aged 25, dd is 7, and I'm 20 weeks pregnant. I've got to say it's a pretty scary prospect but somehow I feel we will cope. I must say I do find pregnancy pretty lonely on my own but I suppose that's natural.

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Hello, me too! Although I have been around mumsnet for a while have only just become single parent. Just me and my DS aged 2. Hard at times but loving the PEACE without exDP here

Hello - just adding my name to this list. Rather comforting that the list is so long! I've been a single mum from the start so don't have anything else to compare it to. Empathise with those who've posted about lack of adult conversation. I study from home four days a week and after a day of silent reading/writing I can't even remember how to construct a sentence out loud.

re adult conversation I couldn't agree more. In fact have started talking to ds as if he were a grown up, gawd knows what his first words will be. Oh well as long as it's not b**llx or some such that'll be fine

Hi, Bugs, Hope you're well. Let me know if you have time to meet up soon - with/without children. Isn't the weather GORGEOUS?????

Sykes, hopefully just sent you an email - would be great to meet up.

E-mail may have changed - no longer at work and no longer old home address. think I updated contact thing here - will check/try to e-mail you. look forward to seeing you soon.

Minxmum - I have been a single parent from the start too (altho my ExP does see his wee girl)so I don't miss being a family unit although I am sure that would be nice... only if you are happy together though and unfortunately it doesn't always work out that way does it??

Guess you need to balance having peace on your own and being lonely...

Hi all, just wanting to add my name to the list. I'm a 23 yr old single mum with a ds aged 4 and I'm 15 wks pg, although I'm not with the father we're on good terms now although hes in the army so I won't be seeing him much but he is trying to get posted back from germany to the uk cos he wants to be involved as much as possible. xx

Me too adding myself in.
Im a single parent of 3 have been for almost 3 years now,2 boys at 9 and 7 and my dd 2 1/2. I split with their dad when i was 5 mths pg with dd.
Must admit to rather enjoying the freedom being a single p[arent gives,not from the kids obviously but in life in general.

hi all
Just thought i'd add myself on here, im new! I have a 3 yr old son and we've been on our own since DS was 20 mths old and im in north london. Anyone from nth london or around wanna meet or something?

hi guys

i am 22 and due to have my first baby in four weeks time. his royal highness hasnt bothered to be around. i live on the london hertfordshire border>

Hi Everyone, Honeypot01 I live in North East London. I am a lone parent since I was pregnant with my dd. She is now 4 years old

Hi Chloemummy,

I've been a loneparent since my son was 20mths. I live in Enfield Town and i'm 27. I take it your daughter is called Chloe. Does she go to school yet? my son is at day nursery 3 days a week while i go to work, i work Mon-Wed in west end. be nice to meet up with any lone parents as dont seem to know any, there must be some somewhere!!!Hope to chat soon

I know it's a while since anyone posted on here, but I'm adding myself to this list! I agree we should all be proud of what we achieve as lone parents, but I also have to say, the more I read on here and in books about how partners cope as a couple with having kids, the more I think we have it easier as a lone parent (apart from problems with exes). As a few of you have said, freedom to do as you please, etc. I've been a lone parent from the beginning too, and dd's father lives overseas, so I have none of the problems I've mentioned at all!

I am so glad I found this conversation.
I have been with my partner for 13 years, 2 of which married and with my absolutely wonderful dd.
I am considering divorce, as the relationship seems loveless, too much hassle and making me lose my confidence.
I am so woried about my daughter and money (probably in that order).
DD is 23 months and loves her father to death.
We moved to be near to my husband's parents 5 years ago and I have made many friends here.
My question is:
Should I think about moving away from my husband when we divorce and live neaer to my family?
Would that be fair on DD?
Would DD cope?

What are your experiences, girls?

Please help

notsosure
Ive been here, and have gone to considerable lengths to stay close to dx, cos I think its better for the children.
Id probably have an easier life if my family was near and helpful though, I must admit.

Nighty night
Thanks for the quick reply.

Can I ask how long ago did you separate and how did your children cope?
What are their ages?
Do you still keep in touch with the (dreaded!) mother-in-law ?

I'm sure I have other questions, but they are the ones I can think if right now.

Thanks

I was a single mum until ds1 was 10m old and at the time I didn't mind, I don't recall missing adult conversation but lived close to family and friends and had a brilliant neighbour who came in at least once a day.

I'm about to become a single mum again but this time got three little ones and live miles away from family, but hoping to go to uni so will hopefully make friends there... haha, adult conversation atm with dh is "shut the f up", "why do you have to ask so many questions, can't you just f off". Nice! And no, I will not miss it lol

I am!
2 dd 5 and 3
split 4 years ago (when I was pregnant)
divorced 3 years ago
Get on wit h my ex now but that is only recent.His parents are ok with me as they realised he was in the wrong(alcohlic and violent)