Who are the single parents here?

[tammybear]

Was just wondering how many single parents there are on here, apologises for being nosey xx

Just checked into this thread again and realised I wasn't being entirely facetious in my last post. I think we all do an extraordinarily thing, in the main without any support or approval from society. The number of pre-conceptions that still exist about single mothers is really quite astonishing. That we're all the same type of people, for a start. That we've all become single parents for the same reasons. That we're all desperate for just about any man to take over as replacement fathers for our children (as if I'd let any man disrupt the equilibrium of my family without bloody good reason). That we're all just one step away from being unable to cope with the burden of being a single parent. All the negative stereotypes which make the actual practice of lone parenting look like a doddle in comparison to changing the perception of it. And just occasionally, we need to be reminded of what heroines we are, and how proud of ourselves we should be. I really am proud of what I'm achieving as a single mother and I hope you all are too. So consider this a reminder of your heroic status!

thats a nice post meanbean. i wear supergirl pjs in bed, so i already knew of my heroic status

I thought itd be nice for us to know who the single parents were, especially the newer mumsnetters, so we all know who we can turn to for advice and help, especially when the exps starting winding us up. maybe us single mums could remove their existence off the planet...

I am

I am with 1 DD. Technically still married as waiting for divorce to come through.

Yup add me to the list, well i will be in January, single and pregnant and much better off without exp!

me, with one dd - also technically married but waiting for divorce to come through soon!! (the sooner the better)

count me in!

me too, I also knew i was a super hero, something to do with often wearing red underpants on the outside???

Heh heh Chloe!

Hand up for me too - very often I am proud of what I achieve as a single parent (minus the red pants). x

am also a lone parent although I have a newish partner so not sure how long I can keep my single mum status.

It is odd when I first became a single mum i thought it was just about the worst thing that could happen to me. Don't want to offend anyone but was bought up in a single parent household and it was just awful, my mum made it very clear that I was her greatest regret in life. And yet now I feel resentful that soon I will loose that same label.

Not sure that I have superhero status ( do have red knickers but thats another story!!) particularly as by six pm I have usually collapsed into a heap of exhausted tears!

reporting for duty.

I have a red g-string... does that count?

I will be when I can persuade him to leave!

me too! though as the 'leaver', can't be quite as proud.. this was only after a 6 week relationship, even though he makes me feel so responsible and 'damned' for not 'deciding to love him' as he puts it.. but is a great dad and does stay over when ds is ill, so i'm very lucky.

Well yes we really should just do as we're told! Mine still refusing to budge despite repeated (and frankly some hysterical requests) to do so. Just have to wait and see I guess - it can't carry on indefinitely.

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Hello

I'm a newly single mom looking for like minded people as new friends. I live in Rugeley and I'm 29 and have a 4 year old girl. Would love to hear from anybody who would like a new friend!

Just wanted to add my name to the list of lone parents. Katy 37, mum of 4 year old boy and living in Bristol after moving from London. Left my ex a week before DS was born and never regretted it, but can't help thinking I had higher hopes for myself! Would be nice to hear some success stories from other single mums to keep me going on the bad days! There a limit to the number of times a gal can watch Erin Brockovich!!

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hi ruth01 and hairyfairy. I left my ex august last year, and live on my own with my dd who's 2. I have a dp who I have been with for a year now, and we're going to move in together next year. There are lots of friendly people on here, who are full of support and advice so you are very welcome on here. xxx

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Hi Ruth just checking in again. Thanks to Tammybear for the welcome and I'm looking forward to making lots of new friends. xxxx

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I am on my own two and have been for 4.5 years with my 2 dds aged 6.5 and 4.5.

It wasn't how I expected my life to be but it's been OK and I do feel quite heroic a lot of the time.

But have just met a really nice man for the first time in a long time. Had given up hope and wasn't sure I even wanted to meet someone but he could be quite special!! How exciting at my old age (40!!!).