So when daddys got the kids what do you doooooooooooooooooooooooooo?

[charliecat]

Because this is my first day, and im BORED.
Ive had a bath, Ive been to tescos, I even went stawberry picking. Ive cleaned the front room floor on my hands and knees and ive sat on MN for, oh a few hours.
What do you DO when your X has the kids?

Gym?
Read?
Go for a run?
Visit a friend
Swim and sauna?
Catch up on e mails?

Sleep.

Im recovering from broncitus, so run out of the question, but yep, could go for a cycle when im better. Swim, fabbo idea. Will do that next week.
My one and only friend is with her dad coz its fathers day.
I never email anyone
Yep, read half a book this morning before I got outta bed.
Keep them coming

charliecat when my dds dad has her which is very rare i never know what to do either

I guess its because it not the norm, I am used to having a 6 year old and a 9 year old round my feet.
Im glad dd2 has been at a school for a while because this quietness would be WEIRD if I was used to having a preschooler about all the time.
I cant seem to budge my backside out of this seat in front of the computer now

my dd is 6 & i find it hard when shes at her dads i dont trust him with her dont know why hes never done anything wrong when he has bothered to have her but i tend to spend alday thinking about her when really i should be relaxing & enjoying my time alone
i have friend who i one see in the week & on weekend s they do family things with there other half so its only me & dd or just me on a weekend if shes at her dads i find it quite lonely sometimes

most of the first year i cried
second year i bought a sewing machine and started to sew again - clothes, cushions. I also becgan to garden, read, go on loooong walks, began to look at my life a bit.
third year i started to study for a post graduate diploma, got an allotment, re-created my life.
Just about coming into the fourth year, i am now considering going on a date, as i have learnt to love being on my own. Ironic, but true for me at the mo.

There is so much you can do, and now you will have time for YOU! Yum to strawberry picking though

ccharlie go out fgs

Yeah, dont wanna impose on other people doing the family thing, I have gave xp a list of dos and dont.
No smoking in car.
No taking back lanes - Main roads only.
Dont leave then with ANYONE, so no shower. (Ive managed not to leave them with anyone up to this point so I dont feel that he should be leaving them with his landlady while he bugeers off for a shower.)
and ...oh what was the last thing. Oh yes.
Dont leave them near dogs. Last time he took them out dd2 came back with a tooth mark from a fecking dog hed left her with.
FGS. And the weirdly owner of the dog.
Take the child WITH YOU its not hard.
Oh Oh...rant lol

Cod, where tooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oooooooooooooooo. The pub? the pub, please tell me to got to the pub lol

Oh squidette it sounds like youve really got yourself together. Lovely

squidette good for you sounds great recon will take me 4 years to get sorted too
charliecat oh dear you need to chill really - I just enjoy being on my own TBH but exercise now features highly never did before but makes me feel soooo much better - get a hot personal trainer

having time is so strange as a Mum I also get very bored. Sunday is such a family day.

If I could afford to do something time would pass quicker, instead I am

working out finances to get us through the next month.
doing my personal filing
using my remote access into work catching up on things I was too busy to achieve during the week
reclaiming my bank charges (a very profitable exercise)

I feel
isolated
alone
desperate to 'share' with someone
old
tired
unmotivated
like crying

squidette think i need toget myself sorted like you have youve really given me the drive to move forward & get on with my life im always conplaining ive got no me time well thats cos i dont use it

Oh kaloo, dont you will set me off.
You are DOING something, thats beter than me just vegging here.
I am enjoying the peace and quiet and the birds tweeting, not sure how much i will enjoy it on a downcast day.

YES GO tot he pub
go for a swim
go and excercise

kaloo20 you have just described exactley how i feel.

Need a sunday soothing club or something we do.
I am going to look like a slapper going into a pub on my own arent I? its going to be full of familys, with mummy or daddy getting pished because they hate thier family life but dont have the balls to walk awaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyy so they get sloshed instead.
Oh My.
So i have all those feeling to come? Oh...great.

change
like crying
to
crying

Now I have two options. Either go to bed and sleep or force myself to go cycling

i think i need to buy a bike so i have that opion i usually go to bed & cry myself to sleep

Force yourself to get on your bike. Eye up all the fellow male cyclists.
Chin up, tits out.

What about going to the cinema? Get there a bit late so you go in when it's really dark so you don't feel conspicious sitting on your own.

sorry changing the subject but my dads ebay name is compo

Good one compo. Im going to write a list and stick it next to the puter for when im sitting here with nothing to do.
xp has just rang and asked why i went strawberry picking on my own...before i had the chance to answer he said fancy one of the picker do you?.
Pick you OWN feckwit.

I will force myself right now, and believe me I will feel incredibly self concious cycling on my own. I can't believe how being a lone parent (in the middle of a grim divorce) can be so soul destroying and zap all self esteem.

Ladies, I am doing this for all us, not because I want to