Advice needed re ex turning up for contact after 22months

[Anon2601]

My ex has not seen our 13yr old for 22months, I don’t have an address or contact number for him, he got the hump and cut off all contact with us in Jan 2017

He’s very controlling and manipulative, the last 3 months he’s been phoning children’s services making up allegations about me stopping him seeing his son etc, he did this again on Friday and social worker spoke to my son on the phone and asked if my son wanted to see his father and he said no

Today I had a message passed to me via ex’s father, that he will be round on Friday to see my boy, no contact details were left

I’m concerned over what’s going to happen Friday, If he turns up at my home on Friday what can I do? He’s already been informed by social worker that son doesn’t want to see him, what do I do?

I’ve just read most of this thread and it’s shocking how similar our circumstances are.
I am currently fighting the children’s father in court as he has claimed he wants full custody of our two beautiful girls after disappearing for 20 months!

It has been a length and horrible process which I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. However some advice I would give:

Save any text messages , emails and hand written notes from the father . Even if they don’t seem relevant to keep now it may do you a world of good in the future.

Make a diary log of all the attempts to contact you. Write dates and times and names of any witnesses that can confirm it. Nothing to long just make sure it’s logged.

Call the police if you feel threatened or Harrassed. If it ever goes to court and you are asked why you didn’t call them, no matter your response it will look bad in you not him.

The most important thing would be just to remain focused on your child. I don’t doubt your abilities as a mother at all but when someone is constantly trying to disrupt both your lives and honestly has no right to it can be hard to give our best to the kids. Accept help from friends and family and don’t be shy to talk to people about what’s going on.

It’s amazing what my kids father has said about me and the lengths he will go to, to make my life hell. I wish all the best for you and your child and hope that your situation doesn’t get any worse.

Just an update, he didn’t turn up yesterday, and I haven’t received any further messages,

Thanks for all your support

Xx

Glad he hasn’t and hope he leaves you alone

@Anon2601 glad he didn't show up! Can't imagine your relief