Thread #3. Fed Up With Being Chief Cook And Bottle Washer. Sunscreen.

[Solo]

I love that feeling - so happy for you

2nd date went even better than the first......hoping and praying he thinks so too......

Just got the kiss off. Asked what i’d done (nothing to lose) he said nothing, stay as you are.

Cold comfort there then. Gutted as it’s so rare I like someone.

Fos maybe it isn't the right time in your life? Isn't it upsetting to keep flogging a dead horse right now perhaps you will find a partner naturally if you e.g. join something. Are there any meet up groups where you live that interest you?

Sorry to hear.

Not been on recently life has just been busy busy busy. Work paperwork and ds. Then more of the same. All go go go and the run up to Xmas brings more things to see to also. Looking forward to a week off in between Xmas and New Year.

Thing is Polly I want someone in my life. I’ve been on my own for years now and put all my energy into Dd, I want something for me.
Everyone else seems to be able to find someone, and when you get told how they are ready to date again, spend a date together and then tell you how well you’ve hit it off together, how they’re looking forward to seeing you again, a week of messages like this til you meet up I actually thought I could begin to believe.......
More fool me, eh?

I am not convinced there are many happy endings via internet dating. More 'natural' routes e.g. hobbies and interests through evening classes, exercise classes, meet up dot com groups at least that way you are mixing and making new friends and if somebody comes along at least it is more natural and you get to know them a bit first. You also have the hobby or interest in common. Just a suggestion. You would also have the benefit of branching out and making new friends both female and male at those evenings out....?

I don't know the answer Fos

I love rurally Polly, there’s practically nothing around here, and by the time I’ve ferried Dd around for her club’s/lessons/extra stuff the School shoves in randomly there’s precious little time, energy and indeed money for extra running 10 miles down the road in either direction looking for courses/clubs. What little stuff there is around here seems to be aimed at the large retired community as it’s all done during the day.
A local guy tried to start a club recently on the playing fields in an evening. Was a great idea until the committee wanted a stack of cash and paperwork......so the fields still just get used by dog walkers and once a week footballers who moan about the dog walkers......

I see Fos yes I live in a tiny town too but at least it is near 3 small cities. I just go to my Buddhist community for meets some are in the daytime and being self-employed I can go weekly to one meet. There are weekend morning meets also but I hadn't been for years but now ds is 12 I can leave him half a day as he doesn't get up until midday or 1 pm weekends anyway (I give him some freedom Fri and Sat eve and let him stay up until 3 or 4 am!). So I am now getting to more of those again. They are all over. What about a spiritual community of some kind Fos?? To branch out and mix.... You may even be able to take the children along. Church isn't my thing but just a suggestion?? It is good to belong.

Apologies but quick vent - I saw something on this afternoons school run that was a massive safeguarding issue so I obviously mentioned it to a teacher. When I got home, the safeguarding lead called me to talk it through and log it - all fine.

However, she then told me she'd meant to catch me anyway as ExH had shouted so extremely at DD the day before that he'd been reported to the school; swearing, calling her names - don't know what as the SL wouldn't share, but she did make it clear they were wholly inappropriate for children to hear let alone have directed at them.

I wish I'd known - ExH called DD last night which is pretty much the only time he's called during the time they're with me despite it being a 6 day stretch every week. After gently talking with DD tonight, turns out he called to apologise and say he loved her and all that shit.

I hate the fact I was clueless so just left them to it even though DD was a bit tearful after (but she always is as she adores her Daddy)... I don't know what I'd have said, but something. At the same time, she's growing up and so I need to let her manage some stuff. But FFS - I'm so sad he treated her like that

I honestly wish he'd just fuck off - DC would be devestated but I'd feel a whole lot better.. arghhhh

Place marking to catch up.

Hi all! So sorry, I've hardly had a minute to myself let alone come onto Mn. All my TIO had disappeared too.

Fos he wasn't worthy of you but, the right person will come along for all of us. I've been single for over 9 years now so, I know how you feel :(

I should be doing so much here right now before going to work but, I hardly slept last night and am tempted to try to sleep for an hour.

Are you all ready for Christmas?

Hi Solo - I do actually feel ready for the first time ever.. apart from stocking bits and pieces, I've got everything. Had panic moments about Santa presents (especially my son's which ended up being bought on the other side of the country by a friend and is currently en-route!) but on the whole, it's ok.

I have my two for Xmas eve through to about Xmas day lunchtime which is the best of both really - get the the night before, the morning waking and then other than crappy breakfast, I don't need to feed them We alternate though so every other year, it's quite lonely!

Are you getting yourself a little something from Santa? I'm going to get my nose pierced again - took my original one out years ago and DD wants to get her ears done so we're going together - although probably for birthday rather than Xmas. Other than that, haven't 'got' myself anything but would like to - maybe some new books? We deserve it though which can be so tough when DC are too young to do much!

I'm just looking forward to and rest as well, if I'm honest. This cold weather and 24/7 darkness doesn't agree with me

Sorry, I've not been on; so tired these days.

No, Dd has bought me a CD. She's very generous really. shares everything. Going to mums for Christmas but, I'd rather stay home. Never mind!

Merry Christmas all.x I hope you all have a happy time.

Hello everyone. I've not been on for aaaages because I've been so busy and tired but also just run of the mill stuff nothing that needed venting.

Just popped in to say CONGRATULATIONS to all of us awesome people for making it right through to this point of the year.

I'm hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and get to relax at least a teeny bit with some family or friends.

I gave DS some money and asked him to do me a stocking so I won't feel left out when he opens his from Santa. Set him loose in the pound store so goodness knows what's in it but I'm very excited.

Happy Christmas you troopers. xx

Merry Christmas soup .

Merry Christmas to you all [santa]

Merry Christmas single parent heroes. Love to us all, and extra thought to those without their dc this Christmas xx

hi everyone. Hope you've had a peaceful day. The dc's haven't been that annoying for once, they're currently playing on their tablets so I can do as I please for a bit I've loaded the dishwasher and got some tea out.

Feels a bit easier this year. The kids happily went to parkrun first thing and they did some chores to get more tech time.

Thinking of all of us on our own

Hi all :) not a bad day yesterday. Back over to mums again shortly as it's Dd's birthday today.
Her father sent her an iPad Pro would not have been my choice; I don't like apple products.
She did quite well really out of me, her grandma and my sil/brother and her dance teacher. Lots of colouring stuff. Cheap trainers, cheap all sorts actually her main gift from me was a safety chain for her Pandora bracelet.

Did Santa bring you all anything nice?

Hope you had a nice afternoon with your dd solo. I'm not keen on Apple either. I've got an ancient shuffle I use at the gym but we have Samsung android instead.

The highlight of my boxing day was tentatively checking my energy tariff and pondering whether to fix a new one for the sake of maybe saving a fiver a month . We went for a walk too.

Happy New Year to you all for 2018! May the year be filled with sufficient income sufficient me time and plenty of nurturing and empowering friendships for us all!

Although I seem to remember I wished much the same for all of us last year lol. :)

Happy New Year to you all! And thank you Flowers :)

Meglet a fiver a month is a £60pa saving. Although I have to admit to sticking with British Gas for decades as I hate messing around; dealing with vehicle and house insurances is a PITA every year without all the other things!

Hello everyone can I join? I separated from my exh after almost 30 years in June. We have five dc and I live with the youngest two aged 22 and 14 who both have autism. I'm not finding it too difficult being a lone parent to two as it always felt like I was a lone parent to six for many years as h was and still is like an overgrown toddler. I enjoy the peace now and any stress is always caused by exh but it's easier to deal with now he doesn't live here so I just lock the door and block his number until he starts behaving like a grown up. Hoping 2018 is the year that I see far less of him than I currently do

Welcome fmc :) Happy New Year! I hope this year proves to be wonderful for you. Separating after 30 years is very brave so, good for you. We are a friendly bunch so, just post and someone usually answers.