Thread #3. Fed Up With Being Chief Cook And Bottle Washer. Sunscreen.

[Solo]

Hi Solo that was so kind of you thank you, it's nice to have some company. Sorry to hear about your tiredness that does sound hard. Hope you get some rest this weekend. I'm back in the UK now so same time zone.

Solo I think in March we are trying to get our composure from the winter phase so it is natural to feel a bit pooped. It is sure to pass.

How about some miso soup and chicken soup options for nutrition to boost the being? Covent Garden soups and crusty loaf yum yum.

Happy Mother's Day Strong Women! I hope you have a lovely day.

Solo hope your tiredness is lifting. I noticed yesterday that it was still light when I picked DD up at 6 from her after school care and that was a tremendous lift to think that the dark days are coming to an end. to all you amazing mums.

Thank you :) I'm really exhausted. It's been a busy couple of weeks and next week will be busy too...
Was busy making Dd a costume until after 1 this morning which really didn't help!

Yay! To lighter evenings too!

What costume are you making? I'm very envious of you creative types I'm hopeless at that sort of thing and end up buying from Amazon

She went as Astrid in How To Train Your Dragon 2. Looked fab if I do say so myself

Thank you, Flowers for my lovely card.xx

Well done Solo for being so creative! Pleased you got the birthday card.

I have been trying to go out with this guy recently. Perhaps this should go in the Relationships section I don't know. Anyway he keeps cancelling. I do not know what his problem is. I know he has prevailing mental health problems so I accept that and respect this. He is lucky I am so understanding. We have met up four times. We still haven't had sex. He said he wanted to 'wait' and get to know me. The last time I met him he did not hug or barely touch me or anything acted more like a friend. Then when I reminded him (that shouldn't be my job!) to give a snog at the end of the evening this he did which was fine but he still didn't go ahead and meet me on Thursday owing to hayfever. I don't see how somebody can cancel over that I really don't. It just sounds lame. Anyway I am supposed to be going out with him and his son and mine Wed over the Easter hols but I am going to cancel it as I don't feel wanted and cannot face seeing him when I am upset with him. Sorry for going on ladies but it would be nice to find a bloke who can be bothered rather than one who can't!

Men honestly. Largely hopeless - at least the single ones are - no follow through what is the matter with them!

Who on earth cancels over hayfever anyway! Sorry I banged on.

Who gets hayfever in March? Too early I would've thought . Do you think he's really into you? You deserve better.

We get hayfever early up where I live. We are more in the rural. It is a right yawn.

I like him as a person but he has no job no car and 1001 issues. I think his life is too crap for him to hook up with somebody who is quite positive and moving forward ok with life. Pity but probably for the best.

Well, yes! You don't need someone that'll bring you down... I can't imagine getting close to anyone again :( And then, I think about when Dd is off doing her own thing/uni/flown the nest entirely and I feel very lonely.

I don't feel lonely as I 'do the Buddhism' so to speak and enjoy hobbies and have a few female friends.

It is a lot easier staying single men are just too complicated and shut down. Not worth the hassle. I am even getting to the stage I don't even wish them as friends now. Just women as they talk more sense and their lives are far more organised.

Same here. Work with all men but my personal life is almost entirely female. Was dating someone for the last couple of months but he's ended it as I'm not available enough. Going to focus on my career now. Just don't have the headspace anymore.

I can't be bothered with them as I don't have time for one. Plus they're all PITA's.

I have a little time but the only ones I know are drop out types. It just ain't worth the hassle.

Meanwhile I emailed a group on meet up dot com to see if I could join them. They are called the Over Fifties group. It appears quite a few of them are retired. All I did was ask whether they were mainly retired as I did not wish to feel the odd one out. The coordinator got shirty in her reply and said I wasn't suitable. Charming!

I will just start aqua aerobics soon and continue to have barely any friends instead lol. I know plenty in the spiritual group but nobody to go out and socialise with. It is the usual non starter every year I look to see if I can find something to join and there never is. Very few groups my age group to join without feeling their aunt and I don't wish to set one up either.

It's really rotten, isn't it? I mean, there are so many of the 'drop out' types around and we are worth so much more...

It's not just my neck of the woods then that we have all these drop out men Solo perhaps it is a pandemic lol. Only strange ones left. This is why singledom is bliss just the usual bugbear of no female companions to go out with as they are all wived up.

Yes to the strange ones being left! I'm alone now for two and a half weeks as DD is with her dad. No time to myself for months then it feels like too long without her. Very hard on her I should think. Got a few things planned though as I'm lucky to have good friends. Are you anywhere near London Polly?

Hi ohamIreally no I wish I was! I used to live in London for 25 years I know it is so much better socially. The irony of the matter is I was always wived up down there, was married three times. Now I am up in the middle of the country where it is much cheaper to live but everybody married and quite traditional. I live in a small market town and although near 3 cities haven't had a relative to help me socialise all these years. Not much to join on meet up either lol. Now I have finally learned to enjoy being single and staying away from relationships I am stuck in a no win. I hope you enjoy your break perhaps enjoy a few good novels and hobbies (Netflix etc)... How on earth you can afford London on your own I cannot comprehend that is why I left after single parent ....!

Just marking a place for later

Polly that's a shame. I do think in London people are open to making new friendships as many of us are from somewhere else. I'm very fortunate to have good friends who've helped so much during my initial separation and divorce. I've also spent a lot of time thinking about the person I want to be (kinder, less selfish). Work in progress I suppose. Polly I am also thinking I will have to leave London in a few years but at the moment have a good job which kind of keeps me here.

Good for you oh yes jobs are excellent down there. Can't beat a nice dynamic CV and a fine circle of friends.