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how often does your ex see the children?

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gossipgirlxo · 03/04/2017 15:25

Hi, Just that really, how often does your ex have the children? i.e: Every weekend? every other weekend?

Just trying to sort out what is fair with EX.

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emochild · 03/04/2017 15:27

He's welcome to have them as much as he likes

Unfortunately that's maybe once or twice a year when he needs a babysitter for his step child

NameNotANumber · 03/04/2017 15:28

Open invitation to see them whenever he / they want.

DD usually goes to him overnight once a week, DS less so as he is now an adult.

Toobloodytired · 03/04/2017 15:30

My baby is a week old today, his father hasn't even tried to meet him.

mrssapphirebright · 03/04/2017 16:13

My ex has the dc 2 nights a week, all day Saturdays and half the holidays. They are 13 and 15.

SaorAlbaGuBrath · 03/04/2017 16:15

XH has DS1 EOW for one night. All that after dragging me to court to demand his "rights" and then constantly fucking DS1 about and then dropping it to a measly 24 hours a fortnight with no phone calls, texts or any other interaction with him in any sense at all (his choice, not mine) and no maintenance.

dailymailarecunts · 03/04/2017 16:15

My ex moved abroad when he found out I was pregnant. That said, he visits once a month for the weekend now (but doesn't have ds over night) he is welcome to call / visit as often as he likes but that would get in way of his love life

Matilda1981 · 03/04/2017 16:17

My ex lives 2 hours away and has them eow from Friday to Sunday eve, 2 out of the three half terms and half of the rest of the holidays. We alternate Christmas.

Brandnewstart · 03/04/2017 16:19

One night a week, either 1 or 2 nights at the weekend depending on whose turn it is. Also comes round on a Monday to see them at my house and drops them off to school one morning a week. It's actually too much for me but the kids love him and want to see him.

Sickofthisalready · 03/04/2017 18:10

See's DS for an hour or so two nights a week, takes him to nursery three days a week, and see's him for half a day at the weekend.

user1487854472 · 03/04/2017 18:25

My ex has never had our daughter alone, she is nearly 10 months old. He has open access to see her, but once a week for about an hour (when pushed) seems to be enough for him

goodthinking99 · 03/04/2017 18:47

Three nights a week, and most of the day Saturday. We've got a bit of a complicated system going but it works (mostly) for DD, exDP and me. It helps that we all live close to each other, and our respective partners do too. 50/50 was the aim, but I do more because my work is more flexible. The good thing is I get to see DD everyday (sometimes just an hour in the morning) and exDP sees her 5 days a week...to be honest I think DD has more time (and quality time) with her other parent than if we'd stayed together.

I know it's not typical but it has worked out so far.

Happydappy99 · 03/04/2017 18:50

Open invite to come round whenever he wants which normally means he does a couple of school runs a week. He also has them 1 overnight a week and every other weekend Saturday am - Monday am.

scoobydooagain · 03/04/2017 18:53

One night in the week and every 2nd Friday evening to sat lunch time. It was every 2nd weekend but ds wanted less time as got bored there,

phoenixtherabbit · 03/04/2017 18:59

Ss mum has him two nights a week when she's not off on the piss

Bythebeach · 03/04/2017 19:06

Well ex moved 3 hours away when DS was 4 and went from seeing twice a week (initially three times but he dropped it) to once every 2-3weeks for a w/e. Now though he sees him half terms and holidays for a few days at a time as DS doesn't want long visits and ex doesn't make any effort to see DS in between.

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gossipgirlxo · 03/04/2017 22:30

I've asked my ex to have da every Saturday night, due to working commitments. He's told me it's unfair to expect that from him. Is it unfair?

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user1487854472 · 04/04/2017 04:14

Unfair in what respect? Does he want more time, or does he think that it's too much?

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gossipgirlxo · 04/04/2017 07:44

He thinks it's too much

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user1487854472 · 04/04/2017 08:33

Oh that's such a shame. Some 'fathers' really are useless! One night a week is not asking too much at all xx

SaorAlbaGuBrath · 04/04/2017 09:32

Ugh one night a week is "too much" what an absolute twat.

OhDearToby · 04/04/2017 09:38

He's an idiot. One night is too much!? Surely he should be biting off your hand to see them.

Me and my ex don't have a set arrangement because we both work irregular hours. Normally he has dd 2 nights a week (one of them being Saturday so he has her Saturday daytime as well) plus does school pick up and has her for dinner a few evenings a week. In the school holidays he has her for a week or so full time.

Sometimes he goes away for work and doesn't see her for a month and some weeks he is very busy so doesn't have her (he doesn't seem to understand the concept of turning down work).

goodthinking99 · 04/04/2017 19:23

What an idiot! I'm raging on your behalf...and feel sorry for the DC. If there's two parents still around I have no idea why one of them thinks it's ok not to pull their weight. Why isn't 50/50 or as close to as possible not the norm? Totally boils my piss Angry

RueDeDay · 05/04/2017 06:54

He's a dick. My Ex has DD for 24 hours every other weekend and once a week for dinner after school. He's a dick too.

StrongerThanIThought76 · 05/04/2017 07:02

8 months and counting since my dC's saw their dad.

blueistheonlycolourwefeel · 05/04/2017 07:06

Never. Contacts me once a year on average to ask if he can see our DS but has refused mediation so we can sort it all out. Told me he was moving abroad when we divorced so there were no formal contact arrangements put in place and I have residency. He has form for being a difficult NRP and now no longer sees his older child either (my Sd).

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