Anyone elses ex hang up when they are asked a question they don't like ??

[nutcracker]

Mine does, every single time.

He just rang to speak to the kids, well 2 of them.
Spoke to them for probably less than a minute each and then asked to speak to me.

Asked if he'd had any post, then how i was and what i'd been up to, to which I relplied fine and nothing, and then he said oh i better go, your obviously in an arsey mood.

I said, what the hell do you expect me to say, that i've been out all night getting pissed, thet my life without a break from the kids for months is absolutoly fantastic, and he said well what can I do.

He then said, tell the kids i'll ring them again in a few days. So i said, when are you planning on seeing them again, and he said whats that supposed to mean, and that didn't i think he'd see them every day if he could..........erm NO.

I asked again why he can offer to take me out for meal and drinks one minute but then claim to have no money to take the kids out, and he hung up.

Meant to say, it's been 2 weeks since he saw them which was dd1's birthday.

He said he doesn't like coming here as i am less than welcoming.............tough shit.

At least your ex talks to your kids and sees them. I bumped into,(wait for this),my XPs ex best friend and he told me that XP never had any intention of sticking around as he was 'too young'. He was 24 FFS!!!
Men are shallow and want everything to be nice and simple so they don't have to think. Or work at anything.
Im in a 'Men are evil' mood tonight.

It is Dd2's and Ds's birthdays in the next few weeks and obviously xmas but i have a feeling that after that they won't see him at all and will just have the odd phonecall.

Really cannot put in to words just how much i hate him right now. My bloody brother is closer to my kids than their own dad fgs.

oh nutty, he is an arse, but i know spursmum ex is an utter tosspot, and if i ever see him i will kick his arse.

Well if you ever see my ex feel free to kick him too misdee

will do

My ex will be killed by his ex best friend as his GF has just had their baby and he can't understand how he could just walk away from his own child.

Just wait, They'll soon turn round and say that they don't want to see him!! His behaviour will bite him in the arse and you can gloat saying you told him so.

Hope so, cos he doesn't deserve them at all.

nutcracker, we have tons of conversations like this. I don't know why he bothers to ring at all - he cancels so many of his visits, doesn't ever take DS out and then calls as if he wants a nice chat. "Hi, how are you? What have you been up to" etc - and my response is the same as yours because if I didn't say 'fine' & 'nothing much' I'd end up saying what I really think (which is 'What the f do you care? If you were really interested you wouldn't have walked out on us would you, you selfish b*')

Sorry for rant - just a bit peeved today!

MIne was like this all the time, 5 years later he can now manage to say 'i have to go now' then hang up
he is interested in the kids but I'm never sure how much is just to wind me up and/or get browine points with friends/girlfriend/his Mam#

Misdee if you ever meet mine you can kick him too!

I just don't get how they can be a dad for how ever many years and then decide not to be.

It's beyond me too, nutcracker. I just don't understand how they can change their minds

misdee whilst your at it could you kick my exs arse too please?? saw the kids when they were small, then didnt coz he 'didnt have time'. now, ten years later he meets them again at a family funeral falls in 'love', takes them shopping yesterday, buys them new trainers, new mobiles ect and now believe it or not, according to the kids, he's the best daddy in the world!!

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Hey Rickman, I missed how a thread of yours turned out.. did you ask your ex about that woman he is with? Remember you were worrying about it??

Dd2 has been really quiet tonight and i'm sure it's cos of him, but she won't say.

If it was up to me i'd cut him out of their lives all together, he is just not worth it.

Makes me so mad that he makes out he is doing his best.

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Aw Glad it's sorted!!!

my ex speaks to the kids occasionally on the phone and he emails the oldest, but he has told them he is not coming back to this country , because he has nowhere to stay over here. Ermmm things like hotels and b&b's exist, just like in asia, and he forgets it was his choice to run off there and not to settle in this country.

we dont speak now at all, because i had enough of his poor me attitude, he says i have everything and he has nothing, which means i have the bills and debts and 4 kids he left behind and he has him and his newly pg gf to support while wandering about asia

he doesnt pay anything to me either

he also thinks it fine for him to start a new relationship but i am not allowed to see anyone because it hurts him

PFFFFFT!

also ds1 is 8 tomorrow, exh called him and said he would try and send him a present, which really annoyed me, because you dont say that and build their hopes up, you either send one or you dont

then he emailed me asking what i was getting ds, a psp or a ps2 so he could get him a game, starting off the email by saying " i know you dont want to talk to me"

i told him he would be getting enough games and he hasnt replied.

it would be nice if he sent him something from thailand or cambodia , that had some bloody effort put into it but i wont hold my breath

LOu!
How does he support himself?

no idea, he could be renting his arse out for all i know

lol @ him saying i have it all and he has nothing

cos i am living the life of luxury here, not!

he did complain at me one time that i should be paying the dd's for his credit cards as he and his gf were living on peanuts, adding he paid my mob phone bill when we were together

You must despise him.
I can't get my head around someone not supporting their kids-emotionally or financially.

Do your kids know about the pregnancy?

i dont despise him really, i dont think i even hate him, i feel sorry for him but more so for the kids

he blames me for the way his life is, but he chose to go away, he chose not to be close to the kids, he chose to knock up a 23 yr old he had known barely 5 minutes

yes the kids do know, i really didnt think it was something that should be hidden from them tbh, it's not a temporary thing.

they all feel like he has abandoned them for a new family, especially the oldest

and also he has made a bigger mess of his life now, because he will have 2 families in 2 parts of the world, so where can he settle and see both?

not gonna happen so my kids will suffer because he finds it too painful to see me , so he says

Bloody hell....
My dh works abroad and most of the men he works with seem to be running away from women and families in the UK.Then they meet a local (usually years younger) she gets pg and they then end up supporting her and extended family.
Sometimes they thrn move onto another one.

One of his colleagues has three different families scattered across the world.

How can people have fucked up sooooo monumentally and more importantly,discard their children along the way??

Sorry,I'm not trying to rub it in,just am aghast at how badly some people behave.

Do your think your ex is kept awake at night by his demons????

i know moondog

thing is he cant see what he is doing i dont think, because he is so caught up in himself

it's all about him

he talks to dd1 on msn from time to time, and last time she came off from speaking to him she told me he was crying on webcam (see my thread in relationships about dd1 and exh)!

now that makes my blood boil because she comes off absolutely distraught and starts blaming me and being a cow to her siblings

he never thinks, he's crying because he misses them, but he doesnt think what she will feel like seeing him in tears, and he doesnt allow himself to think he didnt need to fuck off 6000 miles to "heal himself" as he put it

he has made it worse for himself now getting this girl pg, who is 21 yrs younger than him, it's all a big car crash

he still says he is a good dad tho, i am just being blamed for not letting him be