Anyone elses ex hang up when they are asked a question they don't like ??

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Mine does, every single time.

He just rang to speak to the kids, well 2 of them.
Spoke to them for probably less than a minute each and then asked to speak to me.

Asked if he'd had any post, then how i was and what i'd been up to, to which I relplied fine and nothing, and then he said oh i better go, your obviously in an arsey mood.

I said, what the hell do you expect me to say, that i've been out all night getting pissed, thet my life without a break from the kids for months is absolutoly fantastic, and he said well what can I do.

He then said, tell the kids i'll ring them again in a few days. So i said, when are you planning on seeing them again, and he said whats that supposed to mean, and that didn't i think he'd see them every day if he could..........erm NO.

I asked again why he can offer to take me out for meal and drinks one minute but then claim to have no money to take the kids out, and he hung up.

Fucking hell.
What a selfish arse.
Don't people realise that self indulgent behaviour like this is fine if it doesn't jeapordise the emotional wellbeing of others???

Obviously not.

He will never 'heal himself' because doing so would involve facing up to his responsibilities which he obviousyl can't do.

What a twat.
I really feel for you.

i feel for the kids ,i am fine, i'm happier than ever despite the debts and the struggles

i passed my driving test and met a new guy within a week of each other in august, kids really get on with him, he always includes them in our plans (apart from him taking me away for ny and my 40th), and he is the opposite of exh

it's lovely not to be walking about on eggshells,not having to worry about what i wear or say when i am out, and i dont get a knot in my stomach when he has a drink cos i dont know which way his mood will turn

also he does things just to make me happy, with no ulterior motives, and hes a lot younger lol

my point is my life is hard, but i felt it was harder before, i dont regret it for a second, i think exh is ruining his life, and affecting hte kids( but i can try and minimise the amount of damage they will carry with them), but i dont despise him, and his private life isnt my concern.

Ah yes,I saw your threads about your great new bloke and the driving test.
Fantastic!
You sound so brave and sorted.
Your children must be very proud of you.
Wishing you all the happiness and peace that you so obviously deserve Lou.

G'night.

XXX

dunno about brave and sorted, i'm just playing it by ear really

kids alternately love me and hate me, esp dd1, but we are doing ok

thanks tho thats really really nice of you

am off to wrap birthday pressies for ds1 now

goodnight
xx

And again Lou the similarities between our ex's are staggering.
Mine is only a short bus ride away though but still can't be arsed to come and see the kids or take them anywhere, and he moaned when i said he had to buy Dd1 a birthday card of his own, he thought I would do it.

He is living in some crappy bedsit and getting incapacity beneift for his bad back and has no plans to ever return to work, doesn't think he should have to, and so has no intention of ever financially supporting his kids again, and no plans to have regular contact arrangements.

Like i said before, tbh i wish he would cut contact completely because I think it would be better for the kids at the moment, but I know he won't do that because he wouldn't be able to still speak to me then and thats what it's all still about.

Havent read all the posts but in answer to your question yes, but not just at questions he doesnt like. I called exh from hospital when our son was born January this year, his exact words were 'oh well whatever' then he hung up. He still hasnt met our son and hasnt seen our dd since 26th July last year ......................only one word for these pathetic excuses for men cant say it but begins with c and sounds like hunts

Oh yes - either hangs up or just switches his mobile off when he doesn't want to speak to me. I don't know where he is living and he doesn't work so I can't reach him any other way. He didn't turn up to see DS yesterday or last weekend either - an all too frequent occurrence. He says "I can't help it" and there is always some excuse: "car broke down", "father in hospital" etc etc. Pathetic.

I do often wonder whether DS would be better off not seeing him at all rather than being constantly disappointed.

ds1 is 8 today

exh called from wherever he is and was on the phone for 1min 30 secs to him, then ds1 gave me the phone and said he had gone so i hung up

phone rang again and exh said what is going on, like i had cut him off deliberately, then the line went dead after i said ds1 had said he had gone

i dont know if he hung up on me or the line was bad

my new bloke spent longer chatting to him on the phone this morning

mine hung up today because he had arrived home while still speaking to me & as soon as SHE (his GF / was mistress) is in ear shot, his attitude to me completely changes

arse