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OH NO a bloke has just emailed me and i am to scared to reply!!!!

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sanchpanch · 05/11/2006 09:08

basically aol sometimes send me a free, 3 day trial of there dating thing, i wouldnt normally sign up but because it was free i thought i would have a look,

so yesterday i was browsing the talent!!! and clicked a few into my favourites, thinking i would show my friends and see what they thought about the various chaps available!!

anyway one has emailed me saying i saw you put me in your favourites??? i didnt realise it would let the men know i had done this!!!!!!

and he chats a bit and asks some questions but i dont know weather to reply or not, i have been single for 15 months, and a bit scared of the dating thing. and he looks very nice and normal, maybe a bit to nice for me.

any wise words?

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7up · 05/11/2006 09:11

oooo go on just think youre doing it for a laugh, type the message and i bet you will sit there with your finger hovering over the send button! could be the man of your dreams. im off out now but il read this when back and see if you were brave enough.good luck

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sanchpanch · 05/11/2006 09:15

when is the best time to reply?

he emailed me last night at 5ish

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TitianRed · 05/11/2006 09:41

Leave it until at least Tuesday but DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! I did one of those dating things where you put an ad in the paper and it took me over a month to reply to the gorgeous man who eventually became my DH. He had moved hundreds of miles to the area for work and had been here a few months and was about to chuck it in and move back home and then we met. We are now living happily ever after. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!! Good luck. Trust your instincts.
DO IT!!!!!!

winnie · 05/11/2006 09:50

reply sandpach, you know youwant too

HappyMumof2 · 05/11/2006 10:01

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nutcracker · 05/11/2006 10:04

I have had that offer off match.com too but I think you do have to basically sign up first and then you get the 72 hours free. I was worried i'd have trouble cancelling when the free hours were up and that they would then charge my card.

SP- Definatly reply.

HappyMumof2 · 05/11/2006 10:08

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nutcracker · 05/11/2006 10:11

Yep and theirs is not a cheap site either.

HappyMumof2 · 05/11/2006 10:12

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nutcracker · 05/11/2006 10:15

LOL no thats very true, I usually either laugh hysterically or am nearly sick at the choice I get sent.

Even when I do get someone nice message me, I reply and never hear from them again, which says alot about me lol.

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sanchpanch · 05/11/2006 10:16

no it is AOL who my internet is with, i havent given credit card details as i dont have a credit card!!!!

i suppose they want to get you intrested to hope you will sign up

right i shall aim to reply tonite, i am going to meet a friend now and will get her to help me write a short reply

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sanchpanch · 05/11/2006 10:18

yeah i bet he works for AOL at is setting a trap to get me hooked!!!!!!!

but all that aside, on the looks front he is scrummy!

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HappyMumof2 · 05/11/2006 10:35

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cath29 · 05/11/2006 11:44

happymumof2 i think most of them are married or in a long-term relationship for sure

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sanchpanch · 05/11/2006 15:31

if thats the case i will gentle guide him to the sites specially set up for married men who want a bit on the side, there is enough of those sites set up, but they only want dates with women who are attached themselves, as they want no strings attached affair and dont want a single women who might ask them to leave there wife.......

i dont think it is strange, i just think it is the way of life now, people lead such busy lives especially when kids arrive, i know for sure i dont want to go out on the pull on a friday night i would rather go for a meal with my friends

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MistressMiggins · 05/11/2006 19:59

in reply to HappyMumof2, the bloke I have been seeing for about 4 mths has custody of his DD so is in the same position as us - needs a babysitter

Sanchpanch - go for i9t - look on it like a practise job interview for when the ideal job comes up

go for it girl

threelittlebangers · 05/11/2006 20:12

Hi sanchpanch- definitely reply!!!
Will you let us know if you get a reply?! [nosy]

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sanchpanch · 05/11/2006 20:25

i have just replied 5 mins ago,
i think from what i have just looked at, that he will know that i read his message at a very early hour this morning, but i havent replied until now, so i should get and email to tell me he has read my reply.
going to have no nails left from nerves!!!
i am kind of excited as well in a scary kind of way!!!

mistress miggins how is it going with your bloke, 4 months already, that has gone quick!

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expatinscotland · 05/11/2006 20:28

if anything, there might be a good shag out of all of it to get you back into the swing of things.

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sanchpanch · 05/11/2006 20:32

what a fantastic thought!!!!!!
but only if i can remember how!!! surely it is like riding a bike. ie you never forget????

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nutcracker · 05/11/2006 20:35

Good for you SP

Wish I knew what I was doing wrong, have just had yet another message off a bloke old enough to be my grandad.

MistressMiggins · 05/11/2006 20:35

its better

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sanchpanch · 09/11/2006 20:37

ok so we have been exchanging some lovely emails, and i get so excited when i see he has mailed me!!!

how long does this go on for, do wee have an internet relationship forever?????

i so badly want him to ask me out, i wont ask him...... i know it has only been a week, but if we carry on emailing i wont have anything to say to him when we do finally meet.......
i havent done this before so i dont know

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7up · 09/11/2006 20:41

hes probably thinking the same as you sandpanch!one of you is going to have to bite the bullet and do the asking. if it was me id suggest it to him,if hes been emailing all week he'll say "yes"

let us know,cause im nosey and dont have a life of my own

lou33 · 09/11/2006 20:43

ask him out and get his mobile number, then you can chat on hte phone before you meet