So tired of it. EA ex and i split up when dd was 11months, she's 2 and a half now. I have worked hard to be distanced from him as he was very controlling and wore my 'me'ness away. He did some awful psychological mind games on me. A narcissist .
He suddenly wants me to 'go to counselling' with him( he refused when i wanted to in early days of split), and infers i don't deserve the money. He has stopped payments and says he will give me a bit of cash if i have a bill i can't pay.
I know I could go the csa route, but he is very well off and self employed, he can hide his income as a lot is cash.
just fed up with this attempt to get back in control of me and dd as i am not 'doing as i am told'. Plus i am financially counting on it to move further away (we live round the corner from our old family home and it is not ideal)
I was having a lovely life with dd, the relief from no eggshells underfoot was amazing, everything was in full colour again. Bugger.