Just broke up with DP - he wants DS EVERY weekend. How do I stand?

[sadtallmummy]

My DP and I have a 14 month old son. DP has dumped me as he says he doesn't want to marry me etc etc.
He lives in London
I live in the country
He used to spend part of the week with me/us.

He announced that he wants DS all weekend, every single weekend. He says that its only fair because I "get him all week". However I do actually work during the week (albeit mostly from home) but it's not really the same as being free at weekends!

1. I think he is too little to spend a night without me every single week (plus I'm still breastfeeding)

2. I want to enjoy him at weekends too! I want to take him to do fun things, see my friends, etc

I said to DP that of course I want him to see DS as much as possible, and have suggested he have him one full day every weekend, and once he's old enough, both days every other weekend.
He can come and see him whenever he wants during the week.

DP doesn't accept this and is insisting on having him both days, every weekend, now.

I am very upset and worried that I might lose access to my son at weekends.

Surely if DP was so keen to see his son he could move out of London to be nearer him and see him in the week? There are jobs for him around here.

Please help - thank you.

I have only just joined today as am so fed up and am desperate to get some other mum advise. How do I start a new thread? thanks

Hi Linz, you can start a new thread by clicking on "Start new thread in this topic" in the bar under the header "Topics >> lone parents"

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