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i need some advice about my new relationship and my daughter

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lilworthy · 10/12/2013 14:33

can any one give me some advice about my new relationship. do you think it was too early for my boyfriend to meet my daughter only after a month. my daughter loves him. and her dad did the same. so im confused her dad cant say nothing as he did the same. but i would like someones views on it. no negative comments please

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EirikurNoromaour · 10/12/2013 19:43

You can't ask for advice but stipulate no negative comments, especially since you interpret not agreeing with you=negative.
You made a bad decision. It was wrong of you. That's my opinion. Don't engage with your dd if she asks about him, play it down, don't be physically affectionate with him in front of her if you happen to bump I to him in town, that's my advice.

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JanineStHubbins · 10/12/2013 19:44

Well that's not what you posted on your other thread, I'm afraid. It has suddenly gone from 'under a year' to four weeks.

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lilworthy · 10/12/2013 19:46

This was a while ago now.

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lilworthy · 10/12/2013 19:48

I dont anyway.

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KingRollo · 10/12/2013 19:48

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sutekidane · 10/12/2013 19:51

I think this is all a bit of a bollocks thread really. The other thread says you have had relationships since your ex as he threatened one of them. It also says your ex was with his gf for months before she met your dd not weeks.

Bullshit bullshit bullshit. :)

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lilworthy · 10/12/2013 20:40

I had one relationship after my dds dad and he did threaten him that was 4 years ago

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lunar1 · 10/12/2013 20:43

What did you want people to say?

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theendoftheendoftheend · 10/12/2013 20:46

I think if you've known this guy for a year and he has only met your dd as one of your friends, its no big deal. Just keep it as that for a few months and see how it goes.

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DioneTheDiabolist · 10/12/2013 20:51

Op, your DD meeting your BF after a matter of weeks is too soon.

But you say that she has only met him once in town and he's played with her one time. She doesn't love him. He doesn't love her. The best thing to do is not invite him round again when she is there. Give it at least 3 or 4 months and then re-introduce him slowly. Say once every 4-6 weeks until you have been together for much longer.

Do not risk your DD's happiness and stability. Back off and take it slow.