Facing pregnancy alone?

[thedogsrolex]

There seem to be quite a few threads lately posted by women facing pregnancy alone for whatever reason. I was thinking maybe it would be a good idea to have one ongoing thread for support and advice...what do you think? I know it would have helped me way back when I had dd? (apologies if there is already one, I haven't come across it).

Thank you, its lucky i decided today was a new start and achieved loads, he is not knocking me down today !!
Hope we are all well x

Hi all

I had pre term labour AGAIN last night. I am on my knees and desperate now and the hospital does nothing but says I'm not dilating and give me pain relief and it usually goes off after about 12 hours.

This cannot keep happening, last night I had spotting and lost fluid first so really thought, this is it and my pelvis was agony, texted ex p he came over, we called and ambulance and at one point really thought I was going to deliver in the lounge just to get to hospital and find that all they say is she's low and her head is pushing.

This is not normal and every time it happens I have to find someone to have the dog, someone to take me the hour to hospital and go through the mental torture of newborns and a maternity ward after having previously lost a baby, it's horrific and I just cannot take anymore!!! I posted a thread but it doesn't seem like many people have had this so not much response.

I just need to clarify that I am not a woos for pain, these are not brixton hicks or twinges, they are full on contractions which are visible to the doctors and last night they were every 2 minutes!!!

Please someone help :-( xx

Skye and notgeoff will be able to help and midwife99 is really great too
They will be along soon im sure

Actually I was just googling for info! :)

Not something I have experienced, Flumpy - I did pull an abdominal muscle at 36 weeks and that was bloody painful - I rang the maternity unit as I thought I was in labour.

What you are experiencing sounds very painful and scary.
Not sure if this is at all useful to you
Something about different/new medication here too.

I think you need to get in touch with your midwife/GP as a matter of urgency to discuss this. The above might give you some things to bounce off your midwife/GP in terms of assessment and potential treatment.

Hope you can get something sorted out very soon.

How is everyone else?

Ive Another bladder infection, baby's head dropped very very low. 50% chance waters have gone as baby's head is so low they can't be sure and I felt a gush really late last night so if they did go no evidence left at the moment because baby is blocking the view. Pain is false contractions combined with my bladder again. They Think the cause is stress. I now have to wait to see another doctor...
I only came for a consultant appointment...

Blimey Flumpy and Pickles - I really hope you are both ok. Flumpy font take any crap, if you are worried then go in or go to AandE.

Thinking of you both

I can go home now but have to come back at five to get more antibiotics.
It's a half hour drive and when the MW said to get my partner or friend or someone to pick it up I've broken down

Pickles at least things are now sorted out, which is good. Please do reach out to one of your RL friends - they will be happy to help you, I am sure.

I'm on and off here this afternoon, but will check messages etc. later on this evening. Got to go to someone's house this evening, but that will be early.

Please keep us all posted.

Same goes for you, Flumpy

My goodness, its all happening isnt it. Good luck flumpy and pickles, be strong and push to be at the hospital if that is where you will feel safe. I heard that midwives will be supportive if they know that you are without a partner at birth! I had MW apt today, I have been massively angry the past 24 hrs and both mine and babys heartrates were up - oops- Baby starting to engage now.

Reason for anger is I suddenly realised that I am the one who is going to have to tell DD that her father did not give enough of a shit about her to see her be born. Selfish bastard or what!! I have had such a strong urge to text him the past two days to just ask if he can look in his childs eyes in the future and say because he was a selfish twunt he refused to be at her birth...but I haven't as cant face barrage of abuse!

Thank you everyone

wow, I never imagined this thread would actually take off, been away from mn for a while. Glad to see it's a help to folk....i've only skimmed so far but good luck to all you lovely ladies

Flumpy, I hope you are doing ok xx

Skye

I'm ok just mentally and physically exhausted and fed up that none of the health professionals seem to have any answers and that I'm just expected to continue going through the contractions and just be grateful that the fibronectin test is negative so looks like she'll stay put a little longer. I don't want her to be premature - of course not but my god to keep having this pre term labour is wearing me down!!

Ex-p has been good but I think it's giving me false hope for the future. I keep forgetting that he could just turn and cut contact again!! But when he's there striking my face and rubbing my back I just fall apart

How are you? x

Stroking!

I'm glad you corrected that Flumpy, two very different meanings, lol.

I'm glad you are ok, sorry you are in so much pain. I really hope that baby stays put as long as possible. Get plenty of rest.

It's all gone quiet on here, is everyone ok? Xx

Im 7cm pickles baby on way

Oh wow pickles, how exciting!!!

How are you doing? Who's there with you??

So excited can't wait to hear name and weight and that you're all ok :-) xxx

Wow Pickles. Good luck to you. This is do exciting for you, you are going to meet your DD snd everything will be worthwhile

Xx

good luck Pickles!! thinking of you xxx

Ooh Pickles!

I'm out for a while this morning, catching up with a friend. MIL is having DD for a few hours so I can have a conversation without saying, "No, don't put that in your mouth. No, don't climb on that. No, don't put that over there. No, don't pull that...." (Unless the friend I'm meeting is really badly behaved!)

Go, Pickles!! All the best xx

Baby pickles is here she's amazing

Congratulations!!!

How much did she weigh? xx

Whoo hoo! That was quick!! and thanks for finding the time to update us!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!