Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 31)

[Hatesponge]

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took - you dont get it all !

the fella in question i met while on this thread. he had a nickname and all, and these things i have posted are part of what has gone on in my journey dating him.

and of course. i am the bully, yet you were the one who started started name calling in the style of a teenager.

grow up, get a life that does not revolve around men and whinging. But you wont.

so I will fuck off, enjoy the thread.

and my exhusband being away was a part of my journey of not dating.
what you posted was nothing more than a rant, and thats fine. its no different to what i posted.
Ive said, and i think lots of others have said that off topic is fine.. its only you that has a problem with it.. i was just showing that you have posted stuff off topic as well.

i hardly think you need to say to me i need to grow up and get a life that doesnt relvolve around men when you are the one 'dating' only days after spiliting up from your last 'fella' because it seems you cant spend any time on your own.

My life does not, and never has relvolved around men, and my winge about not having any time to myself is partly my own fault. becuase dd;s dad is away i put her and her needs first and above my own. if my life relvolved around men id be palming her off on anyone just so i could continue dating.

snape, :( really really sorry. and i totally understand. totally. and its not wallowing at all. I expect we all feel like that sometimes. Even if some of us find it hard to admit it.. and theres no shame in admiting that either. Do you think you can continue to be such close friends with him?

no. i don't think so. he's going in to hospital for an operation soon though. general anaesthetic. i'm freaking out about that anyway and he's asked me to be his 'looker-after' so he can be discharged. don't want to let him down about that. will miss him horribly horribly much, but i guess when/if he meets someone, i'll need to back off anyway.

god, big stupid horrible fucking mess. spose i should talk to him about it.

took

a) we seperated about 2 months ago, but we were tied in a lease in our house.

b) see above post. it isn't actual dating.YOU STILL DONT GET IT. maybe you never will.

oh and no, i cant spend anytime on my own. of course

maybe someone who has met me in real life can set you straight on that. As your obviously not going to believe me.

i am obviously dillusional when i go cycling, cinema, theatre, holidays , etc on my own.

Hmmm. Thought you said you were fucking.off?

Snape, that's kind of you to he his looking after person. I don't know what to say really... I cant be friends with mr big. It hurts too much even though I miss him... but equally I won't be with him either... I think.I.just got to the point where talking to him, while I loved it, afterwards was making me feel crap. I don't get the highs.now either, but its better without the lows. Stay I'm bed. Eat chocolate :)

still in bed. no chocolate in house. no return text from PM, who is in all probability still asleep. low, low, low.

need to take DSs to shops. funny how I'm feeling the absolute weight of being a single parent just now, arguably wouldn't be quite so fucked up and hence alone if i didn't have kids....but the only actual reason i can think of for getting out of bed is to do something with my boys.

Again, totally understand where your coming from with that. Vicious circle sometimes isn't it. Dd is why I wouldn't be with.Mr big and I refused to comprise.. she is and always will be the most important thing and I.love spending time with her, she's excellent company ,)
I think its totally normal and fine for the weight of being a single parent to weigh heavy sometimes. That's how I felt Friday. But you know you Will be ok tomorrow because you have to be :)

I'm officially declaring may as ' I'm amazing May' which Will involve a whole lot of nice things for myself :) and if will be a good kick off to what promises to be an excititing and jam packed summer. You should do the same!

Took-thought u said u were leaving yesterday?

I think you have taken it all way out of proportion and obviously is the sort of person who can never be wrong, what was all that about competition? No one was try to compete who has the shittest life just telling you that people understand how it is when you dont get time away from dc's. And now all of a sudden you have changed your tune and life is wonderful!

If you have drove nmn away with your posts its a shame cos she is a lovely, fun lady with lots to share, who always looks on the bright side of life whatever shit she has going on.

And generaly I do to. I had a bad day. A day. I'm not always low. It's a rare thing.
Everything is fine now. I only needed to go ' fuck it, It's shit' then it was out of.my system.

And don't try and.make out I'm the one making something.of nothing. I was told I had offended people by moaning when people have.it worse than me. Then I was told.off for posting off topic.

I wasn't the one throwing a strop because I didn't.like the thread and then attacking those I'm it. If nmn always looks on the.positive why didn't she see the good in the thread rather than start throwing her weight around?

But we were also giving you advice on how you could change your situation, and you got all stroppy about that, no one was attacking you and every little thing was taken as a negative. Like when I said it would be good to have to more dating stories, that wasnt a critism that people were boring just that I like hearing other peoples dating stories!

No, there was no advice just a ' I don't get any weekends free, your post is grating on me' followed by an attack on the whole thread.

If you don't like it, don't read it.

rubbish there was advice given, about getting out and doing stuff but you had an answer for everything. And yes I did say your post about having no child free weekends did grate on me a bit and explained to you why but you just seemed to think it was a competition. Read back and you will see I didnt once say you shouldnt feel down about it but if u thought about how lucky you are to get 'some' weekends rather than 'none' you might feel differently about it.

Im not going to leave the thread as you seem to be implying as I intend to be dating and want to come here to discuss it, as this is what this thread is about, unless im mistaken?

Wtf is going on here ffs! This is shit. Think i will hover more in cooking threads from now on. This thread has got stupid

the patronising advice was to do free activities or to meet people for coffee. and yes ive got an answer becuase ive either already done those kind of things 100x over. or they are just silly ideas when as lone parents surely you should understand how difficult it is to get out and about.
I leave for work at 8am. i pick dd up from school at 3:10, arriving home myself from work at 3.05pm. We then have to walk the dog/do homework/afterschool clubs then its dinner/bed/bath. I have noone to babysit in the evening. so when during that am i meant to meet somone for a coffee?

I will not consider myself 'lucky' that at the momment i get no break, but that in the past i did. DD was made with two people and there should be two people looking after her. It is not bad of me to occassioanly have a bad day when the whole responsibilty of that is falling onto me.

i think we shall have to agree to disagree and that you shall have to mind your tongue. you cant go around snipping at people because they say something that 'grates' on you. other posters may have said things that i dont agree with, but you know, ive got enough manners not to be so rude or cause a huge row about it.

I am going to catch up and update in a few days. I can't do this bitterness atm

WTF?
NMN - please don't 'fuck off' from thread, you're the life and soul on here

TKFS - I find your tone extremely offensive and tantamount to bullish. Perhaps you should 'look at that'. You obviously have issues which you bring on here, that is certainly not what this thread is about.

I would continue, but I'm too polite other than to say to you Took, grow up, and as Betty pointed out you did say yesterday that you were leaving the thread so.... it's your call I guess.

Btw, for your information Took I haven't had a childfree weekend since last October, I haven't had maintenance for 6 years, I work full time with a full on commute at the beginning and end of each day. I don't have much salary left to play with either after paying my own mortgage and bills and feeding, educating and clothing the dcs.

I love my dc's and wouldn't change things. I'm happy most of the time and to me they're worth it.

Took, I would 'mind my tongue' as you put if i actually had something to mind my tongue for and If I want to say something I will do. Completely agree with Monty, you need to grow up. I have manners, and have tried to be polite about it, as much as i can.

same here monty, i work full time 9-6 every day, Im lucky in that I get regular maintenance and the odd weekend free (like 4 times a year), and have a fab mum that will have my girls on odd nights :) I love my dd's and wouldnt change things either!

Exactly Betty. Missed the 'mind you tongue' comment lol

so now you are insunating i dont love my child because i had one bad day?

bloody hell.

betty, i could say your post grates on me because i dont have a fab mum who will have my DD on the odd night. Because that is what you said to me and how all this stupidy started.

Its just bloody ridiclous. its not a game of who has it the worse you know. and everyone is allowed to have a bad day.
prety much everyone on this thread has, at somepoint posted off topic and i do not understand how come ive been singled out.. was it because i argued back?

Took Betty considers herself lucky to have her mum, see post.

It's not a competition.

why does my post grate on you, im not moaning about anything! i was just replying to montys post, no one has insinuated you dont love your child! fgs

I didn't hear anyone say that either, just a convo between Betty and myself about loving dcs and what we do for them as a natural course.

it grates on me for the same reason that mine grates on you.

can you not see that this is just silly?
mine pissed you off because i was fed up with not having any kind of break.
yours has just pissed me off because i dont have a fab mum to help me out.

( i am of course making this up. i do have a mum. but she doesnt have dd for me.. and im not pissed off about your post becuase im not hyper sensitive about it)

what im saying is, literally anything somone posts could piss someone off. You chose to take offence by my winge and i defended that.

you cant go around telling people not to post things becuse they might offend someone ( i think it was nomeansno that said that) thats just silly. and how would you even be able to prempt what may or may not offend somone.

End of the day everyones situations are different and its stupid to judge, to think you have it easier or worse... I was just having a shit day, and as ive pointed out, most of us, at some point have posted off topic and had a bit of a moan. i really cant believe all this argument has happened because of this. its stupid.